Aug 30 2013

001: Why Is It So Hard For Me To Be Happy?

Why Is It So Hard For Me To Be Happy?

 

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  Released: August 26, 2013

Description: Why is It So Hard For Me to Be Happy? Suzanne will discuss how to stimulate your endorphins while decreasing your adrenaline to help you have a happy state of being.

 Suzanne introduces the new podcast “Claim Your Excellent Life” which was created to help folks like you to let go of the stressors in your life while reclaiming happiness and fulfillment.

 As a hypnotist Suzanne has seen many clients come in who may not have had major issues like addictions or eating disorders. They just had an overall unhappiness and discontentment with life. In this new podcast Suzanne will show you how to let go of the unhappiness and discontentment and claim your excellent life!

 Episode #1 will explain how happiness is a state of mind. As a hypnotist Suzanne helps her clients change their states of mind on a regular basis. Allow her to show you how to do the same.

 

Aug 29 2013

How to Get Yourself Better Medical & Mental Health Treatment: 9 Situations Presented

Doctors with patient, 1999How to Get Yourself Better Medical & Mental Health Treatment: 9 Situations Presented -Vol. 214, August 29, 2013

During the initial appointment that I have with many of my clients, they bring up concerns about their previous medical practitioners. In this weblog I will discuss these issues to give you a better sense of what you can do to address each situation. This is important because patients are usually feeling at the mercy of their doctors. However, it is you who is employing them, so it is up to you to have a medical professional with whom you feel comfortable on all levels.

1) You have an appointment to see a mental health professional. The discussion begins with the practitioner asking you about your favorite hobby. In my example, the patient was being asked about his car collection. The patient was wondering why the issue at hand was not being discussed.  In this case it was how to get his ADHD under control. It would have better use of the limited time from the patient’s point of view. So he asked his psychiatrist very directly to get on to the main reason for the visit. The doctor apologized and they got on to talking about the treatment the patient was seeking. The problem however, was that by taking this time for “small talk” the patient felt that he was being charged for every second he was there and no longer trusted that the psychologist had his best interest in mind. He ended up terminating with this psychologist and found a neurologist to work with instead.

2) You have an appointment with a doctor and you are left to wait for what feels like an eternity. You are finally called into the exam room where you get to wait again for a very long time. After all that waiting you get about 5 minutes to ask your questions and then the doctor is onto someone else. This is a problem with how the health care system works with doctors not having the time they really need to spend with their patients. There are two things that you can do to get the most of the limited time that you have:
A) You can bring in a list of your questions which will allow you to get the answers that you desire.
B) Find a different doctor who spends much more time working with the patients
because the doctor owns his/her own practice and is looking to have happy
patients.

3) You are seeing a psychologist and you are feeling very uncomfortable. You don’t realize it while you are there, but after the fact you notice that the person although sounding very nice, is telling you things that make you question their judgment. There are two ways of handling this situation:
A) You can ask the psychologist why it is that s/he is bringing this information     into the conversation – there may be a constructive reason. If you find this
information is deflecting from your purpose of being there request that the focus
be on your situation only.
B) You can change psychologist to someone who you feel you have a better rapport  with. In order for any pratitioner to be helpful one needs to both like and trust the practitioner. If there are any questions at all change the practitioner to someone you feel more aligned working with.

4) You are seeing a psychiatrist and you have concerns about the amount of medication that you are taking. Perhaps you are experiencing side-effects that are worrying you. Your doctor negates the concern never really answering your question continuing you at your current dose. If this ever happens it is important for you to know your rights. If you are not a danger to yourself or others, at least in the state of Massachusetts no one can force you to take any medication. If your body is clearly telling you that this medication is not working with your body, it is up to you to find someone else who will listen to and address those concerns in a manner that is respectful to your concerns about your health. In some cases I have had clients tell me that their blood work was showing distress in their kidneys and liver and their doctors still wanted to keep them on that medication. This could create massive problems for the patient because the medications are detoxified through the kidney or liver. When someone is on medication for a very long time, sometimes the end result is that the body is unable to clear it injuring the organ involved. So this is something that needs to be respected for the patients general health.

5) Your doctor speaks to you in a tone of voice that is degrading and/or infantilizing. Without your input there is little the doctor can do for you. One needs to be treated with respect and dignity for any true healing to be accomplished. If for any reason at all you feel that you are not being treated as an equal in the relationship, it is up to you to leave and find a different doctor who will listen to you, answer your concerns while treating you with respect. It is your body that is being treated so it is your right to have the respect given that is conducive to a positive outcome for you, the patient.

