Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck discusses something that many successful people struggle with – Imposter syndrome.
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Dec 23 2021
Are You Doing That ONE BIG THING Or Are You Merely Talking About it? – Vol. 564, Dec. 23, 2021
Are you one of those people that are continuously telling the world that this one thing (whatever that thing is for you) is the most important thing in your life, and yet…you are not doing whatever it takes to make it your reality?
I have a client who is a singer. She and her family have invested all that they have into her singing career and yet, it has yet to take off. One of the issues that certainly got in the way was what I like to affectionately call “The C-V-D Crap” meaning the shutting down of normal human business.
However, there was something else that was getting in her way that had nothing to do with the current issues of the day and that would be allowing her emotional energy to be wasted on people who were just not worth it.
Many times we humans find ourselves in relationships with destructive people. They can be people who have mental health issues that take away their ability to have empathy for another, finding multiple ways to abuse, dismiss, and manipulate another for their own entertainment.
There are other people that find their ways into our lives who are what I call “leaches” others call them “psychic vampires” as they suck all your energy from you with their neediness.
Neither of these types of people is going to do anything but squander your own emotional energy on their actions and reactions to you.
If you have a very important goal, something that is so very important to you that you are constantly telling the world about it, how about you do some house cleaning in relationship to the people that you are squandering your emotional energy on?
How about you be very mindful of those with whom you choose to engage?
How about taking responsibility for who it is that you are allowing into your world?
For this particular client, she had one choice to make if she wanted to allow her singing career to take off. That one choice was to block any and all contact with the individual and all the others that were a part of his family and his friends from having any contact with her as any time there was contact, it sent her into a very destabilized emotional condition. A destabilized emotional condition means that one is unable to think clearly and unemotionally when it comes to getting the work done that needs to be done to achieve one’s goals.
Now, this was not something that was easy for her because there were all sorts of exchanges that needed to happen in terms of his receiving something she had, and he returning something to her and yet, given that this is all a game for him being the person that he has shown himself to be, it was evident that it wasn’t about the ‘things’ for him. Not at all. It was about the emotional games he was able to continue to play on my client – and so it needed to end regardless of the ‘circumstances.’ Because there will ALWAYS be circumstances that need to be contended with until we understand that the circumstances are just a part of the overall manipulation – and the only way to end all of that is to realize it for what it is and let it all go. Block the person(s) from your phone – your phone company can help you do this, and block them from all your social media – and then and only then will you be emotionally stable enough to think clearly and deliberately about that which you say is the most important thing in your life.
Only then will you be able to take the steps necessary to make that important thing a reality for you. Only then…will you at long last feel calm…and of course, that would be enough to take these necessary actions. But, if you are out there telling the world that this one thing means more to you than anything else such as my client’s career in singing – well, best you put your emotional energy into making that happen because otherwise you are fooling yourself and making a fool of yourself at the same time.
Most people do want to be supportive of their friends and family making their goals in life. However, to be able to truly be supportive of a loved one, that loved one needs to demonstrate that they are serious about attaining their goal, with their total energy being placed on meeting that goal.
When one is endlessly complaining about how others are causing distractions or worse abusive manipulations – well, till that situation is taken care of it will be very hard to expect anyone to really take you seriously, because you are not taking yourself seriously.
We all need to simplify our lives when we have true dreams that we want to live out. And, that indeed includes leaving those who are distractive personalities so we can focus on what truly matters to us the most – it is the only way to reach your own fulfillment =contentment=happiness=peace=calm.
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Dec 20 2021
Claim Your Excellent Life #352 – Why We Need To Get Out of Our Comfort Zones
Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her opinion on why it’s important to get out of your comfort zone.
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Dec 16 2021
What Are The Causes of “Behavioral Dysregulation: How to get them checked out – Vol. 563, Dec. 16, 2021
Today, I received a message from a very good friend of mine regarding ‘dysfunctional behavior’ in a friend’s son. Unfortunately, this behavior landed his female friend in the hospital.
So, we are going to attack the issue of ‘dysfunctional behavior’ and what can cause it so that you can have a better understanding of what needs to be investigated to get to the root cause because behavioral changes are indeed a strong indicator that something could be going very wrong from a myriad of causes.
