Jan 13 2022

Men: 3 Ways Your partnership Will Fall Apart – Vol. 564, January 13, 2022

This is an article that I posted in my social media platforms, but one that I know the men on my subscriber list may find very helpful. So here it is: 

Sometimes relationships break apart without us even knowing it.

It’s very common for men to not even understand why it happened for years to come after these relationships end.

Hi everyone, My name is Suzanne.

I’ve seen many relationships fall apart quickly with the partners getting hurt because of preventable problems they could have avoided with just a few small changes.

In life, many of us desire to have a meaningful partnership with someone special. We find ourselves in a wonderful relationship and for some time it is working out great…and then something seems to change, yet we are not really sure what that thing may be.

Before we know it, that person we used to have a great life with is no longer the person we fell in love with, and things start to fall apart fast.

That’s why I wanted to share 3 things that destroy relationships.

No one is perfect, and no one is without their idiosyncrasies. That being a given, it is time for each of the parties in the relationship to acknowledge their own part in the communication that is causing the ill will and do what is necessary to understand from where it is coming and clear it out from there.

Many relationships can be healed when each party takes responsibility for their part in the matter. However, for that to work, each party has to understand what they are communicating and why that communication is occurring.

This is how my marriage of over 20 years ended.

It started very well as most loving relationships do.

What happened was that over time, the perfect relationship began to corrode.

By the end of it, my then-husband was not coming to bed at a reasonable time any longer and was not even interested in having dinner together. He was no longer happy in the marriage.

From my point of view, I was also miserable with this behavior and did not really understand it, until he told me that it really bothered him when I went on my hypnosis and NLP training trips some of them lasting a few weeks at a time across the country. He never told me as I was making these journeys, only after he had asked me for a divorce.

I can honestly tell you that though he had felt this way about my training trips, I was not going to stop making them because this was where I was able to get the best training for my chosen profession and this is the manner in which these training were offered.

If we were to save this marriage, these are the problems that IF we had worked on, would have helped us most:

1. Controlling your partner kills the relationship.

One thing that many men miss, that will often not be communicated by your partner is that they might be feeling controlled.

Even if you don’t feel like you are doing this when one person feels they have all the control in the relationship, the other partner begins to feel dismissed, their feelings not mattering, and after a while, resentment builds up. This is but one way that relationships go sour.

That’s why you have to make sure your partner feels valued, respected, and an equal partner in the decision-making process. Find some time to speak to your partner about their ideas and suggestions.

I would say this is the main problem that killed our relationship because my ex did not support my own professional growth. While I went to all his art conventions and photography events he never liked me going on my training trips and never made any effort to show any interest in my goals and interests of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).

2. Not spending quality time and having fun anymore.

There is also another rather insidious issue that lurks in many relationships and that is where the couple has stopped doing those things together that they once enjoyed. It’s really important to understand if you are currently spending enough time and effort to be with each other or if the relationship is solely based on convenience and logistics.

It is imperative that couples take the time to enjoy one another’s company regardless of other concerns be it children, parents’ health, work, or other friendships. Relationships need constant nurturing or they will most certainly die.

By the time we split up we had stopped spending quality time together for 10 years. Instead, my then-husband was hiding out in his studio or doing his own thing. Not even interested in having dinner together.

3. Taking your partner for granted.

The last situation that kills relationships is that of taking one another for granted. No one owes anyone anything in this life. So, if your partner is making dinner, cleaning the home, working long hours to bring in the income — whatever the situation is in the household, these gestures need to be acknowledged and thanks are given.

Demonstrate to your partner that you appreciate them. Ask how your partner loves getting your thanks.

Verbally thanking them.

Giving gifts.

Services and help.

Physical gratification or anything your partner says will make them feel appreciated.

I had offered to help my then-husband with his photography logistics and deliveries often. I did many things for him but he rarely said thanks and rarely showed that he appreciated these efforts of mine. It was like my contributions to the household never mattered.

When I did ask him for help, he would put it off and then blame me for making him feel guilty.

Most men are just very logical by nature, without meaning to be. They are missing out on some very important aspects of what a true partnership requires. Often this happens because they feel as though they are providing a living. They forget the more human considerations of what being in a relationship actually means. Being in a relationship is not just what you feel, it’s what both you and your partner agree on that would bring balance into the relationship.

Jan 10 2022

Claim Your Excellent Life #355 – So, You are Sick & Tired of the Medical-Industrial Complex

Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her opinion of the industrial medical complex.
 
