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Some advice from the Nightingale Conant 2% Program
Mar 14 2016
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Some advice from the Nightingale Conant 2% Program
Mar 10 2016
Vol. 352 – March 10, 2016 – Why I am The Anti-therapist, Hypnotist
I saw an advertisement for coaches and change agents who wanted to be interviewed by a coach who has her own internet interview radio show. So, I answered the advertisement to find out more about the opportunity.. After speaking with the woman behind the radio program, I decided that it wasn’t a fit for me. However, she thought it would be a great idea for me to do a blogpost explaining why it is that I consider myself the “Anti-Therapist, Hypnotist.” So, here is my explanation:
It is only after sometimes decades of conventional therapy, sometimes having experienced several so-called rehabilitation centers in the cases of my clients dealing with drug and sex addiction, anorexia and bulimia, that my clients come to me for their “last hope” to be healed
This is the idea that you need to understand: I don’t need or want my clients to feel the “need” for my services, because that is the construct for what is known as a co-dependent relationship and goes against everything that the true hypnotists of yesteryear believed in. Hypnotists for decades and even centuries did their best to heal their patients and clients as quickly as could be done using the correct part of the mind to get these fast results. It is true that it is only recently that we understand the biology behind hypnotism, thanks to brain imaging technology. However, my predecessors were able to create unbelievable healing as quickly as anyone could make happen, with the power of the unconscious mind. Really, if you think about the shamans, medicine men and women, the witch doctor, all understood that to truly help heal a person, one needs to work with the body, mind and spirit – holistically.
Therapists are taught all sorts of theories of growth and development, the diagnostic criteria for payment through their Diagnostic Standard Manual (DSM) for which they must use the codes to be reimbursed by the insurance companies for payment. The only problem with this assessment is that useful symptoms are not always observable, there is a high rate of comorbidity, overlap of symptoms and a lack of specificity of the symptoms. For example one could look at a person who is diagnosed with Bipolar 1, meaning that they experience psychotic symptoms, however, schizophrenics also experience psychotic symptoms as can depressives. Not only that, many of the medications given to stop these symptoms can also cause psychosis.
I had a client come to me many years ago who seemed to have two personalities. She was very calm and sweet normally, yet every now and again this other being would take over., an angry raging woman. The cause of this personality change: a psychotic event caused by antidepressants she was taking at the time.
Further, these therapists learn that a person has a “chemical imbalance” in which they need to have some medication to reduce the symptoms. Unfortunately, most of the medications that have been on the market for these purposes have worked to the degree of a placebo – most especially the antidepressants as Dr. Irving Kirsch of Harvard University has found over 30 years of research on the ‘placebo effect.” His research was backed up by Dr. Walter Brown, of Brown University. Even the National Institute of Health in Great Britain will not allow their doctors to prescribe antidepressants unless the patient is seen to have major depression where suicidal behavior is a great possibility. This because they have noted that these drugs simply do not work on more minor forms of depression. Given the expense and the side effects they aren’t wroth prescribing.
The real kicker here is that Lawrence Blum, M.D., has noted that we have yet to discover a chemical imbalance or biomarker, which is why these drugs really do not work as the pharmaceutical companies would like you to buy into. There is no foundation in science on which to claim they work.
What you need to understand is that symptoms do not correlate with a disorder, yet once the therapist “labels” a person, the licensed medical professionals see things through these labels. Worse, for too many people running around calling themselves ADD, OCD, PTSD, etc, the great majority have never been “diagnosed” by a licensed professional. They have learned to use these labels as a reason to not do many things that they could be doing learning self-helplessness in the process. This problem is compounded the earlier in life the person is when labeled. Why would anyone do things that they don’t want to do, if a label tells someone that they are incapable of doing so?
I had another client many years ago who had an eating disorder. She was living off her church and off her ex’s minimal alimony payments. My goal with her was to let go of the idea that she needed to live off the church she had come to understand was into the occult, and instead figure out a way to use her considerable sewing, quilt making, cooking, or musical skills to create an income for herself. Though she was able to safely get off all of the medications that were prescribed her, got to a decent healthy weight, was thinking much clearer, she never did truly let go of the notion that she could live on her own and be okay. Not everyone is willing to do whatever it takes to live a happy and fulfilling life. Part of the problem here may have been that she was an older person who had lived her life in institutions and off of other people.
