Thriving Under Pressure: How Your Emotions May Be Limiting You

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Vol. 64 May 2008 – Thriving Under Pressure: How Your Emotions May Be Limiting You

It is a fact of life today that people are feeling over whelmed by all the pressures they feel as the cost of everything is going up, up, up and the income they receive in real dollars is going down, down, down. With the increase in the cost of goods due to the devaluation of the dollar in the world markets everything from the cost of fuel for operating vehicles to the cost of anything that is transported from elsewhere, the squeeze is being felt more tightly.

When we feel squeezed by the influences from out side our selves we can become very upset and frustrated. These negative emotions can start to permeate every area of our life, for it all seems to be such a struggle. It can affect our physical and emotional health which can lead to problems in our work environment as well as in our personal relationships out side of work. Continue reading

Vol. 93, October 2010- Remaining Positive in A Negative World

By Donna N.

Returning from my coffee break at work, I am now in a more negative state of mind than when I first arrived a mere 2 hours earlier.

I guess it could be from having to listen to CNN on the big flat screen TV that is on the wall, and rather hard not to hear. At one point today, the commentator was talking about Fidel Castro, and how he believes we in the world are on the brink of a nuclear war. A little depressing to hear at 8am on a Thursday morning, even if it is overcast and rainy. Continue reading

Have an issue with alcohol? How do you know if you are an abuser of alcohol or a full blown alcoholic?

viciado em álcoolVol. 183, Jan. 12, 2013

Alcohol abuse and alcoholism occur rather subtly in most circumstances. What began as a way to have a bit of fun letting loose becomes a dangerous situation with the lack of impulse control involved allowing for fatal car accidents, promiscuous sexual affairs, black outs and in some cases even death from alcohol poisoning. The main reason that alcohol gets out of control is to let go of the self-depreciating thoughts that run through one’s mind. It is a fact that most alcoholics become this way because they are fighting depression, unwilling in many cases to go on medication or take another more holistic course of action to resolve the problem.

 

So, what does the bible of the psychiatric field, the DSM- V -TR  have to say about alcohol abuse and alcoholism? Substance dependence (alcoholism in this case) would involve reaching a tolerance level where a need to achieve intoxication or desired effect, where the desired effect is greatly diminished with the continued use of the substance. Upon stopping the use of the alcohol withdrawal is manifested by sweating, pulse rate higher than 100, hand tremor, insomnia, nausea or vomiting, transient visual, tactile or auditory hallucinations, psychomotor agitation, anxiety, grand mal seizures.

 

Alcohol abuse can be diagnosed if it’s use resulted in a failure to fulfill major obligations: at work, home, or school, where it is used and could be dangerous as in drinking and driving, causes legal problems or despite having recurrent interpersonal problems by the effects of the substance.

 

Now there are two types of alcoholics and I don’t mean the funny ones and the nasty ones, though these types do exist. I am speaking of the type that binges when they drink to the point of being out of control, maybe to the point of passing out. The other type drinks a small amount of alcohol from the time they get out of bed until they go to bed at night, almost as if the alcohol was being used almost as if it was an IV drip.

 

I have had clients of each type over the 11 years that I have been in practice. Many years ago, I had a woman in her 50’s who came in to see me so she could quit her alcoholism. She was very determined to do so and did for a short while after our work together, unfortunately going back to her drinking to let go of her negative thoughts. She was the sort who started with the drinking an ounce of vodka upon awakening having some every hour till she went to bed at 11 PM. Despite this issue, she was a wonderful mother who successfully raised healthy competent kids to her husband’s delight.

 

A couple of years ago another young woman come in to see me who had anorexia. Her anorexia was under fairly good control, her weight in the normal range as she was eating well. She just had a few food ritual issues to be let go. On top of this problem however, she was finding herself going out to dinner with friends almost nightly, unable to stop drinking till she didn’t know what she was doing any longer. Her inhibitions were compromised along with any good judgment with her drinking leading to her having sex with people that she didn’t know all that well. Unfortunately this sort of concurrent addiction happens quite frequently. This particular client was a full blown alcoholic unable to limit her drinking and having to stop it all together which she successfully did.

 

I had another client of mine that was abusing the alcohol as she was in the midst of getting a divorce from her husband, he infantilizing her and treating her poorly. She found herself drinking more often than she wanted and in larger quantities than the circumstances warranted and wanted to stop. She was able to do this with a little bit of help, easier than she thought. She only had to make the decision to no longer imbibe.

