In some cases, there are people who aren’t really your friends, and in some cases, they do indeed like and appreciate you a lot, yet are leading very busy lives. I have one friend that didn’t talk to me for the 3 years I was in California, yet, was more than happy to offer me a couch in her apartment for a week while I was dealing with my mom’s declining health. She is also one of the very few people that I will text with updates, since she can do that between her acupuncture patients, and because she never misinterprets what I write, able to hear my voice in her head – that is how well she knows me.
I love to entertain, and used to do it a lot while I was married and had the space to do it. The great thing about that was that people really appreciated my taking the time to put those gatherings together. Even 30 years later when I speak to my old friends, they let me know how much they miss those gatherings.
What you need to realize is that you get out of your life what you put into it, that is all there is to it. One needs to know which friends are good for what things. I have friends that I could rely on to bring me to the airport at 3 AM or whatever horrible hour because I did the same for them. I have other friends that I can rely on for other things. It just really depends on who fits into what in your life, because they all have a place, so long as you feel that they are people that are worth your time and energy.
I was just sharing with my youngest sister that friendships can indeed change over the years. She has a friend from 4th grade and they are now 50 years old. So, at this point, she isn’t putting as much time and emotion into it, because this friend wasn’t there for her while my sister was dealing with my mom’s declining health, and passing away in Sept. Her friend has different priorities now. We can’t tell others what their priorities are, all we can do is back off a bit and allow the relationships to shift. I had the same thing occur with a friend of mine from college that I have known now for 39 years. He was taking our relationship for granted so I backed the hell away. His son brought me back into his life, since his father doesn’t have many friends and was apparently missing our interactions. His son has now moved cross country, and I moved back to New England from California, so now he’s been FaceTiming me or calling me much more often and bringing his sense of humor, instead of all the negativity that pushed me away for many years.
So there you have it. The many faces of friendship.
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Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.