 
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Jan 06 2022

How Are Psychologists Feeling About Their Work? Vol. 563 – January 6, 2021

 

i wrote this article for Linkedin and sent it to the groups that were created for psychologists and mental health professionals only. I was interested in finding out how these professionals really feel about the work that they are doing in a variety of ways. And, I did indeed receive one brave soul who commented on the article right there on linkedin and 4 people who left a thumbsup and one an emoji of a handsclapping.  The person who commented is a conventionally trained psychologist as well as a person who has taken the time to learn how to do hypnotism well enough to get results in his own practice. I found this out by looking up his profile. This is what he said to give you greater cause to read the article: 

“I’ve been waiting thirty years to hear a clinical psychogist come to these insights. Thank you Suzanne, I appreciate your honesty and caring for the clients.”

Kind regards Dr Peter Richard-Herbert

Here is the article that I wrote to provoke some much needed thinking in the manner in which psychology and indeed all mental health is delivered based on my almost 3 decades in the business: 

Are You Fed Up With Practicing Clinical Psychology?

I was looking up information as to why many psychologists leave their practices. One item jumped out at me!

One now ex-psychologist pointed out that he was burned out from focusing on the 10% of patients who never going to be able to have a great quality of life. He realized that 90% of the people who have challenges in life can overcome them and determined that this was a much better way to go about working with people. He is now a life coach allowing him to work with such clients.
For myself, after nearly 20 years of practicing hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming, I have found that most people can and will overcome almost any psychological issue if they are given the appropriate treatment to do so. It starts with taking away the pathological manner in which the clients are labeled and instead allowing them to have the possibility of being ‘normal’ human beings, with their symptoms gone for good.

We in the field of mental health need to stop pretending that we are Gods and Goddesses that can determine another individual’s ability to overcome their issues. We don’t and never will have that ability, so how about we work with the way the brain works helping our clients and patients overcome their challenges creating the transformation where it matters, the client’s and patient’s subconscious mind?

However, for this paradigm to work we need to understand how to work in the subconscious mind because it is very different from working in the conscious mind as the conventionally trained psychologists are trained to do.

We also need to be humbled in our approach in how we build rapport with our patients to build the trust necessary to help them heal in a holistic and humanistic fashion that leaves out the labels and with them the inability for a healthy and fulfilling life.

Lastly, the motivation for anyone to heal is based on creating a compelling future. One that the patient comes up with on their own, which is more important to them than dealing with the hurt that is necessary for them to heal. Unfortunately, this is the most important piece of the conventional mental health provision that is missing. Conventional mental health services are based on the pathology of the diagnosis and treatment can go on forever, especially if there are medications involved.So, what do you think? Do you believe that most people when given the chance to heal and move onto fulfilling and contented lives would be willing to heal?

Or do you believe that the best way to treat people with emotional issues is to label them and keep them coming in for guidance week after week, month after month, year after year, decade after decade as was true for too many of my past clients?

If you are interested in learning more about hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming — perhaps trying it out yourself you may download my free gift to give you the opportunity at:

dawningvisions.com/freegift/

 

Jan 05 2022

Focusing on Living a Happy Contented Life Despite the Chaos – Vol. 614 – January 5, 2022

Given all the scare tactics in the western world, I would like to offer you the idea of actually focusing on living a happy and fulfilling life. That is indeed what the mission of my hypnosis company, Dawning Visions Hypnosis is all about, “Setting souls free to live their purpose, on purpose.” Because living our purpose does bring one a fulfilled life which automatically brings us happiness.

One cannot enjoy one’s life if one is always living in fear. However, one can make the decision to live a life that is full of those things that one loves to do.

For me, it is about meeting and working with the coolest people in the world. Many of these people are doing amazing things in service to others, yet few know about their great works because they aren’t all over the media. The people I worked with were in Uganda and Nairobi – beautiful countries in Eastern Africa.

Before that much of my early travel was about being in training to learn how to better help my clients. However, the side effect of all that training was helping me heal my own issues – very cool indeed! These travels brought me to Australia and New Zealand, and across the US many times.

However, later in my life, my travels have much more to do with just being able to meet everyday people living life in a contented and loving way. I have found such people in the developing world more than anywhere else, all working together to be able to live.

You see, most people from the Western world think of visiting the icons of the western world – and though one can certainly see some awesome sights and beaches, to my mind that gets really boring. It is the culture and the people that make a place great. So you won’t see me visiting the normal places in Western Europe unless it is to fly through as a transit. You will see me going to more off-the-beaten-path places because that is where the true culture is lived.

I left the Western World quite on purpose, unwilling to engage with the lack of morals or values as I understand them. And, I invite you to think about what it is that you would like your life to be and how you want to live it.