6) You go to your doctor with a complaint and his only response is that he can’t find any reason and that you are fine. I have had clients tell me stories of medical issues where tumors were found with the 3rd or 4th doctor when the first couple of doctors said there was nothing there to cause the problem. If you are having some sort of ongoing problem make sure that ALL medical reasons are ruled out before it becoming seen as a more psychosomatic issue. Psychosomatic issues arise because the patient isn’t willing to deal with underlying emotions, sublimating them and then all sorts of autoimmune conditions can arise as well as cancer. In this case emotional issues do need to be appropriately handled and then the illnesses will be able to become much less of an issue as the underlying causes are being dealt with.

7) You have a diagnosis of some sort of mental illness. You find yourself at the medical doctors with a pain that won’t go away. The doctor tells you that it is all in your head. Fire this person immediately and find someone who is willing to help you address what the cause of the problem is. I had one client who was very weak and was experiencing all sorts of pain in her fingers and toes. In the end it was a side-effect of one of the medications she was on. Once she had another doctor help her get off that medication safely she was fine.

8) I had one client who was experiencing some very bad side-effects to Prozac. The only way to resolve her problem according to the hospital staff was to give her to 20 mg of Xanax to calm her down. This is because they believed that because she was a person with a history of an anxiety disorder, that this was what was wrong with her. She took the Xanax and had much worse symptoms after. Your doctors need to listen to your concerns and stop throwing medications you. If they don’t know what the problem is, a referral would be the way to go.
9) You go to visit your doctor and everything is couched in terms of the worst possible situation for you. You find this terrifying. Yes, there are situations where the medical personnel do need to be honest with you, however there are many ways to give the patient the news with the tone of voice and the words chosen being very important. As a patient you want to be aware of what is going on and what can be done to help you. Being compassionate in how this information is given is an art all its own and one that you want your doctor to possess in his communications with you and your loved ones. Being told that one is terminal and only has a couple of months to live is not helpful. Being told what the diagnosis is and what that can mean and what one can do to heal is a whole other way to frame the conversation.

There are many other situations that can arise. The main point is that you want a medical professional that is not only “nice” but one who is able to listen to your concerns, give you practical and realistic feedback and is willing to work with you to find out what you can do to regain your health. You are employing your doctor, so it is ultimately up to you to find one that will give you the sort of respectful treatment that you deserve leading to a better more healthy you both physically and emotionally.

 

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Aug 22 2013

Are You Doing The Things That You Say Are most Important to You: 7 Steps to Recreating Your Life

Live your dreams

Live your dreams (Photo credit: duncan)

Are You Doing The Things That You Say Are most Important to You: 7 Steps to Recreating Your Life – Vol. 212, August 22, 2013

When we are children we were curious. We were allowed to go out and investigate those things that we were interested in. In so doing we found much fun and fulfillment. Then we grew up and found we have jobs and families which take up most if not all of our time and energy. It is a subtle change that happens over time. We start feeling more and more depleted. Maybe boredom or even depressed feelings come about because we know that we aren’t spending our time doing those things we once found so fun and interesting. Those things that are so important to our feeling alive.

Maybe you are a person who always had a dream. Maybe to begin a business, or maybe to travel abroad bringing your talents to others. But maybe it is the programming that you received when you were younger that it was foolish to study something that wasn’t sure to make you a decent living.

No matter the particular situation the end result is the same. Somehow you never get around to doing the stuff that you say you most care about. Perhaps you don’t even feel you are in your own life anymore.

The question I have for you is this: What is keeping you from doing those things that you say are most important to you? Because I can tell you that it is easy to find ways to sabotage one’s dreams, blaming the responsibilities that you have getting in the way. Even easier is blaming others from keeping you from your heart’s desires.

So my question to you is this:  When are you going to take back your life and do those things that make you happy and fulfilled? Because the truth be known there is ALWAYS a way to make your dreams come true so long as you are willing to put the time and effort into making them happen.

Interestingly enough, it isn’t your circumstances that are holding you back. It is your own mindset being stuck on what you feel you are “supposed” to do, keeping you in some sort of prison of the mind, instead of allowing your imagination to soar as you create the sort of life that truly is aligned with who you are. The reason that this is so important, to find the time you need to do what you love, is because there are enough unhappy unfulfilled people in this country. Look around you and you will see it is true, especially on public transportation – people shut out the environment in one way or another many times looking tired and drained of their energy.

Here are a 7 steps to help you regain your life and thus your happiness:

1) Make a decision that your happiness is worth making some much needed changes, operative word here is “decision.”

2) Listen to your heart – which has more energy in it then your brain. This is where the most authentic understanding of who you are is located. Get out of your mind and into your heart.

3) Write down all those ideas of things that are most important to you.

4) Put them in order of what is most important.

