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Let’s Get Real With Yourself, Vol. 448, April 12, 2018

This is a very important blog post because it brings home the reality of what happens when you stop listening to your inner wisdom, your subconscious mind, your inner turmoil – whatever you want to call it, it is all the same thing.

My best friend from college, who was all of 57 years old passed away this March 1, on the operating table as the surgeons were trying to put a stent into his carotid artery, which was 70% clogged up. They found this out after running a tracer blood test, finding that there was a heart problem. My friend was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes a couple of years ago. His brother who was five years older than he died at the age of 50 of a heart attack secondary to his type 2 diabetes twelve years ago.

When I found out of my friend’s passing, I called all the people that I had introduced my friend to over the years. These were people who had interacted with him through many years of my throwing parties, and his sharing his very moving Passover celebrations through the years. Told them all that to let them know that he had died of a “broken heart.” The reason was very simple: he felt abandoned by everyone who he felt close to through the years and didn’t feel the need to continue going on living. The first time he told me this was about eight years ago when he thought he was having a heart attack. The actual problem was that his bowels were so clogged up that they hit his heart. The doctors had told him at the time that he was lucky to have it treated when he did because if his bowels exploded, he could have died right then.

Both his kids were still in college at the time, so this was not an appropriate time for my friend to “cash out.” Always being direct and to the point with him, I told him that given the fact that his kids were still in college, it was a bit selfish to “be done living” as he put it, to his face, as we stood in his kitchen.

Now, this is the thing that I want you to pay attention to: He didn’t need to die, feeling sorry for himself for whatever it was that he felt he no longer had regarding his relationships. He was on vacation with his girlfriend when he had the seizure that lead him to be rushed by ambulance to the hospital. He had a wonderful relationship with his son. So, he did indeed have people who were close to him and loved him. The thing that he didn’t have, was the ability to forgive those he felt abandoned him (emotionally) letting him slide down this very sad slope to his premature death.

So, what is it that you are not dealing with, regarding those negative thoughts that you have running in through your mind? You know the ones that I am speaking of. I know you do. Because we humans were made to be hyper-vigilant regarding all negativity to keep us safe. But, these days, we don’t have to stay safe from wild animals – we need to allow ourselves the downtime necessary to do those things that are important to us.

We need to turn off the damn phones while we interact with others to let them know that they are the only person we are there to be with at that moment in time.

We need to turn off all the notifications we get from emails coming in on all our technology and set aside time for us to do our “deep work” that needs true focus to get done.

We need to give ourselves the time to do those things that nurture us personally, like journaling, gratitudes, prayers, self-hypnosis and regular activity that we enjoy so we will do it, to keep our bodies strong.

We need to eat Whole Foods that will nourish our bodies instead of inflame them.
And, most of all we need to set strong boundaries with those who are in our lives, most especially those who show a definite lack of respect, care or interest in what we are doing. This is one aspect of the work that I do with all my clients who see me because of mental anguish or physical illness they come to me to let go. It is what allows them to be “free” at long last of the negative influence of these people.

Do remember that your environment is most important and that includes those with whom you interact, especially on a regular basis.

So, take an inventory of your thoughts, recognizing that your thoughts do indeed create your reality as you experience it, allowing for illness or health. The choice is yours, based on what you choose to do to take care of yourself… or not.

Trust me, I know, having had to deal with many of my own health issues, both emotional and physical through too many years to count. However, I never lost hope of finding ways to irradiate them all, and I did so.

Our minds are the MOST powerful tool we have to help us to achieve most anything we choose to set our attention on.

So, what are you attending to, and what are you fooling yourself over?

It could very well mean the difference between staying alive while enjoying a great quality of life, or suffering for years and succumbing to an early death. The choice is entirely yours

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