Mar 02 2023

What is the Psychological Effect When One Ignores a Young Child’s Feelings? Vol. 618 – March 2, 2023

Based on the issues that my clients bring with them into my practice, ignoring a young child’s feelings in some cases stops their ability to normally attach to others. They don’t understand why they don’t feel close to others and they end up feeling very lonely. Some become sex addicts and romance addicts.

Depression and anxiety, loss of self-esteem as well as anorexia and bulimia, fit those who end up “self-loathing” their term, not mine.

When an infant is born, that baby needs unconditional love, needs a physical and emotional attachment to grow up with self-love and respect with the ability to attach to others normally – most important while developing a mating partnership.

You can search the blogs on this website for other articles on these subjects to better explain how these emotional issues occur.

Jan 26 2023

How Do You Cope With Change? Vol. 617, January 26, 2022

I am a person who thrives on change and gets bored very easily with the status quo. I have been known to do things to upset the status quo because of my boredom. It has made for a very interesting life.

So, how does one cope with the change?  You realize that there can always be a positive aspect to it, even if the change isn’t something you desired. In my own case, when my ex wanted out of our 20 years plus marriage, I was not happy about it – I was not yet ready to be on my own financially though I was quickly headed in that direction. However, it was much better that he leave because though we still loved one another, we were no longer IN LOVE with one another. We had grown at different rates emotionally and wanted different things in life. With his leaving, I was able to have my independence back which allowed me to travel and live in the different places that I was called to move to or visit.

If it is a job situation – man I have had so many jobs, I have lost count. I either fired most of my bosses or they fired me. I learned that I am unemployable because I have my own mind and my own way of doing things that don’t usually meet the requirements of the red tape and general bullshit that organizations put in place for legal reasons.

So, I have found that self-employment is the best way for me to go even though it is a challenge at times – however, the only people I have to work for are my clients whom I do my best to hire only those that best fit my manner of practicing hypnosis because I am only the right fit for those who are ready to ‘change’ now. I am not into endless appointments and going over the same sad stories. If I wanted to do that I could have become a licensed mental health practitioner – that is what they do all day long. No, I like to hear the story once, clear all the negative emotions and limiting beliefs as quickly as possible and get my clients working on putting their compelling futures in place. Those who are ready to heal love that concept even if it includes my kicking them in the proverbial ass on the way. The others, well they would be a better fit for a practitioner who would prefer to listen to the stories of woe endlessly.

My work is that of doing ‘change’ work for my clients and that is the way it is done. You make a decision to make the change even if it seems a bit scary because one doesn’t know what’s on the other side – and most times one will be better for making the change for the change needed to be made anyway.

Jan 19 2023

Common Responses Clients Experience While In the Hypnotic State, Vol. 615, January 19, 2023

A person on Quora asked me what the common experiences that people have while they are in the state of hypnosis are. This is how I answered that question:
 
Having been hypnotized myriads of times both in the clinical setting and on the stage of a few stage hypnotists I can tell you the following:
 
1. There are responses that allow one to know that one is hypnotized. A clinical hypnotist will tell you what those are so that you know that you have been hypnotized. Some of these responses are swallowing a lot more than usual, pulse and heart rate slowing down, circular breathing from the diaphragm, eyes will flutter, the hypnotist will be looking for the lines in your lips to be less deep, a slight color change in your face to a bit redder. (Some hypnotists will give their clients convincers like sticking their feet to the floor unable to move them to prove to the client they were indeed hypnotized).
 
2. The client may feel like they are heavy or lighter, sometimes one feels tingles in their fingers and/or toes, and time feels much quicker than it actually is.
 
3. It is much easier to gain access to the subconscious material that needs to be found and worked with while one is in the hypnotic state which is why it is used.
 
4. The work goes a lot quicker than conventional talk therapy because we are working. in the subconscious mind where the transformations need to happen.
 
5. In stage shows one realizes that the suggestion may not be real, however, the volunteer acts as if that suggestion is real. i.e. A suggestion given that a man is pregnant and giving birth – the man knows that he isn’t pregnant, but will act out the suggestion as if he is a good hypnotic subject.
 
6. Stage hypnotists have to be very good at discerning the volunteers who are actually hypnotized and those that may be pretending which they can tell by giving suggestions and seeing how the volunteer responds along with the above-given symptoms of hypnosis.
 
7. Mostly, when one is in treatment with a hypnotist who knows how to use the tools and techniques well, one can go to those hard places in one’s memory and transform it quickly to let go of that which no longer works and create thinking that does work better for the client.
 
