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Jul 09 2020
I Feel That I May be a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Many psycholgist have told me that I am not, so why am I so scared of hurting others?
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I Feel That I May be a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Many psychologists have told me that I am not, so why am I so scared of hurting others? – Vol. 556, July 9, 2020
This was a question asked by a person on Quora and this is how I answered it:
I find it interesting that many psychiatrists and therapists told you that you didn’t have BPD and that you have a hard time believing them.
There are many overlapping symptoms that BPD people have with others – most especially those with bipolar with mood dysregulation and impulsive behavior. but there are some differences between the two that make them different.
People with BPD have instant changes in mood. They go from being very happy one second and the very next they will be exploding in rage. Something tripped them over the edge. In the psychiatric world, it is known as being ‘labile.’ (I think that is the spelling). Where a bipolar person experiencing rapid moods would shift every 3 weeks instead of 6 months or less between their high mood state and their depressed mood state (depending on if they were more likely to have hypomania (below mania) or mania where psychotic symptoms appear).
BPDs tend to be very good at triangulation. They will glom onto a person and overwhelm them with their presence. If that same person pisses them off, even one time, they will tell them that they want nothing more to do with them and then go to another person and tell them how great they are while putting down the previous person. It’s called splitting and BPDs are notorious for it.
Rage is another issue that is common in BPDs and it can come out at any time with the simplest of triggers, many times unknown to those who are the bystanders when it occurs.
Lastly, fear of abandonment is their greatest fear.
There are other symptoms, but these are the ones that are very much aligned with BPD vs other similar diagnoses in the DSM.
I guess my question for you to ask yourself is where your fear of hurting someone is coming from because there are an infinite amount of reasons why someone may have developed that fear most not having a thing to do with BPD.
It may come from things that were integrated into your unconscious mind when you were a little kid that is not known to you consciously – obviously being a hypnotist this is an area of my expertise. Or, it could be that you hurt someone in the past and are fearful of repeating it again… just a few ideas that come to mind.
I wouldn’t be so interested in a DSM label, but I would think it a good idea to figure out where the fear is coming from.
You can look at the material on my business website. There is a ton of it there – over 700 pages since we upload weblogs and podcasts every week – all for the landing on the page – and check out the information on there. It really is an encyclopedia of information where we cover many different subjects both to do with the pathology of mental illness, hypnosis, and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)and even physical health issues. You can look up the hypnosis tab on the top menu bar and there is a drop-down of the various pages that explain it and NLP. If you go to a blog post and go down to the very bottom of the right side menu there is a search box and you can put any search term in there that you would like information on. All the blog posts, podcasts, and testimonials that are relevant will show up for you. You can access the website at: Home
Just be sure to not get too lost on there.
Thanks for the question, because many people get very confused as various diagnoses mean (and of course what they don’t mean as well).
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Jul 06 2020
Claim Your Excellent Life #308 – Making Your Goals With Better Productivity, Concentration, and Determination
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Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck discusses the mindset necessary to achieve goals.
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Jul 03 2020
Opening a New Group on Facebook – Specifically for MEN AGES 40 to 60 with TypE 2 Diabetes
A few years ago I lost my best friend from college due to heart disease secondary to his type 2 diabetes. Though he had many other health issues, heart disease was not among them. In an effort to stop this from happening again to men in this age group, men who have kids in high school or college, wives that love them, and people with whom he works from having to lose him I have started a brand new Free Facebook Group.
I am dedicating this work to my best friend, Richard, and the life that he lived helping hundreds of adults with developmental disabilities get the appropriate care as a case manager for them. I have learned much about this particular form of type 2 diabetes and if you go to the group and join it, you will be able to access a free PDF that I put together that allows you to best understand the realities of this disorder.
The great news is that it is totally reversible in 90% of the cases, however, you have to understand the physiology in place so you better understand how to best help yourself. The PDF that I have on that page will help you to get that information as a starting point to learning what it is that you are actually dealing with, instead of the bogus information that the usual conventional doctor will give you and indeed will make you sicker and maybe even kill you as happened to Richard. He was taking all the mediations as prescribed, but he wasn’t doing what he needed to do, which is very clear. I speak a little to that in the PDF for your better understanding. If you are a man 40-60 years old recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes go here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/disappearingtype2diabetessafelyfreegroup/
I look forward to helping you to reverse this illness allowing you to get your ‘normal’ life back.
