This is a question that many people have including the person on Quora who asked it. Here I give the reasons for anyone to have resistance to hypnosis and what to do about it.

Hi, As a hypnotist for over 20 years, I can tell you that there are only 3 reasons why a client will not allow themselves to be hypnotized.

1. Fear of being hypnotized – which can be taken care of 98% of the time by experiencing it without any suggestions, just a chance to feel what it feels like to be more relaxed than you’ve ever been in your life before.
2. Lack of trust in the hypnotist – which means that one needs excellent rapport with the person that they are employing to hypnotize them.
3. It is very important for the client to truly want the outcome that they are coming in to be hypnotized to clear. For example: If I have a person who says they want to stop smoking, but it isn’t they that want it, but perhaps their parent or spouse, it isn’t going to work. It also won’t work if a doctor tells them that they have to stop smoking as evidenced by many prospects who called for smoking cessation who were on oxygen due to emphysema who never followed through. So, the desire for the outcome is most important. Because, though I am an excellent hypnotist, I will fail if I have a client who just isn’t interested in stopping the habit or is feeling more safe holding onto the problem than finding out what life is like without it. So, my job is to only hire clients who are ready to make the change “now” and are willing to do whatever it takes to do so. Anything less will not work.

Not long ago I had 52-year-old women call me because she knew that the trauma that she experienced from her youth was getting in the way of her current quality of life. Her fear of being hypnotized is what she said kept her from going forward. However, what her fear most likely was, was not knowing who she would be without all these issues she had been dealing with all of her life. It can be very scary giving up what you know and are used to for something that is unknown. In this case, I did what I could to educate her, but realized that she wasn’t ready to move forward, so I let her go knowing that she wouldn’t be a good hypnosis candidate. One never wants to force a service on someone who isn’t ready, ever!

This is a question that a person on Quora asked which I believe is both very interesting and helpful for anyone who is seeing a therapist to understand. Here is how I answered the question:

I am not a licensed mental health person, so I am answering it from the point of view of a hypnotist with a ton of experience on both sides of the aisle in the world of therapy.

The main thing that needs to be taken into account is the type of client that is in front of us. People with borderline personality disorders don’t want to hear anything about their therapist in many cases – it is all about them!

Second, if any personal disclosure content is being shared, it needs to be done as a way to demonstrate how the issue at hand was overcome, or more easily dealt with. In other words, it is never about the therapist’s problems, rather it is ALWAYS used as a way to more deeply connect with the client to help the client to better understand the issue they are dealing with in the therapy and give them tools and techniques to use to help them deal with said issue. It is a form of role modeling as far as I am concerned and one of the things that my clients have found gives them a ton of hope that they had lost, as well as concrete ways to help themselves.

Frankly, it is only through true authentic communicating that people are going to care about what a person has to say. So, I have always had a down-to-earth manner of relating with my clients which has worked really well for the great majority of them. For others who are more used to the more classic style of psychotherapy – I am NOT the right fit for those people and that is quite fine.

This was a question that a person on Quora asked me. This is something that many people could use more insight to better understand. This is how I answered the question:

To tell you the truth most people have no idea how their actions and ignorant statements affect others, you and me included.

My standard way of helping myself and my clients deal with this situation is to call the person and let them know that you would like to get together in person because you have some things you would like to share with them (do it in person if you can – if they are too far away geographically use a video call with Facetime, Whatsapp, IMO, etc. Set up a time with them to meet. If possible meet in a place that is objective meaning a park or restaurant – not either of your homes.

When they are there you start by telling them in this exact language:

Thank you so much for meeting me today. I have some things that I would like to share with you. I am certain that you have no idea that you are doing “A, B and C and when you do these things it makes me feel “F”. I would really appreciate it if you did ‘x, Y, and Z instead.”

With this wording you are not attacking them or blaming them for how you feel. Instead you are letting them know that they are doing some things that they may not be aware of (giving them the benefit of doubt) and letting them know how it is making you ‘feel’ because feelings just are, there is nothing anyone can do about them. You are politely asking them to act in a different manner and if they are capable of doing so, you will have a much stronger relationship no longer carrying negative feelings about these events.

It may take the person a few times to be able to shift their behavior because most behavior is unconscious anyway. However, if they are argumentative with you or unable to shift it because not all people can or want to – it’s time to find yourself another person to hang around. This includes relatives and partners who know the best how to trigger us.

Unfortunately we find ourselves in a complex world where certain people feel that they have the right to misdirect us and force us to take actions that may not be in our best interest. 

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