I have been practicing hypnotism for the past 20 years and my clients have reported that this was the one way they found to clear out their issues when everything else they tried failed. It is important to find a hypnotist who has proven that they are able to help people with the issues that they have so that you receive the results that you are employing them to help you receive. Because the reality of the situation is that no one can heal another – all we as practitioners can do is facilitate another’s healing to the point that they allow us to. This means that we have to know everything that is bothering our clients so we can help free them of the issues.

Jan 12 2023

Can Hypnosis Help with Anxiety and PTSD? Vol. 614, Jan. 12, 2023

I have been able to help my clients let go of PTSD with hypnotic techniques. It is not a matter of 1 session because one session isn’t going to be able to take care of all the requisite issues involved in this situation.

I have a program that I use to help let go of PTSD (any type of anxiety of which PTSD one forms, no matter what the type of anxiety is being treated). It involves going back to the very first incident that occurred and desensitizing it and all the incidents based on that original incident up till ‘now.’ meaning when the client is doing the work with me.

Then I do another neuro-linguistic de-sensitizing technique.

Next, we do the inner child healing work because it is the inner child(ren) in the client’s subconscious mind that needs to know that it is safe and no longer needs to create the PTSD symptoms to keep the client safe.

Because I take this multifactor approach to help my clients heal, I have a 95% success rate. Those who are unable to heal with this work are those who are not ready to let it go. I do have other techniques to get the subconscious mind to let go of its protective defense mechanisms, however, the client needs to be ready to allow these techniques to work.

I also have learned over the 2 decades I have been doing this work to screen out those who are not yet ready to let these symptoms go. I know it sounds counterintuitive to say that, but we need to understand that there is a protective reason for any problem to remain even though it looks from the outside to be a damaging situation. So, my job is to get people to be ‘at cause’ for their problems so they can let them go. It’s not about blaming anyone for anything as much as acknowledging that our subconscious mind is doing its job and that we need to do what we need to do to transform the negative thoughts and behaviors to life-giving fulfilling thoughts and behaviors.

Thanks for the question giving me the opportunity to explain how this all works. It isn’t difficult to work, it’s actually quite simple. However, the client needs to be ready to do it and follow through with it all – luckily the great majority are more than willing to do sick of dealing with their anxiety be it PDSD, C-PTSD, generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, etc.).

Jan 05 2023

How Does Hypnotism Work? Vol. 613, Jan. 5, 2023

 
Hypnotism requires many things but as Larry Elman stated breathing is not always an important aspect of having people enter the hypnotic state such as when one uses instant inductions – meaning the person is put into a trance in a matter of 10 seconds or less.
 
That being better understood there are many ways to induce someone into a trance state besides the instant induction which is used during the stage shows because the audience is not interested in watching the volunteers go into trance – I have seen some of the more talented stage craft hypnotists do it with a person merely reading one line on a paper that was handed from one volunteer to the next with the induction occurring as instantly as can happen – like as quickly as reading one line of type.
 
I do a take on the Dave Elman induction (Larry’s father) who is the hypnotist I believe was the best at the art of helping people heal with hypnotism and he was a ‘lay’ hypnotist – meaning he didn’t have any licensure to practice medicine or mental health, yet taught thousands of dentists and doctors how to help their patients heal through offering workshops all around the US where the medical pros would bring their hardest cases for Dave Elman to demonstrate how true healing is done!
 
The induction that I used takes a matter of 2 or so minutes and I do indeed include a few deep breaths that are held for a few seconds before exhaling because this act calms the brain naturally with the oxygenation of the blood in the brain. From there I begin the actual induction into hypnotism.
 
Others love to use progressive relaxation which I personally feel is a waste of therapeutic time because as the late great Jerry Kien (who learned much of how to do hypnotism in the fashion of Dave Elman’s work) stated when you can put a person into a deep trance in 2 minutes, why waste a half hour doing that? Great question and one that many need to better understand because relaxation occurs as soon as the person is in a trance so one needn’t waste all that time.
So, to understand how one is led into a hypnotic trance state, it is all about heightened focus, and giving suggestions that prove beyond a doubt that the person is in an altered state, i.e. the trance state by having them experience interesting sensory input that a conscious (person who is in the normal waking state of the brain operating in beta wavelength) would never be able to create without the trance state where the brain waves are slowed down to alpha (like when one suspends reality such as when engrossed in a great novel or movie) or theta where they are more deeply entranced and can perceive things that aren’t in front of them, yet they see them anyway, or don’t see those things in front of them given the suggestion that the individual cannot see the object being asked about.
 