First, depending on the age of the person involved and what drugs are illicit and licit, drugs can indeed cause one to act out in dangerous ways. Antidepressants have a black box warning on them where teens are concerned because they can and do cause suicidal and homicidal behavior.
I have also had a client in my hypnosis practice years ago who was showing two distinct personalities – one was very calm and lovely, and the other very angry. It was indeed the antidepressant that she was on that was the cause of this interesting and scary phenomenon.
I had two brothers who had smoked marijuana at two different times who both had very severe paranoia and anxiety as side-effects. This was before the legalization of medical marijuana – however, one needs to understand that these days there are many substances that can be cut into the marijuana that could be poisonous to the brain. Just because something seems ‘natural’ does not mean it is. And, also realize that there are many natural substances that are indeed poisonous to humans – some types of mushrooms, berries, and other plants.
If a person is around 20 years old, psychotic events can occur for the first time so mental health issues are something to be evaluated for.
Bleeds and blockages of blood in the brain can cause emotional outbursts as well depending on where in the brain the bleed or blockage occurred. My own father lost his impulse control after suffering some mini-strokes before the one that took out his entire brain. He would make very demeaning comments about how others were doing whatever – such as square dancing making the wrong steps, or just being mean to my mom for no reason.
Lack of certain nutrients can also cause neurological problems such as not having enough vitamin B12 which can also cause brain fog, depression, and other symptoms.
Older people who act behaviorally dysfunctional ways could be suffering from Altzimers even as early as the early and mid-50s. The person with Altziemers is easily agitated, and many times frightened by that which they can no longer understand so may act out in hitting or biting. I experienced this situation while I was doing home care for elders needing to stay with one such client. She really needed some sort of tranquilizer to help her to calm down but her family was against it. So, happened that I was uncomfortable taking care of a woman who was running out into the street and trying to hit me so I had my bosses take me off the case. The next day one of my co-workers was bitten by the client – so truly – we need to understand that if a client is this agitated, sometimes medication is in order to help them to calm down and feel a bit safer.
So, be mindful that when a person is acting in abnormal ways, that there is most likely a medical issue involved that needs to be resolved.
NEVER fault a person for their behavior. Instead, investigate the causes for that behavior and do your best to help them get it resolved. Because, just as no one is blamed for developing cancer or other physical health issues, no one should ever be blamed or made fun of for having mental health issues either – especially when we understand that the brain is where the emotional issues are going to be processed and brought out in the behavior in any case.
Dec 13 2021
Claim Your Excellent Life #351 – How To Hire A Hypnotist
Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her advice on the best way to select a hypnotist.
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Dec 09 2021
Dissociative Personality Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder) Found In Those with Anorexia & Bulimia: How these disorders develop & how to best treat them Vol. 562 – December 9, 2021
Dr. Brewerton, an expert in the treatment of those with both dissociative personality disorder (formally known as multiple personality disorder, and anorexia and bulimia delivered a seminar on how to best help these clients heal. He also gave some He gave some really staggering statistics to set the context.
The Journal Neurosciences reported that every 9 minutes child services provider finds evidence for child abuse.
1 in 53 boys assaulted by an adult.
66% 12-18
34% under age 12
Only 7% are strangers so 93% of the perpetrators are known by the abused person.
The earlier the abuse occurs the more likely dissociation will occur – Identity disorders and somatic occurrences.
Depression including suicidality and mood swings and dissociative amnesia was found in these patients.
Putnum reported back in 1976 that anorexia and bulimia are very common symptoms in these 1st 100 cases of multiple personality disordered people with which he worked.
There have also been high levels of dissociations in those with bulimia and eating disorder pathology. In Europe as well.
Suicidality and self-mutilation are done during dissociation.
Regarding the Covert Multiple Personality Disorders – the effectiveness of treatment is far from desired.
Psychopathology due to multiple personality disorder – 1990
Jim Locke has found that during his family-based treatment in those with anorexia, 75% of them had multiple personality disorders associated with binge/purge, restriction, and sexual promiscuity.
