This is your therapist, right? It is your therapist’s job to be able to deal with whatever you need to deal with as long as you do it respectfully. So, no, it is not okay to ‘ghost’ your therapist due to financial reasons. It is much better to be upfront about the financial situation and see what can be worked out between the two of you. I have had several clients over the years who have gone through challenging times paying their bills the same as I have. We are all human, so why don’t you just explain your situation and see what your therapist can do for you? In my case, I offer my clients the option to split the payment in two if necessary or provide them with a different date for when the money can be paid. There has always been a way to make it work for both of us so the client could continue their healing process and I could be paid, even if it took longer to get that done.
Jul 04 2024
ARE YOU FEELING A BIT OVERWHELMED?
Living in Golem, Albania for the last 18 months and observing from afar the crazy situation in the U.S. I can only imagine that you may wonder what is going on with our country because I know I am constantly asking myself this question. I find it incredible that the Southern Border is open to anyone who feels like entering our country without being screened for who they are, any diseases they may have, and anything else a country needs to know about any person who enters.
I also know that people are more and more on edge these days because of all the craziness.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, or know someone who could use a bit of a clearing up of these feelings, by all means, send me an email to: suzanne@dawningvisions.com and we will set up a Zoom call or a FaceTime call and find out what we can do to make life feel normal again for you.
I have enough space for 2 clients on my calendar right now. So, hurry and get your place if you need it.
In service to you,
Suzanne
May 30 2024
At What Cost? May 30, 2024
I had a conversation recently with a health coach who wanted me to recommend an abundance coach for her to refer her patients who are looking for such a person.
My response to her was very direct: There is no such thing as an abundance coach because there is no such thing as abundance being created in the financial realm by anything other than learning the math required in the various investments one can make that will build financial abundance.
Most people who call themselves ‘abundance’ coaches have no such knowledge and instead focus on ‘mindset’ because it is theorized that those who have learned that having wealth is bad can never create it. Well, this theory may hold some truth, but one still needs to grasp the mathematics behind making sound investments, a knowledge that abundance coaches lack in my 30 years of helping others with mindset through hypnotism.
Please note that in the past, I have employed some abundance coaches and not one of them had a clue how to work investments. Not one of them had a substantial portfolio of any type of investments.
There is also a similar problem with so-called investment advisors. Most are employees of investment companies, be they mutual funds or insurance agencies selling you the products they represent. Most do not have an investment portfolio of their own. So, in reality, they do not know in how to best help you build yours.
So, what do you do?
You find those people who have built investment portfolios for their clients and do as they direct. There are many people who are ready and willing to help you start with YouTube videos and books by Ray Dalio, Warren Buffet, and Warren’s partner Charlie Munger, to name a few. They have their own ideas on how best to build wealth with Ray Dalio heavily in the stock market, using his own understanding through history of how best to make money based on where the markets are at any time. Buffet & Munger purchase companies with good management keeping the management in place while taking over ownership. There are others you can find who invest in real property and commodities such as Robert T. Kiyosaki, who of course wrote the book, “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” and developed the “Cash Flow” game that teaches how to invest.
However, if you are not into investment as much as just living a life that is fun and fulfilling, all you need to is figure out what you find interesting and fun to study and implement in your life and do that with your life. Most people do not require more than $100,000 to be happy and many much less depending on the amount of toys they feel they need such as the size of their home, type of car, and whatever else people spend money on in the search for feeling happy – which by the way is found inside you, not with all the expensive toys people are too often falsely believing will make them happy. This is because it takes a lot of money to keep up with even more extravagant things people purchase.
For myself, I left most of my material possessions in a storage unit when I left Massachusetts for California back in 2013. Since then, I have been traveling the world and relying on others to cover the cost of maintaining an apartment or hotel, while easily moving from place to place with a medium-sized suitcase and a backpack that can be packed in 15 minutes. I learned many years ago during my first 2.5 months living in Israel after a trip to Sydney, Australia for 2.5 weeks to be a coaching assistant for my NLP trainers that one needs very few material items to be happy and live an excellent life. I appreciate my Kindle reader because it allows me to have as many books as I desire, as long as they are formatted for the Kindle, since not all books are, unfortunately.