We all have the ability to figure out what we truly want to be doing with our time and to make a plan to do it. For me, it is nothing more than making a decision to go somewhere for some purpose and purchasing a flight to get there, and renting an Airbnb or hotel room upon arrival. I figure out the rest by speaking to the locals.

It should be noted that I have traveled the world during COVID and have never gotten any of it. My guess is that is because I have been living in sunny countries with real food, with a happy demeanor, never allowing the mass hypnosis of the masses, especially during my time in Isreal when all this broke out – to invade my own knowledge of how viruses and our bodies work. Hell, I have been involved in the medical world for my entire life from the age of 13 when I had my first paying job at a vet hospital. Even at that young age, I was taught how to read the stool and blood samples for worms, so my practical medical education goes really far back.

It is when we realize that we have the power to choose what we concentrate our attention on and what we choose to ignore, that we have the power to create our lives the way we want them. It is really quite simple, yet few people know or understand the truth of how our brains actually work.

I invite you to start living your own dreams before you are unable. This was one of the most important lessons I learned from 95-year-old Millie Aiken back in 1996 – she is long gone: Never live your life with any resentments or regret. I have lived my life on those two premises from that time forward. Thank you Millie wherever your soul is now. This is more important for our well-being and overall health now than when she taught me all those years ago.

Write down what you want to be doing with your time, because it is in how we spend our time that our life is lived. Then make a plan to put it into action and do it! We only have only life we know for sure, so it best you get on with living yours on your own terms, or somebody else’s agenda will take it away – but only if you allow that to happen. The choice is yours, and yours alone.

Jan 03 2022

Claim Your Excellent Life #354 – We Being “There” For Others in A Truly Meaningful Way Matter

Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her thoughts on what it means to truly “be there” for someone you care about.
 
 
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Dec 30 2021

What Makes For A Great Day For Me? The unfolding of a beautiful healing client session Vol. 565, Dec. 30, 2021

Do you know what makes for a spectacular day for me? It’s having client sessions that bring about beautiful learnings with healthy new perspectives demonstrating the letting go of past negative emotions. This is how the client is going to be able to more easily move into their compelling future.
 
Unlike many mental health practitioners, I don’t sell by the hour – not at all. I sell the program that is best suited for each client based on the number of negative events that need to be cleared, along with other clearing techniques. I add in their compelling future which is really the objectives for their treatment based on what they want to create for their own lives. When they are well on their way to achieving their compelling future they know they are ready to terminate the sessions.
The process that I use is very intensive and certainly not for everyone because we go very quickly into the healing work with much longer sessions to begin to get that done ASAP. After that, they do weekly or bi-monthly appointments working on building healthy emotional boundaries and learning how to move forward in their lives to have a quality of life that is so amazing that when they began, they couldn’t even see it – true for the majority – but not all of my clients.
It takes time for the organic unfolding to occur during each session and as such, I set up the time frame for each appointment to allow that to happen. Because, I learned from my dad, the dentist while working at his side, that there is no reason to rush a process – rather it is best to take your eyes off the clock and do what needs to be done in the time it takes to do an excellent job. This philosophy of delivering health care has certainly worked very well for my clients over the almost 2 decades that I have been doing hypnotism.
 
There is a lot to be said about this way of doing the work – for both myself and the client – just taking our time to do what is healthiest for the client.
 
Because my goal at the end of each client session is for my client to feel ‘lighter and brighter’ after each appointment. I am able to get that achieved regardless of any emotional distress during the appointment about 95% of the time because I leave the time necessary to heal it all before I end the session. Something that is mandatory so far as I am concerned.
You see, there are many ways that people can practice their healing modality and you need to figure out which works best for you as the person employing the practitioner who is working with you.
So, choose your practitioner with great care based on what you most value and you will most likely receive what is best for your way of healing.

Dec 28 2021

How About A Free Gift of Hypnosis to Begin Your New Year Right!

Since it is the season for giving – sharing that which we can.  I thought it would be a great time to share the gift of hypnotism with you. Some of you may have worked with me previously, and others of you may never have. In any case, this free gift includes hypnotic inductions (what others mistakenly call ‘meditations’ to release any stress or anger that you may have that it is more than time to ditch done in a very positive and easy manner. 

Because, we want to enter the New Year feeling cleansed of anything that is no longer serving us, bringing us much more energy for that which does serve us, don’t we?

 To enter the New Year feeling ‘lighter & brighter’. What could be better than that?

All you need to do is enter the URL below into your search engine and fill out the form and it is yours for the asking. 

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Happy New Year!

Warmly,

Suzanne 

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