5) Start journaling ideas of what you can do to turn things around so you can start doing these things that are most important to you- maybe people that you can consult with who can give you ideas on how to do what you desire.  Maybe other people who can help you with the care of your kids if you have any. Maybe people that may have the resources and interest to help you get started. Just journal and see what your unconscious mind brings up. The less thinking and more writing you do the better will be your results.

6) Before going to sleep at night ask your unconscious mind to give you more ideas on how you can make your dreams reality. It will help you if it is asked.

7) Continue to focus on your dream and you will find that the way will be found. Usually in ways you never could have imagined.

I have used this method to help me make my most important dreams come true. I have used this method to help me find my true passion in life in my profession. As great as that is, even better I have fulfilled my dream of crossing the globe to bring this work to 3rd world countries. To people who would never think of using these methods, yet hypnotism is very much a part of their cultural ways though they wouldn’t know it as such. Drumming and dancing into an altered state, story telling and music with a steady beat are all a part of hypnotism. I am just home from my second such journey as I held these opportunities out there to be had. I didn’t have to do anything but be giving with my talents and the opportunities showed up. Why? Because I was open to them and wouldn’t allow anything to get in the way.

Your homework: go through the steps above and go find the glorious life that is waiting for you and allow it to unfold. Life is so much better on this end of things regardless of any other circumstances because you will once again feel alive!

 

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Aug 15 2013

PTSD for soldiers:How to cure depression naturally without turning to the drugs being promoted as cures for PTSD – Vol. 114, August 18, 2011

PTSDIt seems that the United States government is the largest drug pusher that there is looking for the easiest way to take care of emotional issues by pushing drugs instead of dealing with the cause of the problem.

In the MSNBC report of August 2, 2011, it was reported that a 6 month, randomized control study of combat veterans being treated with an antipsychotic medication known as risperidone worked no better than a placebo at diminishing the symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder than a placebo. The Journal of the American Medical Association also reported that risperidone was ineffective in lessoning depression and anxiety.

It seems every few months we are hearing of medications being cross purposed to handle problems that they were not created to work for such as this antipsychotic drug being used for depression or anxiety. Antipsychotics used to stop the hallucinations that a psychotic event would set off. That would be a person seeing or hearing things that are not part of reality. This has nothing whatever to do with the neurotransmitters that are involved in depression or the reasons that people might suffer from anxiety.

For the life of me I can’t understand why it is that medications with all of their terrible side effects so completely disclosed for the safety of the consumer on the television, radio and print advertisements  would be the way that one would go about dealing with these issues of the mind. It seems to me that if you have an issue of the mind the best way to contend with it is to work in the mind to disengage the thought processes that are behind the ill mental state. We have known for hundreds of years how one can go about doing this without polluting our bodies with harsh drugs that create ever more problems as the body goes about clearing out what it knows as toxins from the liver or kidneys depending on which organ is to do this job.

For the past 10 years I have been doing hypnosis, going to the cause of the issues involved in the unconscious mind to work with clients to clear out the negative thoughts and behaviors that create the emotional problems that the medical world just can’t seem to eradicate on any real level as proven by their own studies.

Hypnosis is a safe and effective way to deal with post traumatic stress as proven with all the clients that I have assisted in dealing with physical, mental and sexual abuse over the years.

My question to you is simply this? Are you willing continue tossing harsh chemicals into your body for the potential of receiving a placebo effect or are you ready to confront those issues head on and finally be released from them?

If you want a solid solution without any side effects hypnosis is your answer. As always, do look for a practitioner that has solid knowledge of your particular issue and say good-bye to your problem. It is well worth the time and investment to do this for yourself.

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Aug 15 2013

What Creates An Emotionally Toxic Environment? You May Be Surprised

I'M ALLERGIC TO MY HUSBAND

I’M ALLERGIC TO MY HUSBAND (Photo credit: live w mcs)

What Creates An Emotionally Toxic Environment? You May Be Surprised – Vol. 213, August 15, 2013

One of the more interesting aspects of being in the profession that I am is getting a sense of how people interact with others on a very deep and personal level. Yes, one can and does learn much about their friends and the negative things that may be going on in their relationships. However, on this end of things, not only does one get to hear about what is going on, one gets to understand why it is allowed to go on. In this weblog I am going to educate you a bit about what I have learned from being on this side of the fence. You may find it fascinating. However, what I truly hope you will do is assess the relationships that you have in your life and make a decision to up the anti into healthier more productive ones if warranted.

I want you to think about the relationships that you have in your life.

For too many of my clients they are in relationships that are toxic and they never really realized it. These things happen so subtly over a long period of time. No one wants to think of their relationships as being toxic. One way you can determine this is the way that you feel once you have been in the company of a person. Does this person energize you or sap you of all your energy? Does this person care about you? Is this person interested in the things that you are doing in your life?

