I appreciate your honest question about a very common issue in the world of therapy. Do understand that I am answering this from the point of view of a hypnostist/NLP practitioner who learned many years ago that many things that look like emotional issues are physiological and vise versa. So, my short answer to you is to get some testing done to see if you are metabolizing the nutrients that you require to form the dopamine, serotonin, gaba, etc that your brain needs to be emotionally stable and mental clear – because without that ability, one will never feel good about life – it’s physiology – not psychology.

I found this out working with a client of mine who was told by some ignorant therapist she had many years before she met me, that she would have to take antidepressants for the rest of her life. This news really bummed her out. Well, it was a long journey, but what we found after she saw my compounding pharmacist who sent her to an integrative doc, was that she had leaky gut and heavy metal toxicity (due to her job).

If you are in mid-life your hormones may be unbalanced and the same is true if you are overly stressed as many are these days. So, this is another thing to get checked out – cortisol levels – all of these are done through saliva to be done correctly, not blood as the conventional docs tend to do.

So, please do not pay attention to people who are assuming that you are not doing your part in the therapy, because it may very well be that it has nothing to do with mental-emotional anything and everything to do with metabolism and hormones.

If you do have emotional issues that you feel are causing the issues, find yourself a person who can help you with the unconscious content that may be in your way – that would be a person trained in that specialization, a hypnotist with NLP training.

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However, I would suggest that you rule out physiological issues before you do anything else. Once that is done, then you can figure out what to do next.

I have to say that when one is finding that one can’t let go of the trauma they have experienced and finds it difficult to stop thinking about it, I would have to say that is a normal response to dealing with life’s traumas.

I don’t know about the folks who already answered this question, but I can tell you that I have worked with probably close to 1,000 clients over the past 19 years of practicing hypnosis the great majority who have had traumatic events in their past., some of them horrific. These same folks did make some poor decisions and therefore had to pay whatever price was included be it feeling guilty or actually having to do jail time in a few cases.

My suggestion is that if you are really still being bothered by your past, it is best to employ a professional to help you to let it go. I would suggest a hypnotist with NLP training because they have the techniques to allow you to quickly let go of the past. There is no reason to have to fight this for the rest of your life, however, it is your choice to continue as you are.

I know for myself, many years before getting involved in working the world of mental health, I needed to ask for help to heal some of my earlier life issues. Later I had one of my NLP trainers help me let go of another issue, as life can bring up difficulties that need to be attended to – and it was because of that willingness to invest in that treatment that I was able to let it all go – my past is just a bunch of occurrences, no emotional charge on the events at all – I can now focus my time and emotional energy on those things that bring great joy and fulfillment to my life, including helping my clients put their past in their past where it belongs, while living in their present, creating their futures the way they want it – because, there is no need to hang onto the past, none at all!