What Happens When the Healers Have Mental Health Issues Themselves? -Vol. 496, May 2, 2019
Many people get into the world of helping others to heal, because it is much easier to work on another, instead of looking in the mirror at one’s self. Anyone who has confronted their own issues be they emotional, where many physical issues actually begin, can tell you that it was one of the hardest things they have ever done.
Why is this true, that looking at ourselves, our behaviors, our emotions, our human condition is so difficult to do?
Unfortunately, we live in a world where people feel very sure of the fact that if they were to actually look deeply into themselves, they would not like what they found. I find it so interesting that so many who call themselves ‘healers’ are utterly unwilling to “walk the walk” themselves.
You see, most people who get into mental health do so, because of issues that they have yet to resolve. They want to learn more about themselves through the academics, the theory and then go and deliver services to others. However, there is something backward with this notion. You see, it is rather impossible to help others heal when one is still feeling, ‘victimized’ by someone in their family of origin, or maybe an ex-spouse or partner. It is rather impossible to help someone to gain confidence and self-respect if one has yet to do that for themselves. And, for all those practitioners out there who feel that the mentally ill are lesser people than themselves — and trust me they are indeed out there — the ones who put protecting their licenses above showing the discernment necessary when their patients report things such as “Sure, there are times when I felt suicidal.” Which is very different than someone who is feeling suicidal at the moment putting their patients into a hospital for a mental status check. Or worse, projecting their anger toward a certain population onto their unknowing clients.
You see, counseling is about you, the patient, and has nothing whatsoever to do with the negative life experiences of your counselor – unless they have overcome the same issue that you are looking to overcome. That doesn’t mean telling you their sob stories. It means giving you knowledge that they gained (wisdom) from actually overcoming the problem for many years.
I would also add, that the only true tonic for people feeling hurt or abused, etc is to forgive the person who did it. Because, this is the reality: Forgiveness is about freeing one from their history, the story that one is telling themselves about an event in the past. The perpetrator most likely has moved on with their life without a thought of what behavior they did to you, or perhaps has been dead for many years, and yet, this anger, this resentment is just eating up at the person who feels, ‘victimized.’ Anger causes heart attacks and death, so is it really worth holding onto? So, any therapist type person who is going to take your side and tell you that it wasn’t your fault and blaming the other person, a person they most likely never met, is not helping the situation, rather they are continuing the story the person has been telling themselves to stay in a ‘victim’ mentality. And to tell you the truth, I have yet to meet a person with a ‘victim’ mentality who has any sense of joyfulness or contentment in life.
If you find yourself being treated by such a person, do yourself a favor and fire them. Find someone who is willing to help you to truly heal the trauma and move onto a much more functional life. Because, in the end, only you can make the decision to stay or to find a better practitioner for you.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.