Closer to home:

Do you have a spouse who is loving and interested in what you are doing in your life? Or do you have a spouse that seems to be centered on what is going on in his/her life without much desire to know much of anything that is going on in yours?

Do you have a spouse that is very jealous of your friends and family? Your spouse will do anything to keep you from spending any time with them?

Is your spouse angry with you and you have no understanding why?

Do you have a kid who is dependent on you for their needs, yet is angry and hostile never listening to anything that you have to say?

Do you have friends that call and only want to complain about all that is wrong with their world and rarely if ever allow you to speak about what is going on in your life?

Are you a person who has many vague symptoms that the doctors can’t really treat effectively?

Are you a person who gets into accidents a lot?

If you answered “yes” to any of these I have a question for you: What are you getting out of being involved in these relationships?

There are a few reasons why people stay in these relationships.

The first is that there is a feeling of being needed. However, in any relationship that is healthy especially when it comes to those with other adults, being needed will only create a sense of dependence resulting in anger. The only reason to be in any relationship is because you “want” to be in it.

The second is because you feel you are supposed to be in this relationship. I had a client who was in a relationship with a spouse because the rest of her family thought the man was a perfect catch. The only problem is that they have nothing in common and really aren’t in love. It is an empty marriage and one that she is working on releasing herself from.

The third is because you haven’t any real idea on how to set boundaries in your household with your children. Since when was it okay to allow your dependent child to be abusive to you? The day you will stop the abuse is the day you no longer allow it. If your kid is angry with you, that is quite fine – because just maybe your kid will learn how to respect you instead of creating the stress that you are dealing with in your world. If your kid is an adult, it is time to invite him/her to find their own place since they are smarter than you anyway from their perspective. With this attitude on their behallf allow them to move on.

You will find that when you exit these toxic relationships some very interesting things will result. First you will find yourself feeling much healthier, no longer feeling strangulated by these suffocating relationships. Second, you will find that you will have more respectful relationships with those that you draw clear boundaries with in terms of acceptable behavior. And, lastly, you will find that you will be attracting much healthier relationships into your life. All because you were willing to let go of the toxins and bring in some nice clean energy into your the realm of your relationships.

Relationships are so important to how it is that we feel about ourselves. Trust me that if you are feeling down on yourself, this is a great place to begin to start feeling much better about who you are and what you are doing here. Extra benefit, you will find yourself physically healthier and no longer having accidents if either of these were happening too often in your life.

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Aug 08 2013

Are You Smoking to Cover Up A Deeper Problem?

Vol. 49, April 2007

Recently I have been receiving phone calls for smoking cessation where the smoking cessation is the presenting problem, but is not the real problem. What do I mean by that? It is true that people smoke because they feel that it relaxes them, but it does not relax them because nicotine is a stimulant. What smoking really does is help to cover up other issues that the client is not dealing with in many cases. Continue reading

Aug 08 2013

I’m Stressed Out Taking Care Of My Elderly Parent: Help!

300px-Nurse_in_geriatryI’m Stressed Out Taking Care Of My Elderly Parent: Help!

Vol. 211, August 8, 2013

Many years before I got involved in hypnotism, I worked in home care for elders. The great majority of the client’s grown children felt overwhelmed and unsupported in the care of their elderly parents. Many felt that they didn’t have a life any more with all the responsibility especially if they still had kids at home that needed parenting. Here are a few things that you can do to help you to reclaim your life:

1. Remember that you are only going to be as helpful to someone else as you are to yourself. So take time off to take care of you so that you are in a better emotional place to help your parent out.
2. Hire other people to do respite for you if you have your parent living with you. It is so important because everyone needs a break from the day-to-day responsibility.

3. Go to a home care company and they will be able to place someone for you to take your place for whatever amount of time you desire from a couple of hours to doing over nights.
4. Make sure that you eat well and get yourself some exercise because these will help you to stay healthy in the first place.
5. Have someone with whom you can speak to from time to time to vent your emotions. This will allow you to feel supported and help you to better communicate with your parent.
6. Many times if you have a sibling who isn’t really helping out much at all, you may find that if you request the assistance you will receive it.
7. Learn how to relax yourself using self-hypnosis, meditation or yoga It will do very well by you.

There is a time when you need to realize that there is more skilled nursing help that is required than you can give on your own. This happens anytime you realize that you are feeling depressed and overwhelmed unable to really keep your parent safe. If you are in this situation you will recognize yourself in this explanation.

We are all human and all have our limits. Please listen to your inner self so that you will be in the best situation possible to help your parent to have the best life possible without losing yourself to this huge responsibility.

 

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