Stop the Manipulation of Those That You Say You Love -Vol. 504, July 4, 2019
I received a question on Quora (a platform where people from around the world ask and others answer questions) from a woman who threatened to drink bleach because her husband was unwilling to stay home from work to comfort her. He thought she needed to sign herself into a mental hospital. She stated that she suffers from depression but is not crazy and asked what she should do.
Well, let me tell you something important here. This was a form of manipulation that this woman was using to get her husband to pay more attention to her because she has no idea how to comfort herself. I told her straight out that this was a manipulative act that she used and that is NEVER OKAY, especially when her husband is doing the best he can to provide for her and her family. I suggested that just making that threat suggested that she probably needed more support then what her husband can give her (or is trained to give her).
I further told this woman that she needs to learn how to better deal with her depression so it doesn’t consume her life. Lastly, I told her that depression is not always an emotional issue. Many times it is caused by a physiological issue such as hormonal imbalances, leaky gut or something else.
The main message that I want to convey here, is that your mental health is your issue. It is up to you to get the professional help you require without quilting those who love you for their inability to help you at every moment you feel you need it. That is not their job, being totally unequipped to deal with it.
I do expect partners to be supportive of one another, however, I don’t expect partners to be manipulated or quilted into anything by their partners. There is a huge difference between these two things. The first feels positive and loving the second feels abusive and terrible.
If you truly love your partner, show some respect for both yourself and for them. If you are unable to respect yourself, by acting in a respectful manner (non-manipulative manner), then you really need to focus on learning how to do that, before expecting others to be able to respect you (and love you).
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Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.