How Do You Get Over a Childhood Trauma when the Person who did it Refuses to Accept Responsibility? – Vol. 557, July 16, 2020
This was a question that a person on Quora asked which caused a bit of a discussion on the forum to tell you the truth. However, there was a person who thanked me for the answer. I stand by what I say because this is indeed how one heals if one chooses proven in my practice and in many of the spiritual teachings of the world. Here is how I answered this question:
Thanks for your A2A because it is an important question for both those who have been traumatized and those who won’t recognize the fact that their actions did indeed cause trauma to another.
This is the reality of the situation whether you agree with it on not: your health and wellbeing have little to nothing to do with the fact that you were traumatized as a child, nor that the person who did it refuses to accept it.
Most of those who have abused others, traumatized others never take responsibility for their actions because they do not understand that just because ‘they’ didn’t feel that action was abusive or traumatizing doesn’t mean that the person that they traumatized was in fact traumatized. The only person who can determine that is the one who had the action or statements made to them, never the person who did the acting or who made the statements.
You now can realize that the traumatizer does not understand to the degree that their actions hurt you and may never see it from your perspective.
So, what do you do about it? You forgive the traumatizer for their actions and/or statements realizing that they were doing the best they could at the time, bringing to their actions whatever their own life experiences were and are present. Never forget what occurred because you never want to repeat being in that situation again, if it is something that could be repeated over again. However, you must forgive them for your own health and well-being, Holding onto anger and resentment feeds ill health, most especially heart attacks. Never mind the fact that the emotional toll to carry this around is a very high price to pay for an act from another that you have zero control over.
From there you move on with your life relieved of the fact that you needn’t be a ‘victim’ to somebody else any longer. You take control of your life and do those things that bring joy and contentment to your own life. You are grateful for all the great things and experiences you have had up till now and proclaim to yourself to bring more of that great stuff into your life, so you can enjoy it more fully than you have been able to up to now.
If you have a hard time doing this on your own and some people do, get yourself a mental health professional of someone like me – a hypnotist to help you to release this from your life. It is a choice to hold on to it and it is ALSO a choice to let it go!
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Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.