There are many ways for one to ‘feel’ love that have very little to do with a primary relationship. It has more to do with the gut response that one may feel not necessarily on any one particular person, but on something that brings these feelings into one’s consciousness. Because we can gain these loving feelings in many different ways in different aspects of our lives. This is something that I do not believe is spoken about enough so I want to address it.
One of the areas in life that we can have loving feelings for would be our friends. There are certain people in our lives who have demonstrated how much they care by being present – even being able to forecast when you needed something without your telling them. These are people who are highly tuned into your energy because of their care for you. I know that when I think of those who have been there through thick and thin with me throughout my life – these are the purest of ‘love’ feelings coming through. I have many thoughts of certain people who when I think of them or speak about them a loving feeling overcomes me because these people are so integral to my life – none of them are from my family of origin, yet all of them have brought something incredibly meaningful to my life and many still do, even those who have since passed away.
For some, loving feelings come through with the close relationship that they have formed with their pet(s). We know that some people love their pets so much they will put themselves into a huge amount of debt to take care of any health problems that their pet may have. This may be because the feelings of guilt for not doing whatever they can for their pet are worse than the cost to do what they can for their pet. I have had clients in the past whose pets have died placing them into deep depressions, the loving commitment to them being that strong. I had one landlord that had his pets cremated and placed in urns that were on the mantlepiece of his fireplace. He made of pointed out the urns and explained what they were upon my moving into his home.
Experiences that we so love to take part in for our love of the activity. For me, that would be travel – not the process of getting to the local. It’s about being in the new location and taking in the culture, learning about the people, the history, and architecture, etc. These are so intriguing to my mind that I get a real feeling of the love of the experiences of just being in that new realm of existence.
Those who love sports, especially those that actually take part in the activity itself will put themselves through what some would feel is torturous to be able to reach the level of competence some do. It is only through that feeling of love for that activity that one would be willing to go to those extremes.
Music can most definitely bring emotions of love – as people find that certain musicians are able to set
off those neurochemicals of love – wanting to listen to the songs over and over again. I will never forget sitting in the Paradise Theater in Boston when I was a college student with a few close friends of mine, watching my favorite band ever perform, Renaissance, with Annie Haslam right in front of me, having a center first-row seat. I had spent thousands of hours listening to the band even at that time in my life after my oldest sister had turned me onto that band while I was in high school.
Art can bring feelings of love as well. One of the things my art collector friend told me was that the art that was on his walls (and there were no open spaces on his walls given all the art he had) spoke to him. He loved the images and the history behind much of the art that he purchased. In some cases, he got to know some of the contemporary artists personally bringing a deeper meaning of love for the pieces of art from those particular artists.
Some may argue that these are not actually feelings of love that I am speaking to, yet, I would like to disagree with them because we do have it in our being to find love for many people and many types of experiences that we humans have the ability to enjoy.
I believe it is important to understand what these feelings of ‘love’ feel like so that we know that we are capable of feeling them, so that when we have the opportunity to bring in that special person, that we have a way to understand what those feelings actually feel like. Because, it is the deeper feelings of love that matter – not the initial chemical attraction – but to get to the much deeper long-lasting understanding of what ‘love’ really means to us and how we encode it in our mind and body so we can recognize what it is when we feel it.
Learning: There are many ways in which we humans can experience feelings of love many of them having nothing at all to do with a primary relationship. It is through getting in touch with these feelings of love in these other domains that we can better understand how we feel ‘love’ bringing deeper meaning to our lives.
***For anyone who is in a relationship and wants to make it stronger or is unable to figure out why it is so hard to find a loving partner I am running a 3-Day Retreat at the lovely Villa Serena Holistic Hotel & Retreat Center right on the water of the Dominican Republic Oct. 2-3, 2021. It’s the perfect local to do deep transformational work and relax. For more information:
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Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.