I would suggest that you journal meaning taking a pen and a notebook and writing down the type of life you would like to be living. Where would you live? What would you be doing to make your income? What type of people do you want to be surrounded by? Which kinds of culture are you interested in experiencing? Many in larger countries like the U.S. and of course, the many varied countries of the world, some of which have their separate cultures within them as well.
Then figure out how much money you need to be able to live this life. I have found that by living in countries where the US dollar goes much further which also have much better quality of food, much better mass transit, and kinder people than in many areas of the US, especially on the East and West Coasts, that I require much less money to have an amazing life than anything I could ever have in the US these days given all the inflation and internal conflicts among the people on so many areas of life it is daunting.
We humans are lucky that we can critically think and then make informed decisions about how we wish to live. However, few people really take the time necessary to do this and end up living lives of quiet desperation leading to massive stress, which leads to health problems. So, this is an important area of life to be thought through to create your future the way you want it.
May 23 2024
Eating Disorders Are On The Rise, May 23, 2024
Eating disorders are on the rise given all the stress that our young adults are dealing with especially post-COVID. So many of our youth are fearful of growing up because they do not see a world that is built to help them grow as inflation is through the roof, social agendas are confusing them even before they are old enough to care about such issues, and the government has demonstrated its incompetence.
We older folks realize that the world has gone through many challenges over the centuries. It is up to us to help the youth gain the ability to see beyond their fears and help them heal and grow up.
I offer services to help those with anorexia and bulimia to get past merely “managing symptoms” because this is no way to live. Certainly not for a lifetime, which is what the conventionally trained mental health providers maintain is the only possibility.
I offer services to help those with anorexia and bulimia to put their eating disorders in their past working one-on-one with them over the internet to keep them from the competitive nature that these patients have with one another to demonstrate that they can be the best at being ill.
The methods used allow the patient to get to the ‘foundational cause’ of the development of the eating disorder so they can let it go. The focus is not merely on letting go of the symptoms that are the eating disorder, but more importantly, to help the patient figure out their ‘compelling future,’ a future that is so compelling that there is finally a reason to get healthy. This is the lynchpin of the treatment, one that the conventional mental health programs never address and then we wonder why these programs have about a 5% success rate.
The other difference between my program and those of the conventional treatment approaches is understanding that these patients are full of ‘self-loathing,’ the phrase every single one of my anorexic and bulimic clients uses to describe how they feel about themselves.
So, the first thing that needs to be addressed is to help these patients understand that they didn’t come into the world loathing themselves. It was something they learned, so it is something they can unlearn while learning how to love and respect themselves, which becomes the foundation of their being able to care enough about themselves to make the changes necessary in thoughts and behaviors to move on in life. These changes need to move from the self-harming thoughts and behaviors to the life-giving thoughts and behaviors. However, one will never get their patient to make these changes using the prefrontal cortex of their patient’s brain where reasoning, rationalization, and judgment are made keeping the patient stuck where they are.
One needs to approach these changes in the patient’s amygdala where the emotions reside and in the hippocampus where the memories are stored. Hypnotic techniques are the way to get the job done. But you need someone who understands psychology and physiology well enough to apply these techniques correctly to bring out the best in the client without harming them from a lack of knowledge.
I have 30 years of experience working with mentally ill patients having come to hypnotism from the world of conventional mental health learning how to best help these patients from an interactive point of view yet realized that much of the treatment went contrary to what these patients require:
They do not need to be medicated in most cases.
They do not need to be in in-patient or out-patient treatment programs where what they eat or don’t eat is the primary approach.
Where they are often placed in 12 Step programs which only solidify the idea that these patients will always have these problems and worse put in 12 step programs for issues they do not have.
Where they are rarely helped to figure out their self-identity.
