Today we are going to learn the truth about what happens when people stay in unhappy marriages. Dana Adam Shapiro has done research on this question for his book “You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married.’ He has found that only 17% of married people are happy, which means that 83% of married couples are unhappy. Why did this happen? According to Shapiro, the main reasons were: lack of communication, dishonesty, and adultery.
Daniel Hawkins and Alan Booth wrote an article, “Unhappily Ever After: Effects of Low-Quality Marriages on Well-Being” published in Social Forces, a peer-reviewed journal based on the tracking of unhappy marriages over 12 years.
For anyone who has been in an unhappy marriage, these findings will resonate:
1. Significantly lower levels of overall happiness, life satisfaction, self-esteem, and overall health.
and
2. Elevated levels of psychological distress.
One question that always comes to my mind when I find myself working with couples is whether or not the relationship is a healthy one with some workout-able problems or if it is a marriage that is at its core unhealthy for both partners?
Now, given that I am indeed a hypnotist, there is a process known as future pacing that can tell me the answer to this question from the mouths of my clients. While in a deep hypnotic trance state, they go out into their future and see if their partner is still there or has disappeared. Because the unconscious mind of the client realizes what is going to happen out there in the future better than the conscious that ‘thinks it knows what it wants.’
But what if you could prevent this from occurring in your marriage in the first place?
What if you could know yourself well enough, love yourself enough to be able to attract a person who also knows themselves well enough and loves themselves enough to call in the ‘right person’ to begin with?
What if you could learn how to better communicate first to yourself and then to your loved one – instead of pretending to know more than you do about both of you?
What if were possible to accept yourself and your partner for who you both are, instead of deciding that one or both of you aren’t good enough?
What if you could create a situation where unconditional love and acceptance could be your foundation?
It is quite possible to allow this to be your truth, however, to allow that to come forth we need to know what we need to clean up first in regard to our own thinking and then in regards to how we communicate with our partner.
***For those of you who are either in unhappy relationships or unable to create healthy partnerships with others, I am running a 3-Day Retreat “Bringing True Love to Your Primary Relationship” Oct. 2-4, 2021 at the beautiful Villa Serena Holistic Hotel & Retreat Center right on the water of the Dominican Republic. You may get more information regarding the retreat here:
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It is the perfect environment to do both the deep transformative work while having a relaxing venue.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.