However, the best reason to learn how to use hypnotism is to empower yourself to do those things that you do want to do and to stop doing those things that you realize are against your best interests. To be able to understand when others are playing with your brain and stop it at once because there are many folks out there who understand how to use the hypnotic state to get you to do things they want you to do most especially the marketers on the television and computers, the internet pornographers (I specialize in helping sex addicts and wrote a book on this subject so learned how the pornographers get their viewers to do things that they never had any interest in doing before and can’t figure out how that happened to them), politicians, and religious leaders especially on the internet and television who are asking their viewers to donate money that the viewer may not even have for that purpose. These folks hypnotize you without your even realizing it by repeating endlessly to you in a very emotional manner to get you to act! And, that is indeed how many people end up with the emotional and physical problems they have, by having authority figures yell at them putting them into a heightened emotional state, usually when a person is under the age of 8 when they can’t reason, judge, rationalize, or understand the other person was just upset with someone else before they entered the home and just took out that upset on the poor kid who was there at the time.
 
I am happy to bust some myths and educate people on how to use this beautifully relaxed state for their own positive lives, instead of never understanding how everyday encounters can indeed be a form of hypnotizing them, without understanding how or why it is done.

Dec 29 2022

What are some common experiences one has when hypnotized? Vol. 612, Dec. 29, 2022

This was a great question asked by someone on Quora and this is how I answered it: 

Having been hypnotized myriads of times both in the clinical setting and on the stage of a few stage hypnotists I can tell you the following:

  1. There are responses that allow one to know that one is hypnotized. A clinical hypnotist will tell you what those are so that you know that you have been hypnotized. Some of these symptoms are swallowing a lot more than usual, pulse and heart rate slowing down, circular breathing from the diaphragm, eyes will flutter, the hypnotist will be looking for the lines in your lips to be less deep, a slight color change in your face to a bit redder. (Some hypnotists will give their clients convincers like sticking their feet to the floor unable to move them to prove to the client they were indeed hypnotized).
  2. The client may feel like they are heavy or lighter, sometimes one feels tingles in their fingers and/or toes, and time feels much quicker than it actually is.
  3. It is much easier to gain access to the subconscious material that needs to be found and worked with while one is in the hypnotic state which is why it is used.
  4. The work goes a lot quicker than conventional talk therapy because we are working. in the subconscious mind where the transformations need to happen.
  5. In stage shows one realizes that the suggestion may not be real, however, the volunteer acts as if that suggestion is real. i.e. A suggestion given that a man is pregnant and giving birth – the man knows that he isn’t pregnant, but will act out the suggestion as if he is a good hypnotic subject.
  6. Stage hypnotists have to be very good at discerning the volunteers who are actually hypnotized and those that may be pretending which they can tell by giving suggestions and seeing how the volunteer responds along with the above-given symptoms of hypnosis.
  7. Mostly, when one is in treatment with a hypnotist who knows how to use the tools and techniques well, one can go to those hard places in one’s memory and transform it quickly to let go of that which no longer works and create thinking that does work better for the client.

I have been practicing hypnotism for the past 20 years and my clients have reported that this was the one way they found to clear out their issues when everything else they tried failed. It is important to find a hypnotist who has proven that they are able to help people with the issues that they have so that you receive the results that you are employing them to help you get. Because the reality of the situation is that no one can heal another – all we as the practitioner can do is facilitate another’s healing to the point that they allow us to. This means that we have to know everything that is bothering our clients so we can help free them of the issues.

Dec 22 2022

How do I fill the void in my heart? Vol. 611, Dec. 22, 2022

This was a question asked by a person on Quora and this is how I answered it: 

Voids in the heart are due to a lack of loving yourself and then being unable to accept the love of others based on my 35 years in mental health.

So, get yourself in front of a mirror and find those things that you appreciate about your appearance.

Then get into a comfy chair or lie on a bed and get relaxed and go deep inside yourself to find those wonderful attributes you have as a person – friendly, caring, smart, resourceful, etc. as examples.

Find like-minded people interested in those things you truly enjoy doing.

So many people have been told they aren’t good enough as they are, or more likely coded some angry remark made by an overworked stressed-out parent to mean they weren’t good enough when the comment wasn’t even about them really. They were too young to understand this thing called ‘projection.’

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