What Have You Been Through Just to be Able to Follow Your Dream or Passion? – Vol 567, Sept. 25, 2020

This question came from a Quoran (a forum where people ask questions and others answer them from all over the world). It was one of the more important questions being asked because it gets to the heart of what it takes to have a happy and contented life. Here is how I answered it:

Thanks for the question, because it really is a form of reality checking!

It took me a very long time to figure out my ‘right work’ – like 23 years to be exact. It took many trials and failures to figure it all out. Many of my friends thought my ex was the best for putting up with me and my lack of willingness to continue doing work I hated or was bored by. These are the same people who are still miserable in their own lives, never really capable of taking the time to figure out what was important enough to them to make a real career out of.

When the money was coming in very well, my ex decided I didn’t need him anymore – so he left. That was very difficult and is still difficult because running a business takes money on top of what one needs to live on. However, I have had many people who truly believe in what I do, having serviced many of them – well all of them. And, because of that, somehow I have been able to continue. However, it has not been easy at all, but it has been so fulfilling and worthwhile, watching people come out of their darkness, into their light to light up the world with their own talents and love.

I never fit into the business world, never was willing to wear a ‘mask’ as is required or to work ridiculous hours for tiny wages, much to be taxed before you can even receive the money. I did do eldercare work for very little money to learn how to work in health care, and later I did Certified Nursing Work, but it didn’t work out -probably because it wasn’t anything that I wanted to do anymore. I love hypnotism and the true transformations that my clients create with our work together – it is truly magical. And, to be able to understand how the mind truly works and help my clients to learn how to better use theirs is an honor and a privilege for sure.

You will find that many people who follow their dreams overcome much and for those who stick it out, success does occur. That word ‘success’ is a complex one for everyone has their own idea of what it means. For me, it means living life on my own terms, doing what I love with those I truly admire (and these folks come in every race, class, and legal status) because I see something in them besides the socialized standards – maybe because many fall out of the socialized standards that I am attracted to work with them. And, my work has taken me around the world to do amazing things with amazing people, which many never have the opportunity to realize.

There are positives and negatives in life, and we all have to make those decisions for ourselves as to what is worth the time and effort. Because, in the end, all we have is time, and even that is something we have no idea how much we will have. I have lost several friends at a very early age and had three very different incidents where I could have been very dead. So, life is indeed precious, and living one’s dreams and aspirations are what makes it worthwhile as far as I am concerned.

What do You Want People to Know? Vol. 566 – Sept. 17, 2020

A person on Quora asked me this question. Quora is a forum where people from around the world ask and answer questions. This particular question was so ambiguous, but once I started writing it became obvious what I wanted the people in the world to know. This is how I answered the question:

Thanks for the A2A. I want people to know that they have it inside their own minds to heal any emotional issues that are still lurking there. For the great majority of diagnoses given by a psychiatrist, most of them have to do with unconscious events that have been implanted in their subconscious minds from the perspective of the child that was hurt at the time. This brings on all sorts of interesting thoughts and behaviors that can cause great distress later on, and we don’t even know that the event in the past was the reason for the emotional issues we are experiencing. You don’t need a drug to deal with it, because they are not needed in 95% of cases. What you need is the belief that you can find your own answers in your own mind to fix the emotional problems. Of course, helping our clients get to the unconscious material is what hypnotists and Neuro-linguistic practitioners specialize in doing.  Few conventional mental health professionals really understand hypnosis and do not understand how to use it. One weekend course does not make a proficient practitioner. More often than not, it creates more issues because this person has not studied the art and science of how to work in the unconscious mind. So, they try to use a bit of hypnosis with their patients and the patient doesn’t ‘feel’ hypnotized and the clinician has absolutely no idea how to explain what hypnosis is and how it works. Worse the practitioner has little understanding of how to use the state of mind that hypnosis places one in to get to the root cause of the patient’s problem. I say this because many of my clients have gone this exact root and then decided to employ an actual hypnotist to help them find the underlying issues and release them.

If there weren’t any emotional triggers to cause the problem, then it is a metabolic issue such as leaky gut that requires a professional who can get you the correct tests to find out what nutrients you need more of and which foods may be causing the leaky gut. The best professionals to employ for this are integrative and functional doctors and chiropractors who specialize in this area of practice.

If you are suffering from fibromyalgia, both of these issues need to be dealt with because there is most definitely a lack of nutrition occurring along with childhood developmental trauma. The persistent childhood trauma has placed the patient with fibromyalgia in a constant state of ‘fright or fright’ stressing the body, stressing the muscles, and impacting the pain receptors in the nerves and the brain’s interpretation of the pain. Those with fibromyalgia have a very low pain threshold because of these changes. It’s best you find a specialist who can help you heal all of the symptoms in one place.