Oct 19 2023

Why You Should Not Treat Your Kids Like Friends – Vol. 648, Oct. 19, 2023

You shouldn’t treat your kids as friends. As a parent, your job is to teach them how to be upstanding responsible adults, which is a totally different relationship the one has with friends.

There are different boundaries as you are the role model. You instruct your kids, discipline them as necessary, and by all means love them unconditionally for the unique people they are.

You can treat them respectfully by truly listening to what they are saying, giving them the opportunities to try all sorts of activities, and teaching them resilience as well as persistence to get ahead in this world. Caring and sharing as well as role modeling integrity are important as well.

I never treated kids much differently in terms of talking to them, but I sure as hell let them know when they were doing things that were hurtful to themselves or others and let them know that was not okay.

If I took my Godson and his sister out to eat, it was only to a sit-down place where they needed to behave or it would be a long time before they would be taken out again by me. I never had any issues with them, where they could be difficult while with the parents, as the parents rarely followed through on the repercussions.

It’s all about earning respect, by being respectful.

Oct 12 2023

What Happens When A Person Is Placed on Psychiatric Medication and Does Not Need it? Vol. 647 – October 12, 2023


This client has been working with me for the past two years. Two years longer than my usual clients most of them healed within 3 to 4 longer sessions. However, you will see this is a special case.

At a very young age, my client was placed into figure ice skating competition. Her mother wanted her to be active, not gain weight. Her mother taught by her mother to never be overweight because a woman must never have large breasts or big buttocks because that is thought to be ‘gross’ in her family.

My client went on to win some state competitions in ice skating during her teen years, never enjoying it, but doing it to please her mother. It was during this time that she was first placed on amphetamines to keep her weight down.

She was bullied throughout high school and acted out by punching her bullies in the face, showing them that this behavior was not going to be tolerated by her.

When she was 17 she was placed on Adderall and a mood stabilizer being told that she had ADD and bipolar. She found herself constantly talking, aggressive, and unhappy.

At the age of 17, she decided to become a professional singer. She had vocal lessons was working out all the time, and taking more weight loss medication to keep her body svelt for the music videos and live performances necessary for the industry standards during this time. This was dictated by her manager.

Also at 17 was when she got involved in what would be a chain of abusive boyfriends one worse than the next. It was a very difficult time for her because she could not understand why she was being yelled and beaten up by these guys who ‘loved’ her. Three years ago she got involved with an abuser who strangled her on 4 different occasions. Right before COVID hit, she was to go on her first singing tour something she had worked hard to realize. The one thing she had been living for was abruptly taken away as the world closed down. She was so angry at the world, and so depressed given everything she was experiencing.

About a year later she called me to help her because she was ready to kill herself and knew she needed some help.

After we cleared all the trauma she went through regaining a true sense of herself she decided that she wanted the guy who strangled her, an illegal alien who did not even belong in the US to be convicted and in prison, then deported for the harm he had done to her. So, she decided to continue services with me having to tell her gruesome story repeatedly.

She was coming down with infections her weight too low to function and with this the realization that she did not need any of her medications choosing to go off all of them. She also realized that her negative behavior was due to the abuse.

Since then she is no longer overtalking, no longer stressed out, and is much calmer. She never needed to be medicated. All she needed was to heal her trauma and get justice.

Oct 05 2023

How You Can Become Psychologically Resilient – Vol. 646, October 5, 2023

This was a question a person asked me on Quora and this is how I answered it:

I love this question because it is so practical!

After working with all types of folks in mental health for about 30 years now here are the ways you can build your psychological resistance.

  1. Take on new experiences especially if you find them a little scary. When you find you are able to do them, you will feel empowered.
  2. Understand that when most people are acting out against you in some form, it usually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with where they are emotionally. Most times it is helpful to just validate how they are feeling and let them know that you hope that their day gets better – crack a joke and all of a sudden that grumpy person is sweet and smiling all so appreciative of your interaction.
  3. There are going to be many times during your life when you may be challenged to see something from another perspective. Your job is to see it from that other perspective because you may find that even though the comment made may feel personal, it wasn’t personal, it was just another perspective. We need to understand that each of us has a right to our opinions, and sometimes when we stretch our thinking we may find that we actually agree with the other person’s viewpoint.
  4. If someone close to you is angry and yelling at you, you need to find out why that person is angry – more often than not it had to do with something else that occurred during that person’s day, and you were targeted because you were closest at the time the anger exploded. So clarification of the situation is what is called for – and again empathy -validating the other’s feelings will allow you to escape an unnecessary argument.
  5. Many times when one has had a tiring day, one may come home grumpy – if this is the case, acknowledge that. the other person is tired and tells them to relax for a bit. Again, the best way around so many of these situations is to understand them from the other person’s perspective and validate whatever is the main cause of the problem.
  6. If you do something that is hurtful to someone else, come clean and apologize by letting the other person know that you did indeed do something that wasn’t in their interest, ask what you need to do to make it up to them, and then do your best to follow through on that, and let them know that you realize that it may take them a while to forgive you and you are okay with that – because that is a fact – different people take different amounts of time to forgive others.
  7. Spend your time on this planet doing things that you enjoy and that bring joy and consideration to others – be kind and helpful and you will find that you will feel great about yourself because the folks you demonstrated this behavior too, will let you know now meaningful it was. to them which can only grow yourself as a person.

Implement these ideas and you will find yourself becoming psychologically resilient in no time at all.

