Trauma: Do I Hold On To It OR Let It Go? – Vol. 494, April 18, 2019
One of the interesting things about life would be the various types of people that we come in contact with, especially those who are in our own families. Caroline Myss, speaks of the condition she calls ‘woundology.’ She explains this term to mean that after the 1960’s when everyone seemed to be in therapy or involved in support groups, people began to bond based on their emotional wounds. It became fine to hold onto one’s emotional wounds forever, always feeling the need for validation for whatever negative events were experienced. However, she points out that there is a huge problem with this manner of being. That is, that one never heals from the traumas, forcing those around them to dance to their own tune. In other words, friends and family are to constantly be aware of the special requirements necessary to never trigger this individual’s wounds.
Well, Caroline states quite emphatically that this expectation of demanding others to continue to dance around the triggers of another is unrealistic and childish. I would have to say that I totally agree with her on this notion.
Back in 2009 when I went to the Massachusetts General Hospital Cancer Center to have the tumor that WAS on the covering of my brain treated, I had the wondrous experience of observing a couple of teens and an 8-year-old from foreign countries interact with their relatives every day for 6 weeks. These kids were the most upbeat kids you could imagine, joking with their relatives. The 8-year-old was busy doing crafts with the social worker with her mom watching. Never, did I note in any of these cases, anyone complaining of the circumstances they were confronting. Not one of them was ever upset. I learned much during that 6 weeks about how people can be in the moment, and do what was needed without needing to attract attention to one’s self or to complain about the situation in which they found themselves.
The reality of life is that we all have our own stories of challenges, of negative events that had to be contended with at certain points in our lives. I also know from working in the fields of psychiatry and hypnotism the depth and breadth of what some people have to deal with given their histories and maybe even given their skin color. It is not a pretty picture, however, from what I have been able to witness, many have found their way to forgive and others have taken it a step further making it their life’s mission to work for the changes in society that they perceive needing to be made.
The beautiful thing about being willing to find a ‘compelling future’, something that is more meaningful to one, then holding on to dysfunction, is that one’s life can actually stand for something quite magnificent. And, in the process happiness along with truly respectful and loving relationships can be had. It is just a choice to be made whether one is willing to heal and move onto the great life that could be had, regardless of anything that may have occurred in the past.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.