Vol. 483, Jan. 3, 2018 – I’m Worried my Therapist is Angry with me, What should I do?
This was a question that someone asked on Quora, a forum where people from all over the world ask questions and others answer them. I really appreciated this person asking this question, because as you will see in my answer, it is something that comes up in my practice at times, and for anyone who has a practice. So here is my answer to the question: (Note: that within 5 minutes of my answering the question, the individual thanked me for answering it- always great to know the effort was appreciated!)
Man, I am glad you asked this question because over the years I have had many clients who were fearful of telling me their truths, especially if they thought I would be angry with them. But, this is the deal, as I explain to my clients when I call them and explain, once again the process of healing and growth:
The whole purpose of therapy is to help someone to learn how to deal with their life’s realities and that includes coming clean with issues that you fear will be looked negatively upon by others.
Your therapist is there to help you learn how to contend with these situations so that when they arise in your world with the people that you have to deal with every day – family, co-workers, professionals, teachers, etc – you have the skills to do so.
And, to the degree that your therapist is able to hold you accountable in a respectful and helpful manner, (which totally depends on your personality), is the degree to which you will learn how to deal with similar issues in the past – like perhaps, not being triggered by old issues or taking things personally that aren’t personal as examples.
If your therapist isn’t able to do this for you, then it is time to find someone who you trust to work with. However, you do owe your current therapist the opportunity to help you work through this issue before jumping the ship.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.