Do You Really Care About the Kids in Your Life?

Do You Really Care About Your Kids in Your Life? Vol. 449, April 19, 2018

This has been a most frustrating month, in regard to a young 12-year-old boy who has been labeled with a couple of personality disorders. Given the work that I have been doing over many years, I have no use for these labels. I will tell you why. Because, after working with several kids, teens and college-aged, it seems that the psychiatric community would rather label and medicate these kids than deal with the “cause” of their problem and the “purpose” for the behavior (and attitude) that lead to the diagnosis.

I am forever grateful for the excellent training that I received in NLP, which taught me this basic idea. No matter the issue, the illness, the behavior, the person is not any of that. They are a person with a heart and a soul. Second, the person has developed these issues because of a situation that was unbearable to them. It was created by their subconscious mind (otherwise known as the amygdala of the brain), to help the kid cope with the environment in which they found themselves. When it comes to diagnoses such as oppositional or deviant personality disorder, the main issue is that the client, the kid, is very angry with something that occurred and had no way to get out of the situation on their own. The behavior and attitude was the way their subconscious dealt with receiving attention to get the underlying issue “seen.”

Please understand that kids are people too, with feelings which need to be respected. Kids have a need and a reason to be “heard” by you, the adult in their lives. You as the adult who brought the kid into this world needs to be the “adult’ and find out what is truly going on with your kid. The earlier you get to the bottom of the problem, the easier it is going to be to resolve it.

Three weeks ago I met with this 12-year-old boy along with his grandparents and his mother. Unfortunately, there was a death in the family causing our next appointment to be rescheduled. It seems impossible to get a hard date in which to continue the work that was begun. In the mind of a 12-year-old, three weeks is FOREVER. For we adults, who pay bills monthly, time goes by so much faster. I don’t know when I will be seeing this boy again – though I truly hope it is soon. Because it is obvious that he is very angry about some things that are going on in his life. The techniques used to release the anger, take very little time to do. However, it is rather impossible to move forward if I can’t get in front of him to do the session.

So, think about your kid (or the kids that you are close to if you don’t have any of your own.) Be present, listening to what they are saying, what they are NOT saying and “between the lines” of what they are saying, to get a true idea of where they are at emotionally.

Because I can also tell you that many of our kids are very distressed these days. There is too much information they have access to, that they are not emotionally mature enough to understand.

Kids today have many pressures on them to perform at such high levels to get into name brand universities that their parents would like them to attend, if they are heading off to college. Kids today aren’t allowed to be kids anymore.

Worse, unlike when I was a kid in the 60’s and 70’s kids are not allowed to be free to explore their worlds, learning how to be independent, OR their parents want to be “friends” with them, which is NOT parenting. Parents are to give age based boundaries to allow the kids to be safe, yet learn how to be in this world on their own.

I know that one of the best things that I was given, is my Godson. He went through his own challenges as he grew up, and yet, between his beloved Grammy and myself, we gave him the unconditional love and acceptance he needed to move past his challenges. He is now 29 years old and we are going to start a company for him, based on my expertise in the hypnotic arts, and his knowledge of finance and investing. His father, who just recently passed away, would I believe be very happy with this outcome.

Kids are people, kids have their needs that need to be addressed in as positive and loving a manner as possible, yet with appropriate boundaries. They need appropriate role models to demonstrate how to live well.

And, most of all, they need quality time doing those things that they find fun and interesting. Creating memories that last a lifetime is a fun thing to do. Get on it, and be there for the kids that are in your life!

About Suzanne

Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.

Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.

She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.

Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.

Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.

Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.