Where many of their rights are away for the sake of their protection. These patients need their autonomy to be built up, not taken away from them to grow and heal.
If you know anyone who is fighting these issues and is at a healthy weight and ready to heal, please connect with me because there is no reason for these patients to feel hopeless that they will always have to live like this. I have 20 years of clients who have overcome these issues so it is indeed possible. You just need someone who knows how to help the patient navigate through the healing process to get them healed and onto living a contented and fulfilled life. Because these patients are some of the most creative people out there we need them to be productive adding to our communities with their great gifts.
Resource for how Eating Disorder Treatment Centers Fail Patients:
Vinchenzo, C., Lawrence, V., McCombie, C. (2022). Patient perspectives on premature termina-
tion of eating disorder treatment: a systematic review and qualitative synthesis. Journal of
Eating Disorders, 10 (1), 1-14. 14p. Patient perspectives on premature termination of eating disorder treatment: a systematic review and qualitative synthesis – Journal of Eating Disorders
May 16 2024
How Have I Used Neuro-Linguistic Programming Myself? May 16, 2024
How Have I Used Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) in My Own Life?
NLP changed my life by helping me to heal from bipolar 2 – no medications required.
NLP helped me turn what was a horrible case of bronchial asthma into a warning that I need to get toxic people out of my life or to stop overworking and get some sleep. That is the only 2 ways that asthma has occurred since 2004 – it used to be triggered by almost anything.
Visualization with hypnosis helped me disappear a 2.2 cm meningioma tumor on the covering of my brain.
NLP helped me to help hundreds of clients get rid of their traumas, anxiety, and limiting beliefs.
It is a wonderful thing to learn and know how to use it. However, one needs to learn in person from someone who truly knows how to do it or you will learn how to do it wrong and will not get the results one could if one had taken the time and money to learn it correctly. I would never, ever try to learn hypnotic skills online -it was only through hands-on training and lots and lots of practice that I got any good at it at all.
May 09 2024
What are Some Simple Self-Care Activities Anyone Can Do? May 9, 2024
I believe that keeping this simple is the best way to go.
First, we need to be aware of our environments both at home and at work. You want to be surrounded by people who believe in you and support you in what you are doing with your life. To many people stay in toxic places because they do not believe they can get out of them. I am telling you that I left every toxic workplace and every toxic roommate situation I found myself in my entire life. No, it is not always easy, but it is necessary.
Second, I have found that morning rituals are very important. For me, being a hypnotist, I like to do self-hypnosis to relax and future pace myself to what I want to bring into my life next. Meditation is also a great way to go because it will even out one’s emotions, making it so easy to deal with even the most aggravating of people. I know because I found this to be true while I was meditating daily as a requirement for a workshop I took for one of my Master’s degrees for being able to negotiate well. The workshop was on negotiation, facilitation, and mediation.
Third, I have found having a journal – one that I write in with my terrible handwriting has been a fabulous way to empty my thoughts and bring in great ideas of what I want to do with my life, places I want to go, and how I can bring these things into my life. It has worked every time, though sometimes it takes a while for things to show up. Writing consistently shows the way.
Apr 25 2024
How Can Someone Who Is Emotionally Numb Due To Trauma Regain Their Emotions, Vol. 671, April 25, 2024
A person on Quora asked this question. This is how I answered it:
Thank you for this question. I am answering this from the perspective of being a hypnotist who has helped many clients over 20+ to overcome trauma. Some of these clients had become emotionally numb due to trauma and they have indeed been able to regain their emotions through the healing process. There are many techniques that I use in my practice to help my clients heal their trauma including desensitizing the negative emotional events, doing inner child work, and forgiveness, and appreciation work.
The interesting thing is that once my clients regain their emotions they get upset with me because they do not know how to deal with normal human emotions. So that is the next piece of work that needs to be dealt with so the client can constructively deal with their emotions.
Thank you again for this question because it is an important part of some trauma-harmed clients’ lives and deserves to be better understood.