Jul 02 2020
Is It Possible for One to Have Emotional Trauma Cause Physical Pain?
Is It Possible for One to Have Emotional Trauma Cause Physical Pain? -Volume 555, July 2, 2020
This was a question that was asked by a person on Quora – a forum where people ask and answer questions on all sorts of information. This was the way in which I answered the question based on a few case histories from my practice:
Yes, indeed emotional trauma can cause physical pain. It’s called semantic pain.
I had a client ages ago who suffered from horrific pains in her stomach. Some felt like they were a stabbing pain and another felt like a belt of pain across her stomach. It made her bedridden for 5 years and none of the fancy psychiatrists at one of the best hospitals in the US could help her with it because it was based on being emotionally abused by her father when she was a young girl.
I also had two clients referred to me by an acupuncturist friend who had migraines. These were due to their parents’ very invasive and demanding manner in terms of when and how they wanted to spend time with their grandchildren. In both cases, their emotional boundaries were being overrun by their mothers. One of the mothers was particularly nasty, putting her down right in front of her own kids who were very young at the time. So, she was very clear that she would let her parents know when they could visit and to stop coming by the house whenever they chose. It was interfering with the kids’ nap times on top of everything else.
The other woman had a more difficult time dealing with the overrunning of her boundaries by her parents. She allowed them to take control and immediately her migraines came back. If nothing else it proved the point as to where the migraines were coming.
One needs to get to the bottom of the trauma that has caused the somatized pain in order to get it to go away.
These are particularly interesting cases, and the conventional practitioners really have a hard time with it because this information is in the subconscious mind which the conventionally trained mental health professionals have not learned how to work in – which they all need to learn if they really want to be as effective as they could be. Much of the information that we need to reach is hidden in the subconscious and that comes under the profession of hypnotism which includes neuro-linguistic programming (because one has to bypass the conscious mind (prefrontal cortex) in order to enter the subconscious mind (amygdala) the emotional part of the mind where there is no judgment, reasoning or rationalization in order to do the clearing work.
You can find out more about these modalities on my business website at:
Look up the testimonial by L.E. – she explains it in her own words, is a brilliant woman who did finally manage to earn her Ed.D. once she got rid of the pain, which was quite fantastic!
Jun 29 2020
Claim Your Excellent Life #307 – Do you need to see a therapist if you don’t have any real issues?
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Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her thoughts on seeing a therapists when you don’t have any serious mental health issues.
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Jun 25 2020
What did my therapist mean when she said I had a cavalier attitude and was unwilling to change?
What did my therapist mean when she said I had a cavalier attitude and was unwilling to change? Vol. 554, June 25, 2020
I loved this question from a Quoran because there are many ways that one could interpret the answer. Some of the other folks who answered were quite smug in telling the questioner that the person knew exactly what the therapist’s meant. However, that is not necessarily the case. This is how I answered that question:
I imagine that your therapist has come to believe that you are a bit egotistical and fighting to stay stuck in the same situation that brought you to her practice. So, that being said, the only one who can assess if this is true or not, is you.
Go deep inside yourself and ask yourself if you are fighting to stay the way you are, or if there is a disconnect between you and your therapist. If so, change therapists. You have hired her so you can change any time you choose to. Having a good fit with a therapist is a difficult thing to find – so it may take you a couple of tries to find the right person.
That being said, my clients come to me because I kick them in the proverbial ass, by letting them know that they are talking out of both sides of their mouths, or maybe not being honest with themselves. Its called holding them accountable because they are unable to do it for themselves. It isn’t true of all my clients, but it is true of those who have dealt with some form of self-manipulation and therefore manipulation of others which they have finally recognized is of no help to their having healthy relationships with those in their lives.
Good luck with the self-inquiry and thanks for the A2A because many others wouldn’t have had the guts to even ask the question.