Over the past few years I have worked with several young women who found themselves in a precarious situation beginning with the innocent notion that they would just feel a bit better about themselves if they would just lose a few extra pounds. Instead what happened was that they got more and more engaged in the thought that they would only be worthy of love and attention if they got down to a certain size. In many cases the size they wanted to be was under weight for them. So the daily starvation would begin from the moment they woke up and continue all through the day. Sometimes they would go out and run for many miles to feel the emotional “high” they were looking for to feel alive again. Their day ending in the evening in front of the television binging on some sweet, crunchy or deliciously smooth food to fulfill that empty need of theirs. In some cases, the next step would be to purge as much of those extra calories as possible bringing on all sorts of health problems leading them to wonder what it was that made them feel so programmed to do this destructive behavior. You see, by the time they came to see me, these lovely young women knew that they were harming their young bodies and yet they couldn’t seem to stop the unwanted behavior no matter how much they wanted to. The questions that they asked me were “Why am I continuing to do this to myself when I don’t want to? I know that I am harming myself and yet it continues, why? Why do I spend all my thoughts and energy focusing on food and my bodily form never being able to focus on the things that really matter to me?
In each case of bulimia the situations were remarkably similar. Each of these women had came to the conclusion that they were loathsome, unlovable and unworthy people. This wasn’t something that came about because of the few extra pounds they were carrying for none of these women were terribly over weight. However, their weight became the focus of these deeper negative feelings toward themselves and so it became a battle against their body. What was the purpose of this behavior, really? What were the beliefs that they were holding in their unconscious mind telling them that they were unworthy of love not only from others, more importantly from themselves? What did they need to learn to stop creating dramas with those close to them and instead building meaningful, respectful relationships? Lastly, what in their lives could give them a purpose that was more meaningful to them then these destructive behaviors.
If you or someone who is close to you is battling these issues, I invite you to look at the special eating disorder page on the website at: http://dawningvisions.com/eating-disorders-are-you-binging-and-purging-learn-how-to-let-it-go/.
There you will be able to find out more about the sad truths about eating disorders and while you are there gain access to the first chapter of my upcoming book: “Do You Have An Eating Disorder? Now What?” It is my hope that you will gain some much needed insight into this problem from a different perspective then you will find in the more conventional treatment models. Feel free to email or call me with any questions you may have regarding how I may be of service to you or someone you love.
Do I have an Eating Disorder? Now What?
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Do I have an Eating Disorder? Now What?