So, as a hypnotist my job is to “de-label” my clients allowing them to realize that every human being on the planet has strengths and weaknesses from which to build a life. We all need to have people help us in those areas that we find challenging as we help others in the areas that they find challenging. This is the way every company that ever made any money has done so – different people with different interests and abilities contributing to the whole.
My job as I see it is to help my clients to resolve to be the best person that they can be, using their talents and interests to add some value to the world, bringing them fulfillment in life. A fulfilled life, is a happy and functional life.
Most importantly, though for anyone to heal, the most important gift to be given is unconditional love and support. Because to tell you the truth coming from the world of mental health, conventionally speaking, and elder care – what I was most horrified by was the judgments made by those with the licenses limiting what they thought any given person would be able to achieve as if they were a “god” or a “goddess” to know such things.
I tell my clients from the very beginning that I couldn’t care less how many degrees or licenses a person holds – the only person who has the ability to heal them is them self – once they realize that they are worth the time and effort to do so – with me acting as the facilitator in that healing. They are the experts in their problems, they created them, and so it is that they teach me how to go about how to de-create them – and then the rest is just the process of doing just that – leaving their problems in the past, living their lives in the present as they create their compelling future – because the compelling future is the reason to let go of any and all dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors, and so it is….
Mar 07 2016
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Here is some advice on how to live a happy, furfilled life
Mar 03 2016
13 Tips to Help Your Asperger’s Kids To Navigate the World – Vol. 351 – March 3, 2016
I am currently working with an 18 year old young woman with Asperger’s. She is very intelligent, though she has told herself that she is not. She is funny, capable of reading and writing very well, and has a great talent for singing. However, at this stage in life she is a bit behind where she ought to be because of this thing called Asperger’s.
Feb 29 2016
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Love is grand. So is infatuation. When you are head over heels, how do recognize when they really are the right one?
Feb 25 2016
The Sad Truth About Antidepressants & Psychopharmaceuticals Especially Where Our Children are Concerned – Vol. 350 – February 25, 2016
Ever since Donna N. came into my world, teaching me how psychopharmaceuticals are given out like candy, I have been on a mission to stop this insanity! In her case, she was a grown woman of 58 years, who found herself in a state of what is known as antidepressant discontinuation syndrome, This means that her body was addicted to the 40 mg of Prozac she was just titrated up to. When she missed a dose, inside of 9 hours, she had all sorts of horrible symptoms including: a headache, a stomach ache, feeling like her brain was being zapped, she sweated a lot and had a whole host of symptoms she never felt before. Being a chemist, she was well aware that the serotonin was flooding her body.
My question to you is this: If a grown woman can have this happen to her, what could happen to your smaller child, or teen who has yet to fully develop their brain function? You really don’t want to know. But, before I get into the research that so angers and perplexes me, let me explain from where I am coming.
Listen, if you have a child who is experiencing natural emotions of sadness because their animal or grandparent has died, or, maybe they lost a sibling or a friend to some terminal disease, or died in a freak accident, I have news for you. Your child has every right to be upset. There are many kids who feel they are the cause of their parents breaking up, feeling guilty as well as sad as a result. They can become angry as well when their loving parents put them in the middle their parent’s relationship, which they have no reason to be involved. There are some kids that are bullied in school or on the internet and don’t know how to deal with this invasion into their sense of emotional stability. Hell, I know many adults that don’t know how to deal with this sort of stuff, including mental health professionals them selves, on social media like linkedin groups. However, none of these are reasons to place a kid on the harsh, body destroying medications that are dished out as if they were innocuous forms of treatment.
If you have a kid who is a bit active, full of energy, be glad, because you have a healthy kid. My mother wasn’t so lucky, as I had a brother about four years older than I, who didn’t show the sort of energy she was expecting of her only son. He didn’t move around much at all, letting her know that there was something very wrong with him. Sadly, it took about a year a half for him to be diagnosed with leukemia. He died shortly before his 4th birthday, when I was two months old, so I never got to know him. My two older sisters lost their only brother.
These amphetamines that are given to kids because they will not stay in the school seats for 6 hours a day, many without recess, very little time for their lunches, and gym being cut out of many school days. How in the hell are these kids supposed to diffuse what is their normal energy level? It’s insane and inane to think that one needs to medicate what is a healthy and natural level of energy.
I have read some very daunting articles by experts in the field of child psychiatry who have made it very clear that the DSM5 – the manual that is used to diagnose and thus code the insurance forms used to be paid for these sessions, is nothing more than a manual on how to pathologicalize normal human emotions and behavior.