 

Over the years the majority of my clients who have come in with substance abuse or addiction have been able to get clean and stop their habits. Of course for this to work, the client has to consciously and unconsciously desire to make the change, for as a hypnotist it is outside the realm of my ability to help anyone who isn’t 110% committed to doing what it takes to stop using the alcohol. In this case, one needs to change the playground as well as the playmates to be certain to be free of the problem forever. We do become like those with whom we spend most of our time, so this needs to be considered very seriously for us to make the needed positive changes.

 

If you choose to use hypnosis to help you to release alcohol from your life, do be certain that the hypnotist has a proven record of success. Success in this case means that the hypnotist chosen has a track record of specializing in working in the field of addictions in particular with a thorough understanding the illness and the consequences of treatment.

 

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Whose life are you living?

Vol 76 May 2009 -Whose life are you living?

Are you feeling stressed with less energy than normal and perhaps feeling that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach? It almost feels as if you know that you need to do something, but you are not sure exactly what and everything else that you have been doing up till now hasn’t helped to alleviate any of these unwanted feelings that you have in your body.

If you fit this description at all it is probably because when you take the time to think about it there are too many demands on your time and money because too many people want something from you. It doesn’t really matter what, the fact is that you are tired, sick of spending money on things you may not need or want and just have a desire to be free of all of it. Continue reading

Quit Weed and Harder Drugs Without Withdrawals Using Hypnosis

Say no to drugs and say yes to tacos!Vol. 182, Jan. 5, 2013

One would be lead to believe that it is impossible to withdraw from drugs without some sort of withdrawals occurring with all the information the drug rehabilitation programs and medical establishment plasters the media with. Let me tell you a little story of a great success I had with a new client of mine to demonstrate the ability of your own mind to handle this situation easily, effectively and with little to no symptoms of withdrawal upon stopping the drug.

 

I received an email from a 28 year old woman who got hooked on heroin about four years ago. She did it, she said, to be able to be with the man who she felt she loved. He was a heroin user who turned her on to it. She had never used any drugs at all before this occurrence, never really having been exposed to any drugs till then.

 

Over the past four years she had been in a couple of in-patient rehabs, generally for 5 days, finding herself being drawn back into the world of drugs to be with the man she felt she loved. The last time this happened was right after the last rehab a few weeks before she called me. She was actively using four or so times a week when she called me. I told her that because I am not a licensed professional that she needed to be totally off the drugs before I could do any work at all with her, help her to stay off of the drugs for good.

 

You see, a couple of years ago I had a young mother who was a user of heroin placed on methadone replacement therapy who wanted to get pregnant again. I really had no idea how to go about doing this job for her. Yet, I knew a gentleman who knew another hypnotist who had successfully been able to do just that with great success with methadone in particular. I had an hour long phone consultation with him at the time, where he told me exactly what I needed to do have the young mother have a successful withdrawal from the methadone. I was ready to do the job when the methadone dependent woman found that she really wasn’t ready to go off her methadone treatment.

 

So, I was ready when the 28 year old woman called me for help to get her off her heroin. She came in to see me with her very supportive relative for the session that would help her withdraw from the heroin, which she was shooting into her veins a few times a week. Her relative was with her during the withdrawal process and noted that he was amazed to find that she wasn’t having any withdrawals whatsoever. She came in Friday evening and by Saturday she was out with visiting good friends, healthy friends  by both her and her relative’s description, without any issues or concerns the whole time she visited with them that evening. Sunday, again, no withdrawal symptoms at all.She didn’t understand why it was so easy given the previous experiences at the rehabilitation centers and yet, that was her experience.

 

She came in on Monday to start her drug abuse program with me safely withdrawn from the heroin. This was by her own choice. To date she reports that she has had few if any thoughts of “using” and finds it very easy to distract herself from those thoughts with more positive thoughts and ideas the few times this has occurred. She did have one fall back when a previous dealer called to give her a ‘free” sample the day after Christmas that she wasn’t strong enough to refuse.

 

Since that time her relative helped her to block all the phone numbers and emails from any of the people from that previous life style of drug use and abuse. So far she is doing very well in the program concentrating on creating a “compelling future” in line with her values and beliefs. This is the most important idea to understand about releasing any unhealthy, unwanted habit. One has to be in a situation where the future they are working toward is much more important than that old destructive habit. The compelling future also has to be based on something that is more important than one’s own issues, adding to the world for having been here. It really doesn’t matter the subject matter of the compelling future, so long as it is something that is viscerally felt as important to the client as a way to make the world a better place.

