Learn how you might be getting in the way of your own happiness and 11 things you can do about it.
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Oct 07 2013
Learn how you might be getting in the way of your own happiness and 11 things you can do about it.
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Oct 03 2013
Chris Herren, The Junkie Basketball Player – Parents Listen to the Lessons He Teaches Post Addiction – Vol. 219, October 3, 2013
I was lucky enough to be able to attend Chris’s presentation done through The Project Purple. Chris is a passionate presenter with a message of life and death which we adults need to listen to – wake up to what our kids are really doing when not in our presence, and worse when we believe we have a handle on it, only to find out we were deluding ourselves.
Chris spoke candidly of how his addiction spiraled out of control beginning at the age of 22 with $20 able to pay for one pill of 40 mg opiate medication, turning into 1600 mg – (10) 80 mg pills, blew up to a syringe of heroin 2 years later.
With 30 million drug addicts and only 2.7 million getting treated we have a huge problem in this country. Do the math. It is pathetic really. Given this statistic alone, you don’t want you kid getting involved with any sort of substance abuse or addiction because those numbers don’t look very good for your kid.
Our kids today get many images of marijuana and alcohol on their cell phones so monitor them.
If you are a parent and you have any narcotics sitting in your medicine cabinet, realize that too many kids of today will be raiding that medicine cabinet, getting high off the drugs you have stored there. It is better to lock them away somewhere or better yet, drop them at the police station for proper removal. You need to understand that every 19 minutes a kid dies, so protect your kid and their friends and get this stuff out of easy reach ASAP!
With an attitude like: “Kids will be kids” you are condoning life ending behavior. When we were kids oxy, Adderall, etc. weren’t available. Even pot (marijuana isn’t the same as when we were young. Today’s pot consisted of: 68% had traces of marijuana, with 52% of the marijuana smokers tested having crystal meth in their system. Crystal meth and marijuana sellers are dipping their pot into the crystal meth – without the kids even knowing crystal meth was in there.
How does the state of Massachusetts help you? Not very well according to Chris who is embarrassed by our state’s lack of assistance to addicts, people who are truly ill and require treatment to stop an addiction to drugs. Here are the statistics he shared with us: opiate addict gets 4 days of treatment while alcoholics get all of 12 days to figure out a 30 year battle with alcohol. (Chris was speaking of his father’s alcoholism in this sentence, but you get the drift.)
Did you know that 12 kids threw themselves in front of an Acela train not wanting to live any longer, it being too painful for them – otherwise known as “depression”.
Chris shared with us the fact that he realizes that girls are more likely to cut themselves, so he regularly rolls up his daughter’s sleeves to make sure that she isn’t cutting herself.
(Cutters cut to feel alive having cut off their emotions from the emotional pain they can no longer bear based. This based on a training program I attended by “cutters” while I worked in the mental health system many years ago.)
Kids who hurt, hurt other people, creating the world of bullying.
Chris’s advise to parents:
It is very important that you spend time talking to your children, asking them how their day is going. If they refuse to answer or give you a curt answer, there may be something going on that you need to know about.
Also, check to see if you notice any of these changes in your kids behavior or attitude:
You need to find out what is going on with your kid. It doesn’t necessarily mean that drugs and alcohol are involved, but what it does mean is that your child needs you to act as the parents that you are working to find out what the problem is so that you can help your child deal with it. Teens do tend to spend more time away from their homes and more time with their friends. Make sure that you know who their friends are and be aware that in many homes, parents sanction the use of alcohol and even marijuana. These same parents may even lie to your face about not allowing it in their home as one parent at the program remarked happened to her. It means that some parents that are addicts will be like all addicts, easily able to lie to your face without your even knowing it. Some parents will just realize that you can’t handle the truth and will lie to you anyway, so beware.
Instill in your kids a sense of self-esteem by helping them to aspire to be the best that they can be, giving them appropriate positive reinforcement for a job well done. If they are involved in sports, remember that it is only a game and not worth the pressure that lead Chris to want to use drugs. He no wanted to deaden the feeling of this huge pressure upon him to perform.
Chris strongly advised that If you know of a kid who comes from a broken home who is having a hard time, please help them to speak to the guidance counselor at school. It could be that this kid is at risk without enough food in the home, being sexually or emotionally abused or in some fashion not living the sort of life that we would hope all our kids could as they grow up. He reminded us that we have no real way to know what is happening behind the closed doors of these kids families.
Lastly, act in the same exact manner that you want your kids to, because they will most assuredly copy whatever you do, while paying no attention what so ever to what you tell them. If you were they, you would do, and most likely did do the exact same thing. So think and act with your heads instead of putting your instant gratification first. Your kids will do much better in life with this approach to parenting, keeping your messages congruent with your own actions.
Sep 30 2013
By Donna N.
While I was forming this idea in my mind, as I often do when I get the compulsion to write these articles, I began to think of my Godchild, Zach, a 16 year old, and perhaps the dearest person to me, other than my dad who has pretty much lived his life at 79 years of age, not that he doesn’t have a lot more years left.