Homosexuality was listed as a “sociopathic personality disorder” when the DSM was first published in 1952. Believe it or not, it remained listed that way till 1972. This left homosexual people to seek all sorts of therapies including electric shocks and surrogate sex among others to rid them of this rather naturally occurring condition for about 10% of any sexual organism.
Millions are placed on antidepressant medications and stimulants to help them to deal with what has been labeled: bipolar disorder, depression, autism spectrum disorders, ADD/ADHD based on the mythical notion that “chemical imbalances” are the reason behind the mental health diagnoses. The manual lists the various diagnoses from a list of symptoms that are seen as the “indicators” of the diagnoses.
The only problem is that as the truth about the mock research conducted by the pharmaceutical companies and sanctioned by the FDA, shows that these medications only work about as well as a placebo. Irving Kirsch, Ph.D, in psychology, Associate Director of Harvard University’s Program in Placebo Studies and later Dr. Walter Brown, clinical professor of psychiatry at Brown University have proven with over 40 years of research how just 30% of those placed on antidepressants receive any true value from them. This came about as Kirsch was doing research on the placebo effect. decade ago Dr. Irving Kirsch was interviewed on 60 minutes, February 19, 2012 about this exact topic and what he had to say was scary for anyone who was taking these medications. He was able to be honest because he was not having his pockets lined by the “big pharma” companies, allowing us, the mere consumers, to finally get the truth. Here is a link to Baum Hedland report that speaks to that 60 Minutes segment as well as noting their own research having litigated and backed up Kirsch’s claims for over 20 years: http://www.baumhedlundlaw.com/articles/60-minutes-antidepressants-report.php.
What we are currently dealing with in the arena of child psychiatry?
In 2007 alone half a million children, 20,000 of them under the age of six, were prescribed drugs that even a decade before would never have been prescribed for these mild cases. The real issue here is that these drugs have horrible long term effects on our youth such as: obesity, diabetes, and worse of all, suicidal thoughts. I wrote a weblog February 4th The Sad Reality of the Increase in Young Male Suicides of how our male youth suicide rate has increased 400% to 500% since 2007.
With the labeling of Asperger’s Syndrome, many children are receiving special educational services that are necessary for them to succeed. However, the total number of youth given labeled “autistic” including Asperger’s went from 4 out of 100,000 in 1988 to 1 in 88 by 2008, 20 years later.
What needs to change here is simple. Patients need to be given the chance to heal their emotional hurts, with the appropriate tools to do so. In most cases, no medication is required. If a kid is having a hard time in school, lets look at what may be causing the problem. May it be that they are on their cell phones and I-pads playing video games well into the night. There is an easy fix for that called, “No technology is allowed in the child’s bedroom at bedtime.” Or, how about, allowing our youth to get the exercise they need to grow healthfully during their school day, instead of faulting them for being normal active kids? How about engaging them in physical activities and hands on experiences to teach them more fully, instead of believing that lecture and note taking works for everyone, because it certainly does not. And, how about we just allow our kids to be the kids they are. It is our job as the adults to give them the love, support and boundaries that they require to better understand how to navigate this world. In most cases this is all that is needed. We need to get parents to realize that having a child is a “selfless” job and as such whatever that child requires from you, the parent, is what you signed up to give, regardless of any excuses that may be found to blame someone else for not doing well for that child you brought into the world.
I am sick of parents believing that their kids need to fulfill those things that the parent was unable to do for themselves. Worse, making them feel bad about themselves because they made a mistake, didn’t follow through fast enough or missed getting straight “A’s” on their report card. Not every kid is an exceptionally brilliant scholar, gifted athlete or child prodigy musician, so lets have a more realistic assessment of what our kids strengths are and help them to compensate for their weaknesses. Because, as is true in all of nature, every creature has its assets and liabilities.
Most of all we need to allow our kids to be human beings. To have a chance to experience life beyond the overly scheduled norm of today. Kid’s are meant to learn through playing, being curious and using their imaginations to create all sorts of cool stuff. Taking that away from them by forcing them to fit a parent’s idea of who that child ought to be is a definite way to have a severely traumatized kid. Adding unnecessary medications to the mix, you are doing so at your kid’s peril.
Feb 22 2016
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Our mentors, coaches and teachers play such a huge role in our lives. Whose council you choose to follow can be the difference between success and failure. Here are some criteria on how to select the right mentor for you.