This is a very important question a Quoran asked, because there are going to be times during a therapeutic relationship when a therapist, or in my case, a hypnotist may become upset with the client. Here are my thoughts on the subject that I shared with the Quoran which I trust you will find helpful.

Thanks for this question. I am going to answer it from the point of view of the practitioner instead of as the client to give you what I believe is a better answer to your question as a Hypnotist/NLP practitioner.

First, do understand that folks who work in the world of mental health realize that their patients are there because of the difficulties that they are dealing with – so there will be times when the patient may get upset, angry, overwhelmed, whatever. It is to be expected quite frankly especially if the therapy is headed in the direction of dealing with core issues for the problems – giving ‘reality checks’ as I like to call them, for if the patient had the ability to understand what the larger scheme of things was, they wouldn’t need to employ a therapist, would they? It is the therapist’s job to show the patient better ways of understanding those things that are going on in their lives and sometimes that means telling them things they ‘need’ to hear instead of those things they want to hear.

I have mentioned it on Quora a few times, that even before I hire a client, I let them know that there will most assuredly be times when they may dislike me, for those things that I may say to them. Sometimes it is because I got something wrong that they were trying to explain to me and sometimes it will be because I am telling them truths that they don’t want to hear about themselves or those they love (as it came from their own subconscious minds from the hypnotic perspective). In either case, it is through the processing of these events that the client is better able to go out in their own world and interact more confidently and honestly. Those clients who understand that this is the reason for the therapy and are open to this dynamic are those that I am more readily willing to hire on as clients. Because, one can’t grow if one isn’t willing to take responsibility (and yes, there have been many, many times when I had to own my own shortcomings during sessions with my clients – I let them know that if I do or say something that causes them to feel negative to tell me so that we can work through it because it is bound to happen). Humility works in both directions.

So, no, your therapist ought not to be offended because of your feelings – instead, your therapist is there to help you to deal with whatever happened and help you heal it, and hopefully strengthen your trust in the process.

This was a question that was asked by a person on Quora which I found quite ammusing, but obviously needed an answer. So this is what I told him:

Thanks for the question.

First, choose a hypnotist that actually knows what they are doing. A well-trained person will be able to do many different techniques with you, not just read a bunch of prewritten scripts. In fact, the best people don’t need a script to work with you because they understand how to actually do the work – imagine that!

Second, find someone who has proven that they have expertise in the area that you are looking to get the hypnosis to heal/work on. There are many hypnotists out there who say they can do anything and everything, and your job is to figure out which person is best for you – not based on their marketing, but based on what they have on their websites. You are interested in seeing that they have a knowledge base to help you. I spent several years working with psychiatric patients and elders before I ever entered the world of hypnotism. I also had about a year’s worth of nursing school under my belt (I dropped out because I hated nursing, however, it helped me to understand medications and how the body works medically speaking.)

If you have a lot of trauma in your past, find someone who knows NLP very well because that is the best way to clear it – in minutes, not hours, days or never…I know, isn’t it great to know that one needn’t live with that in their lives forever? I know it worked great for my clients.

Lastly, have a free consult with whomever you choose to work with to make sure that you are a good fit, because trust is the most important aspect to having one go into a nice state of hypnosis to do the work – it needn’t be deep, but it does need to be present – something that a good hypnotist is able to see in your physiology and something that for you may only feel like being ‘relaxed’ because it is a ‘relaxed’ state as you know.