This was a question that I received from a person on Quora.  This is how I answered it: 

Thanks for this question. I am going to answer it from the point of view of the practitioner instead of as the client to give you what I believe is a better answer to your question as a Hypnotist/NLP practitioner.

First, do understand that folks who work in the world of mental health realize that their patients are there because of the difficulties that they are dealing with – so there will be times when the patient may get upset, angry, overwhelmed, whatever. It is to be expected quite frankly especially if the therapy is headed in the direction of dealing with core issues for the problems – giving ‘reality checks’ as I like to call them, for if the patient had the ability to understand what the larger scheme of things was, they wouldn’t need to employ a therapist, would they? It is the therapist’s job to show the patient better ways of understanding those things that are going on in their lives and sometimes that means telling them things they ‘need’ to hear instead of those things they want to hear.

I have mentioned it on Quora a few times, that even before I hire a client, I let them know that there will most assuredly be times when they may dislike me, for those things that I may say to them. Sometimes it is because I got something wrong that they were trying to explain to me and sometimes it will be because I am telling them truths that they don’t want to hear about themselves or those they love (as it came from their own subconscious minds from the hypnotic perspective). In either case, it is through the processing of these events that the client is better able to go out in their own world and interact more confidently and honestly. Those clients who understand that this is the reason for the therapy and are open to this dynamic are those that I am more readily willing to hire on as clients. Because, one can’t grow if one isn’t willing to take responsibility (and yes, there have been many, many times when I had to own my own shortcomings during sessions with my clients). I let them know that if I do or say something that causes them to feel negative to tell me so that we can work through it because it is bound to happen. Humility works in both directions.

So, no, your therapist ought not to be offended because of your feelings – instead, your therapist is there to help you to deal with whatever happened and help you heal it, and hopefully strengthen your trust in the process.

Thanks again for the question, because I am guessing that there are many others who have this concern and needed to get an answer to the situation.

Due to the large amount of fear and upset, many more people are becoming depressed than before the COVID-19 issues arose. Because of this higher incidence of depression, I thought I would upload the video interview that Paula Kalik did with me back in 2019.

The interview runs for about an 1.5 hours, and includes a hypnotic induction to help clear any survivor’s guilt from those who have lost loved ones due to suicide. This was something that she had been dealing with at the time of the interview, so instead of just talking about it, I helped her to clear it. All you need do when the interview gets to that point, is close your eyes and follow along. 

Here’s the link: 

I sincerely hope that this will help anyone who needs it! 

This was an interesting question that someone on Quora asked me. We all have times when we wish we could forget things that we said or did, or things that were said and done to us. In any case, this is how I answered the question: 

One really can’t brainwash themselves to forget anything so far as I am aware. One tends to repress those memories that the conscious mind finds too emotionally difficult to handle.

I do believe that you are asking this question because you either did something that you feel guilt or shame about OR someone hurt you in some manner.

The best way to deal with it to let it go is to remember that there is no one on this planet who hasn’t made some mistakes along the way – some of them quite terrible – losing a ton of money in bad partnerships or investments, others having done things to land themselves in jail as some of the worst – yet, even in these situations what needs to occur is a sense of forgiveness.

Forgiveness comes when we realize that we all have the stories of our lives which brought us to where we are currently at. Realize that we are all doing the best we can with what we have at the time.

I know for myself I have done some really screwed up things in my past and it had much to do with lack of judgment due to my manic depression (that was what bipolar was known as at the time). I never used it as an excuse, so I did what I could to make up for that which I did wrong as best I could. But, I also didn’t shame myself for having an illness that I didn’t ask for. So, now many years later having been able to let go of it completely since 2004 through the help of my NLP trainer – I can see it as just something that occurred in my past and am much more helpful to those who also do strange things because of their illnesses, without judging them for the behavior. -as people are not their behavior.

It is the same thing when I think of others who have done me wrong. I had a situation when I left California where I had a very unstable roommate who destroyed my room after I left because the landlady wouldn’t let her move in there (away from the smoking on the deck outside the kitchen which was next to her room). I got charged for the damages she did (so lock your room before you leave if you have roommates where you currently life – an important side lesson). The thing here is that I was indeed very angry at the landlady because I had never done anything crazy and had no reason to do anything to reduce the security deposit I would be getting back – but she was really getting even with me for something I texted her by accident (be careful before hitting that ‘send” on your text) that was meant for my other roommate. At least that is my belief because she and I never go on well after that occurrence – yeah it was a rather large blunder.

What I realized was that these folks are doing the best they can do – still stuck in their various sad situations and I am no longer stuck there with them – so, let it go and send them white light and love for their own healing.

It is all only perception anyway, so it is best to have a perception that is helpful to one’s health and wellbeing than to continue to allow one’s mind to make them crazy, right.

Live in the present moment and these things of the past have no real impact. It is only when we are too focused on the past or the future that we allow our minds to make us crazy.

Thanks for the question on behalf of all those who will be reading it in future days.