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So many people wear masks every day. Let yourself breathe and be authentic.
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Oct 18 2018
Depression Can Cause Your Brain’s Hippocampus to Shrink
Depression Can Cause Your Brain’s Hippocampus to Shrink, Vol. 472, October 18, 2018
A study in Molecular Psychiatry found that in people who had experienced repeated bouts of depression, the hippocampus can shrink up to 10%. The hippocampus is the area of the brain that is responsible for developing healthy emotions and forming memories. When subjects started experiencing depression before the age of 21, the physical changes were more obvious.
The good news is that you can reverse the brain damage with the neuroplasticity of your brain. This was proven in a ten-year study that was done in Stockholm demonstrating that the damage to the hippocampus can be reversed. The hippocampus is one of the most regenerative areas in the body, where it can develop new nerves. It seems that effective and early treatment with antidepressants can help with the process, based on that study.
I know that when I work with my clients, I always do a detailed personal history that tells me what their “compelling future” based on doing something to make the world better for having been here. This is so important as it replaces the need to hold on to an illness that is destructive with the ability to kill. We clear all the emotional traumas that come up, do the necessary forgiveness work and inner child work. We concentrate on increasing activity, eating nutritious food to help develop the neurotransmitters for healthy emotions and make sure there is a social support system in place.
It is entirely possible to let go of depression if one understands the cause of it, because the truth of the matter is that many times, it has nothing to do with emotions and much more to do with physiological issues such as hormonal imbalances or leaky gut, which prevents the absorption of the amino acids necessary to make the neurotransmitters.
In any case, there is certainly help to be had, and it needn’t include body damaging long-term use of antidepressants. In fact, I am much happier when my clients come to me before going on medications, so we can work with a clear mind
Oct 15 2018
250: Birthdays!
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Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her reflections about life on her birthday.
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Oct 11 2018
Are Your Apologies Real Apologies?
Are Your Apologies Real Apologies, Vol. 471, October 11, 2018
So often when we upset others, an apology is in order. The only problem is that more often then not, these apologies are given as a means to appease the person hurt, instead of being a real apology.
In order to truly apologize you need to take a few steps.
- Tell the person from your heart, that you are sorry.
- Ask them what you need to do differently in the future to never repeat the same situation.
- Actively put that suggestion into action, to heal the hurt.
- Allow the hurt person the time it will take to forgive you. This is something that only the person who was hurt has any control over.
I bring this up because it is actually very damaging to the relationship to sarcastically say you are sorry. This really causes deeper hurt then if you said nothing.
Think to the last time someone hurt you by doing something that you didn’t want them to do. Think back to if you ever received an apology. If so, was it the type of apology that healed the hurt, or was it just an appeasement to get you off their back? If you feel better after the apology was given, you are on the right track. However, it really should be done with the steps above in place to allow the most healing of the relationship.
Oct 08 2018
249:Dealing With Negative People While Having Chronic Health Issues
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Our health is the most important item we have in our lives. Any serious chronic health issues are trouble enough. Dealing with a health issue while also dealing a toxic person or people is almost impossible. Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck discusses this all too common phenomenon.
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Oct 04 2018
Couples, Stop Your Arguing For Your Health
Couples, Stop Your Arguing, For Your Health, Vol. 470, October 4, 2018
Relationships can hurt you if you are creating a lot of stress through regular arguments, especially if you suffer from a chronic condition like arthritis or diabetes. This according to a new study by the researchers at Penn State. Here is some advise that was given by Tana Amen, in her blog to help you to take control of both your relationship and your health:
- Take responsibility for yourself by continually asking what you can do to make the relationship better. This means being empowered to make necessary changes regardless of fault.
- Empathy for the other person, meaning the ability to feel what others feel. When you experience negative behavior ask yourself these three questions:
- Did I do anything to cause it?
- What is going on with the other person?
- What small thing could I do to make things better now?
3. Active Listening to check the meaning of the message by asking:
- “I’m not sure I understand what you said, Did you say…?”
- “Did I understand you correctly, Are you saying…?
4. Assertiveness by expressing your thoughts and feelings in a firm, yet reasonable way, without allowing others to overrun your boundaries. Remember that anger usually occurs in the absence of respect.
5. Time is required for relationships to grow. This means talking to one another eye-to-eye, soul-to-soul with cell phones off.
6. Inquire into the thoughts that make you suffer from hurt. Tana suggests writing down those things that your spouse has done that hurt you and then ask if it is true. Also, it is most important to turn the question around on yourself and ask yourself if you are guilty of the same behavior. You may find that you are just as guilty as your partner.
7. Noticing what you like more then what you don’t, meaning that you are focusing on the behaviors that you like. If your spouse does something special for you, acknowledge it and show gratitude to your spouse for doing the special action. My ex used to make me tea every morning, and I very much appreciated it for example.
8. Grace & forgiveness, for holding onto anger and hurts will increase the stress hormones that have negative health effects in numerous ways. Ask yourself if the item that you are holding the grudge for, is something that really matters in the context of your whole life’s experience. If not, let it go, by focusing on something more important, making it something positive if possible.
I can tell you from the many couples that I have worked with over the years, that many issues are resolvable with a bit of empathy and forgiveness. In those cases where the relationship has been destructive for many years, it becomes apparent in that there really is no longer any love left, living more as roommates then as a couple. In the worse cases, manipulative and destructive behaviors were occurring.
Be real with your assessment of what is going on. If it is fixable, do what you can to heal. If it is obvious that you are unhappy and have been unhappy for a very long time, perhaps it is time to move on.
Oct 01 2018
248:Making A Heartfelt Apology
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We all make mistakes in relationships because we are human. Whether we apologize and how we apologize for those mistakes can make all the difference in whether those relationships become stronger or weaker.
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