In a 1993 paper Andre Levin et al. paper they had found that little research had been done in children with multiple personality disorders and eating disorders.
These papers were written shortly before Dr. Brewerton worked with Sylvia, his very first patient with Multiple Personality Disorder.
The 3rd Wave of Women’s Study found that bulimia patients had amnesia of traumatic events. Binging and purging patients had much more amnesia than others.
The earlier the age the more likely the patient is to have Dissociative disorders. This is because the dissociation facilitates numbing with eating disorders -Bruer & Freud made this observation in one of their papers a long time ago.
2021- Harvard had noted that those being treated at McClain Hospital had distorted body perceptions in women with multiple personality disorder (now known as a dissociative personality disorder).
A dissociative personality disorder is a psychobiological disorder associated with childhood abuse. The elevated idea of a heavy body with the
distorted body perceptions elevated came from the abuse that these patients experienced leading to their distorted cognition which needs to be treated.
Because we now understand that the abusive treatment that these patients experienced caused these psychological issues an Integrated approach to their treatment is necessary. This means that the traumas from the abuse need to be addressed for true healing to occur. This is something that I have realized through the work that I have done with my many eating-disordered clients. The root cause of their problem was indeed the traumas that they endured that led to all the other symptoms that were presenting.
Along with the traumas needing to be addressed, the person also needs to deal with healing their inner child, do the forgiveness work toward those who harmed the patient as well as teaching them healthy emotional boundaries. It is a multipronged approach that I take with all my eating-disordered clients. So, far I have not had any eating disordered clients that presented with multiple personality disorders.
The more interesting aspect of dealing with patients with multiple personality disorders is that each personality serves a specific purpose in the patients’
identity, so it is very important to allow each to know that they will be present with the integration into the whole.
Bethany Fran of the University of Maryland Towson in Harvard Review noted that multiple personality disorder (DID) has been described for 100s of years as being diagnosed in clinical systems in and out-patient programs as well as community centers and has been found in populations all over the world with the exception being Antarctica.
Going forward, we need to understand that in any patient that demonstrates both eating disorders and dissociative personality disorder that the underlying way to healing has got to include the work of healing the traumas that these patients have endured along with the sensitivity of the place each of the personalities takes in helping these patients to cope. Integration can indeed be achieved but only by letting each of the personalities know that they will still be serving their purpose in the operation of the patient.
The other really important piece of information shared was that it was the psychiatrists who misdiagnosed or were unwilling to diagnose their patients with dissociative personality disorder, maybe because many of them fail to recognize it as a real diagnosis. So, the level of degrees really does not matter in these cases. It is much more about the understanding of the various psychiatric symptoms and how to appropriately diagnose a person first. Second, is the sensitivity and willingness to treat the whole person going back to the abuse history to achieve true lasting healing for the patient.
To see the documentary of Sylvia’s treatment go to:
Nov 25 2021
Is It Wrong for A Person Training To Become a Therapist to Go to Therapy Themselves? Vol. 561, Nov. 25, 2021
This was a question that a person on Quora asked and one that I do believe everyone should know the answer to because it is inherant on those seeking therapy to understand why it is important of one who is going to be employed to do therapy on others to go through their own therapuetic process.
I would have to say that the most competent therapists (healers) are those who have done their own healing processes. Because it is really impossible to understand what your patients are dealing with in that sort of relationship till you have found your way through it yourself.
The problem with too many mental heatlh providers is the fact that they have yet to heal their own issues, bringing them into the therapy with their patients to have truly damaging breaks in boundaries, personalizing things that are not personal, being triggered by the issues their patient raise, projecting their issues onto their patients, or creating very sick co-dependent relationships believing that they are only worthy to the degree that they are needed by their patients for their help.
Look, I have been in this game for nearly 30 years and the best healers are those that are willing to do their own work first – before deciding that they have the right to invade another person’s thinking processes. Because one can’t help another till one helps themselves and even then this work is for a minority of people given the traumas and situations that our clients bring to us to be healed.
So, the best healer is a healed healer. There are others who feel differently – but if you were to ask their patients about the care that was given you would hear the critiques such a the ones I listed above by their patients – because that is how their patient became my client.