Seems like just yesterday I was in my teens never dreaming that one day I too would feel the same as my grandparents or even my parents that life is passing by. This hit me as I realized that I am 58. Fifty-eight years have passed by and it doesn’t seem possible. Where has the time gone? It seems it is time to share with Zach the idea that life is precious and seems to move faster as the years go by.
This came to light after experiencing a very scary past week for me. I had a bad reaction to a pain medication that was prescribed for me. For almost a week I felt as if I was in and out of consciousness, although never really blacking out I was at times definitely not all there.The spikes in my blood pressure and my racing pulse confirmed my not feeling conscious. As I lay in the hospital emergency room with all the wires and monitors feeling really scared all I wanted was to just feel what I took for granted again – my good health. It isn’t until one has lived some, and experienced life that one realizes how precious it can be. It isn’t till one loses what one has, that one can really appreciate it. A week after having that bad reaction I still don’t feel 100% right from that reaction that landed me in the emergency room not one, but twice.
I couldn’t help but think of the irony of my younger years when I would purposely seek those out of body feelings, or any feeling that was not real. And when I think of all the times I purposefully went for that “feeling” of not being there, because I didn’t really want to be “there”, it is rather ironic. I guess the reason this medication “bad reaction” was so scary is that I want to be there now.I want to see Zach graduate from High School. I want to see another sunset as corny as it sounds. I want to live my life. I also found out today that my step cousin who was only 17 years old passed away. At 2 years of age he choked on a piece of apple and in an instant his life and my step cousin’s life was changed forever. My step cousin seemed to have it all, Michele was married to an airline pilot and had a nice home, and their first son, Ryan. At age of 2 he was eating an apple she had cut up in small pieces for him and for an instant she turned away and in that instant he choked and nearly died. He survived however with severe brain damage. Subsequently Michele’s marriage dissolved and her husband left her. Michele raised Ryan on her own. Sunday, at the age of 17 he passed away from complications of pneumonia. Once again I am reminded of how precious life is. How fast things can change. I just want my Godchild and any one else who can hear this to know and learn form my experience.
And I admit if I were 16 years old again and some 58 year old said that to me again, I wouldn’t really hear it.I can tell them but will it really mean anything. Will they get it? Will they really get it?
If you are feeling like you don’t want to live your life or if you feel the need to escape via drugs and alcohol, even for a day – try escaping in a healthier way! Hypnosis. Self- hypnosis can get you away, if that is what you need for as long as you want and it is free, once you learn and discover it!! No hanging out on the street corner, waiting for the dealer. Without putting all those holes in your brain, or toxins in your liver you can find a better way with self-hypnosis. Meditation is another way. We all at times get frustrated and fed up with our life in general, but I have learned this too shall pass. Life is too precious and even though it may not seem that way right now, one day it will and hopefully it will not be too late.
Sep 30 2013
Episode #10
Why do I continue to do destructive things to myself? What are Addictions really and 8 mindsets needed to beat them.
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This is one of the questions that bring most people into my practice. They realize that they are unable to STOP doing those things they want to stop doing and can’t seem to start doing those things they want to do. In many cases they have tried everything under the sun to get their lives under control yet, still find themselves stuck in these destructive behaviors.
Though this subject is rather broad, I am going to concentrate this particular episode to that of addictions because when we understand the manner in which the brain operates regarding addictions, we can better understand what we can do to get rid of them. This is especially important when one understands that ALL addictions operate in the same manner from the research of the National Institute of Health.
Sep 26 2013
The Myths About Hypnotism Debunked By True Neuroscientist At Long Last! – Vol. 218, September 26, 2013 –
One of the most frustrating things about being a hypnotist, is the fact that many people fear it lacking any real understanding of what it actually is -( a naturally occurring state) that is true of the general population. The medical folks are fearful of hypnosis because they too, have no idea what it really is. If they did they would run out and learn everything they could about it with how much easier it would make their lives, by making the lives of their patients much calmer as they would be in a relaxed and contented emotional space while dealing with the medical issues that they need to have addressed – the reason for their visit to the doctor. The mental health professionals would be wise to integrate hypnosis into everything they do because their patients would surely heal themselves – except that can create a problem for the mental health professional because than the patient will no longer need to see them.
For those who are actually into the health sciences to help people to heal, and for those of you who are consumers of the medical world – which includes just about anyone at some point in life, then hypnotism is something that all of us need to learn how to do and to use proficiently. Of course I would hope a health care professional would take the necessary time and attention to really learn how to use hypnotism in one’s practice because it is indeed a completely separate art and science then what one does when doing what I call “conscious talk therapy.” This is because we are indeed speaking directly to the unconscious mind, and in my case when the unconscious mind gets in the way of the letting go of the issue, then we work in the “higher” or “super conscious” mind (because it is the prime directive of the unconscious mind to protect the conscious from anything that it is unable to handle, thus many traumas are unremembered stuck in the unconscious mind.) This is also why much of talk therapy works on a very superficial level – because one isn’t going into the unconscious mind, rather working in the conscious mind that is unaware of the difficulty, it being UNconscious.