 

With this knowledge of knowing that you can be drug free without the need to ever go on a substitute drug like methadone, a drug that is taken each day which will no longer allow a person to get “high”, however is as difficult as any of the drugs that make one “high” to get off. To that point,  Donna M. Novi’s, my previous client and current business partner’s very own cousin committed suicide in his 30’s because he couldn’t find a professional of any sort that would help him to get off the methadone while he hated the way it made him feel. Worse, feeling he could never exit the projects where he was stuck living because he wasn’t functional on the methadone he felt helpless ending up taking his own life by hanging.

 

I had another client of mine several years ago. She was a nurse in her 30’s when she got addicted to pain pills. She was caught at her job and released from her position to get the help she required. She was placed on suboxone which was to replace her cocaine addiction in the same fashion that methadone is used to replace heroin. Unfortunately in her case, the suboxone worked for a couple of years until her old dealer came back into her life creating the havoc that is a drug addict’s addiction. Her ten year old son is learning through her sad example what drugs can do. In this young boy’s case his father has been very honest with him about the reason why it is that his mother isn’t always available to see him and the ramifications of her drug use on her own life. I applaud the guts this father has in being totally honest with his son about why it is that they have been divorced and the realities of the life that his mother is currently living.

 

Don’t kid yourself into believing there aren’t other negative consequences of the long term use these replacement drugs can have on one’s body. They are drugs after all, so be smart and stop fooling yourself into believing that they can’t and won’t have negative ramifications on your mind and body. With that in mind remember that any drugs that are placed into your body will need to be processed by your kidneys or liver depending on how the drugis metabolized by your body. Over time damage can and will be done to these two necessary life giving organs.

You see, there are reasons why it is that these replacement drugs are researched and used. However, the truth of the matter is that given the ability of your very own unconscious mind, and the help of a hypnotist who has the back round and experience to help you, along with appropriate medical over sight, you can easily see your way permanently off of drugs just as Donna M. Novi was able to do – at least for the period of three years now and counting. It should be noted though that at the time that she came in to work with me I didn’t have the ability to help her off her drug of choice using the method I used with this current client. She had to do it the hard way, and yet, she too is a successful testament to never desiring to be on any drugs of any sort ever again given her rather poor experience with them. This is all chronicled in detail in the book that she co-wrote with me based primarily on her case history. You can currently get this book: Wake Up Doctors: 10 Steps to Reclaim Your Patients Respect and Trust for FREE for opting in on the Home Page of the Dawning Visions Hypnosis website at: dawningvisions.com/.

 

The book will soon be available in soft cover both on the website and through Amazon.com for a small investment. The information inside there could very well save your life or a loved one.

 

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Do You Count in Your Own Life?

Vol. 38, May 2006

Over the past few months it seemed that I did not own my life. I was running around taking care of my mother’s needs, taking care of the chores around the house or putting in time with my clients. The one thing that I did find time for was at least a half an hour to relax in the warm bubbling water of the health club’s whirlpool every few days But I still felt totally absent from getting my real needs taken care of. Holidays were no longer based on how I wanted to enjoy them.  It was as if I had little control over what I was doing on a day-to-day basis and it felt horrible. Continue reading

Is Quitting Smoking Weed ((Marijuana) the Same As Quitting Smoking Tobacco (Cigarettes, etc.)?

Reefer Madness/The Burning Question (1936)Vol. 181, December 29, 2012

Smokers truly believe that they are “addicted” to nicotine. However, the truth of the matter is that they are more involved in a habit of “trigger-response” with triggers leading to the use of cigarettes. The trigger can be anything from drinking alcohol to being bored to the people with whom one associates. As soon as that stimulus is present, the person is triggered to use the tobacco. Interestingly enough, very few people are actually addicted to nicotine regardless of what the medical world would like one to believe. Think about this truth: How many people have tried nicotine patches found themselves going back to smoking even with the patch attached to their skin allowing for the chemical of nicotine to enter the pores of the body? The patches are only about 15% successful. If the body truly “required” the nicotine as a hard drug addict  requires their drug it would be 100% successful and all the testing done proves that it is  not.

 

The studies do show that it is more difficult for woman to stop smoking than men given the average percentage of fat on women is higher than that in men. However, one needs to think of all the women who are easily able to stop smoking for the multiple months they are pregnant once they are aware of their condition. If one were truly addicted to nicotine, it would be much more difficult for these women to stop smoking. The reason they can do so is because the health and wellbeing of their baby is more important than their smoking habit.

