What Does it Take To Attain One’s Goals? -Vol. 513 – Sept. 5, 2019
I do believe that the fear of failure is one of the things that holds people back from going for their goals. Going through the school system that we currently have, it is all about achieving great grades usually by regurgitating a bunch of memorized information back on exams. Little is done in the current methods of teaching at the high school level to teach students how to creatively solve problems, because that would mean trying new ideas that may fail.
I also believe that there are many challenges that can arise when a person chooses to do something outside the ordinary idea of what one is supposed to do in the society in which one lives. Usually, going to school, purchasing a home, having kids and then retiring is the manner in which people have been socialized to live. However, there are other people for whom those societal expectations are confining in many ways so they make other choices for themselves.
Over the last 5 years, I have been doing a lot of new things with my own life. I had wanted to live in Southern California for over 20 years when I finally had the opportunity to move out there and see what I could do. Honestly, with the cost of living being what it is out there, it was most difficult to make a real go of it. It was also very difficult to make real friends out there because of the major defense mechanisms so many had in place. I did make a few lasting relationships but given my outgoing personality and my networking through the entire time I was out there, that was very little in return for the efforts put forth. Now, some may think that because that move did not turn out the way I wanted it to that it was a failure. However, I do not see it that way at all. I see it as my fulfilling a dream I had for over 20 years and no matter the outcome, I never have to regret never taking the chance to make the move. So, I see it as a positive addition to my life’s journey.
I moved back east because I had a few hypnosis clients who wanted me to work with them. That was great. However, getting resettled out here was again a much more difficult enterprise then one would imagine. I spent the better part of a year Couchsurfing after the friend with whom I was staying and helping out was placed in the hospital for an extended period of time. I have to say that I met some of the coolest people on the planet living in this manner – all the while doing my papers for my Master’s in Medical Sociology. People who are involved in the Couchsurfing world are generally people who have traveled the world and want to give back to other travelers. They have a view of the world that is different from those who have never seen a place outside the few miles of their homes. I got to spend time in a tent up in Northern Vt, not a small tent – no this was a tent large enough for all my stuff to be spread out and tall enough for me to stand in on a platform a couple of feet off the ground to keep dry. This is the gentleman who gave me my entry into Couchsurfing as he was the first one who accepted my request to stay with him. I loved this man for his piercing soulful eyes, his own exploration of the world for over 5 years Couchsurfing, and most of all his gentle manner of being. I met a 72-year-old woman in Sarasota, Florida who spent 25 years living on a 40-foot sailboat sailing the Caribbean with her husband. And, I met a friend of another who was Muslim who I had the experience of ‘breaking fast’ with. There were many others along the way. However, the thing that was interesting was that many of those others were from other countries with whom I could learn about their culture, which was awesome. By the way, this is the whole point of doing Couchsurfing, to learn about one another’s cultures (and travels).
Now, I am on my way into a whole other adventure, in returning to Israel for my second master’s, this time in Peace & Conflict Management. What will be the outcome of this goal? I really cannot say as I have not even begun it yet. But, what I can say, is that since being in Isreal back in 2009, I wanted to move into the world of peace and conflict management. It’s a decade later, and now I am doing it. It is interesting to me to see the different feedback that I receive from those in my life. Some believe it is a great thing to be able to do and to have fun and learn lots. Others wonder why I would choose to go to a war-torn area to learn about peace and conflict resolution and believe I should study it here in the USA. Still, others think it is a great thing to do as an outgrowth of my knowledge in how the unconscious drivers work in humans and believe that being able to do the studies abroad is a great opportunity.
My point is that there will always be a chance that the goal that one goes for may not work out. My other point is that it is not up to anyone to dampen the dreams and aspirations of others because they do not have the guts to do it for themselves.
So, if you have a goal, I say go for it. Because, as the late great Millie Aiken told me about 25 years ago now, “To live a good life, you never want to have any regrets or resentments.” I do believe at the age of 95 she knew more about how to make a great life than those who have less life’s experience and never experienced any adventures or their own. If you have a goal, there is nothing to be lost by going for it. Until you do, you will never know what you could have made of yourself.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.