Now why does all of this matter? Because the wonderful news of a few researchers that are demonstrating the fact that hypnosis is indeed a distinct form of brain functioning. Dr. David Spiegel, a psychiatrist and the director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University in California is on the verge of identifying a signature of being hypnotized. This is something that has never been done before. In his study published in the October issue of Archives of General Psychiatry he has reported the changes found in the brain using both functional and magnetic resonance imaging.
They scanned the brains of 12 very hypnotizable adults and 12 with low hypnotizability. The researchers looked at three different networks in the brain: the default-mode network which is engaged when the brain is idle, the executive-control network which is engaged in executive functions and the salience network which is engaged when deciding one thing is more important than another. Both groups have active default-mode network when the brain is idle. The more highly hypnotizable people showed more activity between the executive-control and salience network then the less hypnotizable adults. The scans showed that the more hypnotizable group the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex (the executive functional part of the brain) was activated simultaneously with the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, which is part of the salience network (which helps to focus attention on the more important things). There was little functional connectivity in these two areas in those that seemed to be low in hypnotizability.
In the article Neuroscience Gets Serious About Hypnosis reported in Research Digest: Blogging on Brain and Behavior,( August 1, 2013), David Oakley and Peter Halligan state that brain imaging supports the fact that hypnosis is a distinct form of consciousness. Once one is induced into hypnosis, participants showed reduced activity in the “default mode” network with increased activity in the “prefrontal attentional system”.
Participants exposed to suggestive statements can experience altered perceptual or bodily sensations. For example if the participant is told that their arm is getting heavier and they cannot move it, the suggestible participant would be unable to move their arm, it seemingly being paralyzed.
When a study of participants were hypnotized and instructed to see colorful Mondrian images that were in gray, brain scan results showed altered activity in fusiform regions of the brain which are involved in the processing of color. These changes were not observed when the participants merely imagined the Mondrians in gray.
Many neurological symptoms are medically unexplained lacking an organic cause. It is in these areas that hypnosis is proving to be a powerful way to model, explore and treat peoples’ symptoms. Unfortunately this area of generating experiences with a targeted suggestion is under-researched given the human’s cognitive abilities influencing human behavior and consciousness according to Oakley and Halligan.
I am hopeful that the research will continue. I certainly have avenues of research that I would like to see undertaken in the long term results my addicted clients receive from the work they do with me clearing out their dysfunctional self-medicating ways, and replacing them with life affirming thoughts and actions as the outcome of our work together.
It is really true that your mind is what controls how you feel be it: physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. The best way to use the mind you have is to learn how to access its various parts by using hypnotic techniques. I know that after more than 11 years of practicing hypnosis, and many years before, working in vendor programs for the severely mentally ill, there is no faster, longer lasting way to get a person into a happy and productive life regardless of the complications involved, or the severity of the client’s situation with two exceptions: 1) If a person has a personality disorder it is much harder for them to make the requisite changes and 2) if a person has an IQ lower than 70, that person would find it difficult to focus on what the hypnotist is asking them to do in their minds. Other than that the only other issue would be one of trusting your hypnotist. To find an excellent one, you need to go online to see that they have had success stories in the area that you are requesting help in the form of blog postings demonstrating knowledge in that particular area. Better than that, look for detailed testimonials from their past clients proving over a longer period of time – more than a year out that they were successful in taking care of the issue. These should read more like case histories to give you a greater understanding of the course of treatment the client went through. With that, you are armed better than anything you could possibly gain from a psychologist or psychiatrist who is unable to share that information with you based on the confidentiality regulations of their licensing boards. Hypnotism is not a licensed profession here in the U.S.A. You may find licensed professionals that say they do hypnosis, however it is my clients’ experience that they have had little to no effect using hypnosis not being fully educated in the manner it deserves for the best results. It is a separate profession and needs to be treated as such. That is just the way it is – good luck on your search and may you be healed of whatever is getting in the way of your living a happy and fulfilled life.
Sep 23 2013
Vol. 70, November 2008- Feeling Anxious? Hypnosis Can Rid You of It Fairly Quickly
These days seem to bring more anxiety than we have felt in a long time given the state of the economy, the derelict things we have found our representatives here in the states have done with the power they were granted and the political scene as discussed in the news.
It is interesting to me though, that none of these items are contributing to why people will call for help. It is usually the more mundane human situations that create the most angst. Sexually inappropriate behavior is one area that creates much worry as well as anger. It can happen on either side of the marriage. Continue reading
Sep 23 2013
Episode #9
Isn’t there more to life then this? So long as you are asking the question, here are 10 steps to get in tune with your purpose in Life
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We all feel like we have a purpose in life. Here are some simple ideas to help you explore yours.