Sep 28 2023

Why Do I Like to Pretend to be Somebody Else? Vol. 645, Sept. 28, 2023

This was a question that a person on Quora asked and this is how I answered it: 

The reason that most people would want to pretend to be someone else is that it is too painful to be who they are – traumatic experiences of the past, create feelings of unworthiness of love, respect, etc. Many times these feelings of being unworthy come from either an abusive or neglectful parent or a partner who emotionally abused a person.

Most actors and performers are not at all, in reality, the people that they seem to be in their roles. It is their way of escaping being uncomfortable in their own skin while gaining adoration from a bunch of strangers who do not even know them for the real people that they are.

So, my suggestion is for you to get in touch with all the great qualities that you have and then ‘own’ them. If you are in an environment where you are being mistreated in some fashion, you need to extricate yourself from it so that you can be who you are without some abusive individual dragging you down. Then work on building your self-love, self-esteem, and self-respect by never allowing someone to overrun your boundaries and certainly never allowing them to hurt you again.

Sep 21 2023

Should a Therapist Talk To You About Losing Weight? Vol. 644 – Sept. 21, 2023

This was a question from a person on Quora and how I answered it: 

I do not know what therapists do because I am not one. I could tell you two things:

First, from the perspective of being a hypnotist, I would never tell a client of mine to deal with weight loss. My clients employ me to help them with their objectives for healing, not my ideas of what they need to be healed. For example: Many years ago I had a very overweight client ask me to help her to figure out a better way to market her small company since she hated making cold calls. So happened she found that she loved making presentations so that was the direction that she went in and did well with it. Did we ever deal with her weight? Hell no – because that was not why she employed me.

Second, I have a client now who tried Ozempic and I can tell you from the folks who understand how this stuff works it is a terrible idea. The reason is that it actually increases the number of fat cells a person has with its use so one will gain more weight back than one loses once it is stopped. I had a wonderful day yesterday because she told me that she is not going to continue to use this crap any longer and instead chooses to love her body the way it is at its natural weight. This is a person who has always had a higher set point weight for her height than the BMIs would put her at. From my perspective, this is a much healthier way to deal with a person’s weight than to put them on terrible drugs or forcing diets that will not work most people yo-yo dieting putting on weight each time they go off their diets.

Here is a video by Dr. Ken Berry that explains what this shit does to a person’s body:

Sep 14 2023

Can Hypnosis Change Your Life? Vol. 643, September 14, 2023

I have written on Quora many times how hypnosis cleared me of a brain tumor, bronchial asthma, and bipolar 2 all conditions that the conventional medical world says are impossible to be done.

The reason is that our mind is the most powerful tool that we have but only if we learn how to use it in the way it was created to be used.

Of course, in order for these things to be accomplished, one needs to know what to do, because there are many tools and techniques one who does hypnosis and in my case Neuro-linguistic programming as well.

It is important to find a hypnotist who has proven to be able to help heal the same issues that you need to be healed or is willing to say that they have never worked with a case like yours but are willing to do their best to help you out. Never see a hypnotist who says they can help you with everything. You want a specialist. My specialties, for example, are that of clearing emotional issues. Mental health is where I started my career and it lead me to work with hypnotism.

So, yes, it can indeed change one’s life for the better, but it isn’t a magic pill. There are still things that the client needs to do in order to gain the results of the hypnosis. As one of my colleagues always said, “Hypnotism is not magic, but it is magical.”

Here are the stories of how hypnosis changed my life:

Hypnotist overcomes manic depression, bronchial asthma and a brain tumor.

The best thing I ever did for my own health and the thousands of clients I have been able to facilitate healing for was learning how to do hypnotism!

Sep 07 2023

Signs of Being in Hypnotic State -Vol 642, Sept. 7, 2023

A person on Quora asked, “How can one get into a hypnotic trance, never having been in one before?”

Well, the fact is that we are all in and out of trance all day, every day, but those who have never studied hypnotism would not know that. Here is how I answered the question so you can better understand the hypnotic state:

Thanks for the question. First of all, if you are not a trained hypnotist, you are unable to assess whether or not you are in a trance. However, a trained hypnotist can look for physical symptoms of one being in a trance.

Some of those symptoms are:

Fluttering eyes as one imagines the scene the hypnotist is giving them in a guided visualization.

We look for circular breathing as one gets into a more relaxed state.

Slower pulses in the ankles and neck.

The lines in the lips get filled in.

Lacrimation: this is when the tear ducts relax and tears start rolling (it has nothing to do with one feeling sad at all).

The color in the face changes slightly to have a bit more color.

Some people swallow a lot more.

Eyes blink a lot less often.

From the client’s perspective, all they may feel is a bit of relaxation.

I always give the above indicators to my clients so that they are aware of the fact that I am looking for them.

Clients may feel tingles in their fingers or toes.

Clients may feel much heavier or much lighter.

Clients will sense that time has gone much more quickly than it actually has – this is called ‘time distortion.’

Now, to become better at trancing because we are all in and out of it every single day, but are unaware of it like when we daydream, get home without thinking about how we did so our minds on something else, or being on the computer for hours when it felt like minutes or suspending reality while reading a great book or watching a great movie – just takes practice. Going into a hypnotic trance on cue is like anything else – you need to learn how to do it and then practice it till it takes you a couple of moments to enter.

Thank you for your questions so that people can have a better understanding of what we hypnotists are looking for when one is in trance vs what those who have no idea what the hypnotic trance state is trying to define for themselves what it is to be.

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