 

Transitioning from traditional smoking habits to healthier alternatives can be a challenging journey, but some individuals have found success through various methods. One such alternative gaining popularity is using cbd vape products. CBD, derived from cannabis plants, offers a unique approach to managing triggers associated with smoking. Unlike nicotine patches, which have limited success rates, CBD  products provide a holistic approach by addressing both the psychological and physical aspects of addiction. The calming effects of CBD can help individuals manage stress and anxiety, reducing the triggers that lead to smoking. Furthermore, many people have reported finding relief from cravings through the act of vaping CBD, making it a promising tool for those looking to break free from their smoking habits. This natural approach aligns with the growing understanding of addiction as a complex interplay of psychological, social, and biological factors, offering hope to individuals striving for a smoke-free life.

 

Realize that a bit of irritability is vastly different than a drug abuser who goes through full blown withdrawals the body requiring the substance, thus the term of “addiction” being used. In some cases these symptoms can be life threatening. Having worked with both smoking cessation clients and abusers and addicts of hard drugs, I can tell you that the difference is startling at least during the duration of their pregnancies.

 

When one stops smoking cigarettes one may become irritable, feel the urges to have a cigarette, and feel uncomfortable. However, most smokers are able to make it through the night without a cigarette. Many are able to handle very long cross country and cross the globe flights without being able to have a cigarette. For a true addict this would not be possible. Their bodies would go into a sort of shock without the dopamine being released into their body’s systems with the use of their chosen drug. Most people who are addicts have to use their drug just to feel “normal” having lost the normal dopamine pleasure response. Without the drug, they become unable to function in any way, feeling depressed, anxious and steadfastly seeking out their drug of choice no matter the cost to themselves financially, personally and even risking losing their job and perhaps even a term in prison. Sadly, most of the people in prisons in the United States are indeed people who are drug abusers/addicts these days.

 

In the case of weed, it has gotten a bit more complex as those selling the weed have added all sorts of other chemicals to stretch the weed giving different effects which can be experienced in very scary ways to the user.

 

I had a young client who came in to see me last year to stop his smoking of weed. He was 19 years old. He told me that he was so scared by the ill effects of the weed he smoked that he drove himself to the emergency room. It was with this experience that he sought out my services. I spoke to him about the fact that the weed of today is stronger than that which was smoked when I was his age, about 30 years ago, and is now laced with all sorts of harmful chemicals, one of which may have brought him this terrible experience.

 

What one needs to understand is that smoking weed is not something that is as easy to let go of as smoking of cigarettes. About 90% of my smoking cessation clients can stop in one session. Nicotine is not an addictive substance as the THC is in weed and there in lies the difference in how one has to treat the two substances.

 

In my treatment of weed I do a full scale substance abuse treatment. The client is going to have to get rid of all the negative emotions, limiting beliefs and do the forgiveness work and inner child work necessary to have them give up the main reason for their using the substance. Unlike the smoking of tobacco products which are usually begun to fit in while in the teen years, the smoking of weed is used to stop the negative feelings, the depressed feelings, as a self-medication akin to the way many abuse or get addicted to alcohol. As such it is a much larger problem that needs to be addressed with the due respect it requires. Anyone who tells you that they can help you to release the smoking of weed with one session is telling you something that is untruthful and will most likely lead you to feeling a great disappointment as you find yourself relapsing, never having gotten to the root cause of its use. It is akin to having a person who suffers from anxiety being told that increasing self-esteem will handle the problem. Increasing self-esteem is only one step of many that needs to be addressed when healing one of anxiety that has stopped one’s ability to live a joyful, fulfilling life.

 

Hypnosis is a viable method to stop smoking weed, however one must understand the brain chemistry involved and more importantly, the underlying reasons why one would become addicted to the substance in the first place.

 

I just did some work with a 24 year old heroin addict, one who was shooting up the heroin who successfully went through her withdrawal with very few if any withdrawal symptoms. Think about this a moment? One can actually use one hypnosis session to easily come of whatever drug of choice is being abused or is addicted to. However, the physical addiction is the easy part. The emotional addiction to the weed is the hard part because one needs to get to the root cause of the abuse/addiction of the weed to make sure that the client is no longer interested in ever using it again. For that reason I would always do a complete drug addiction removal program to keep the client from ever going back to using it for any reason in the future. As a part of the program one would be wise to have a compelling future with something of true passion and interest to focus one’s energies on, that is more important than the abuse/addiction was to keep the momentum of health and wellbeing going for the rest of the newly non-addicted client.

 

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