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Objective success. Subjective failure. How the medical experience can be improved.
Jul 31 2014
Is Resentment Eating You Up? It’s NOW Time to Release it!
Is Resentment Eating You Up? It’s NOW Time to Release it! – Vol. 269, July 31, 2014
Yesterday I went to look into one of my bank accounts to fine that it had gone into the negative numbers. This is never a good thing since we get charged with bank fees, usually totally unreasonable ones these days. In this case, I only use this bank account for people on the West coast to easily move money into my account given that this is a federal bank. What I was not expecting was by having a person deposit money into my account with the use of a teller, that I would be charged a $12 maintenance fee. Why? Because this particular bank account is only to be used without teller assistance with the use of the ATM or online transfers.
Well, the person who made the deposit into my account in Seattle, didn’t have an account at this particular bank so both those methods were not applicable to her situation. So, I get on the phone and the representative explains to me that because she went to the bank and used the services of the teller to deposit the money into my account, the fee was assessed. I have never heard of such a crazy thing as to have a bank charge for a deposit being made, and yet, banks can charge for anything!
Well, I called the bank and had to talk to a “manager” to refund the $12 fee because frankly, I was not interested in keeping an account in a bank that would take my money for having a deposit made in such a fashion.
Now, I realize that being resentful is not a very healthy way to be. I know this because of the physiological consequences I feel in my body such as: an anxious stomach and a quickened heart beat. So, what do we need to do to take care of these resentments?
We need to take action to resolve whatever the issue is that is creating the resentment. My bank example is a simple situation that took more time than I desired, but was better than having the $12 charge and whatever other fees the bank may choose to charge.
Here are some steps to help you to easily and effectively release any resentment that you may be feeling:
Get in touch with the real emotions behind your feeling. In my case I am doing my friend a favor by saving her money on her cell phone by having her on my bill. She is very good about paying her part of the bill every month. So my issue isn’t with her, it was with the bank for charging me for having her deposit the money needed for the phone payment into their bank.
Figure out if you contributed in some way to the problem. In my case, it was a matter of not realizing that by having my friend use the teller to deposit her check, a fee could be assessed, given the terms of the account that I have at this bank.
Take the actions needed to rectify the situation. I had to call the bank to find out why they assessed the monthly maintenance fee, that was never a part of this account. I next had to take the time to listen to the explanation from the manager to find out what caused the fee to be assessed and then listen to other alternatives to how we could handle this situation without it costing me more money. I then had to call my friend and let her know that this method wasn’t going to work and for us to figure out a different method of her paying me for her share of the phone bill. She decided that mailing me the money was fine and so we are going back to that method.
Now, if you have a much more emotionally charged situation than my example you will need to be seriously honest with yourself and take responsibility for your part in the situation. Because, generally in life, if we are feeling wronged by someone, there was a miscommunication or an expectation that was unfulfilled.
To release the resentment, you will need to ask yourself if there was indeed a miscommunication, understanding that people are rushing about most days just trying to keep up with everything they feel they need to accomplish for that day.
If the resentment was based on an expectation, you need to ask yourself if that expectation was reasonable. Lastly, if it was something that you are responsible for, it is very important for you to take responsibility for your part in the situation for your relationship to be healed, allowing the resentment to be released, which will bring your physiology back to a healthy manner of functioning. No longer will you feel the anxious feelings in your stomach and your heart will beat at its normal rate. A very good side-effect for taking care of your resentments as they arise, wouldn’t you say?
Jul 28 2014
Vol. 97 February 2011 – Living Your Definite Purpose
In the beginning of the 20th century Napoleon Hill was chosen by Andrew Carnegie to study the tycoons of his day to outline the principles to success that these men used.
In his book, Think and Grow Rich Hill teaches us that getting control of our mind, most especially our unconscious mind, the part of our mind that runs us, will allow us to concentrate our energy toward taking action in achieving our definite purpose – that reason why we are here on this planet for anyone who is willing to take the time to answer that question for themselves.
In the past couple of days there are two people who are in my personal life who have demonstrated the willingness to heed their callings by getting in touch with what is truly important to them. The changes in these two woman over the past couple of years is just astounding, even more so because each of them is over 50 years of age. Generally the older you get, the more difficult it is to make changes in your life. Continue reading
Jul 28 2014
053:Texting & Video Games Are “IN” and Smoking is “Out”
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While teenage smoking is down, texting and video games are up. Learn how both are affecting your kids
Jul 24 2014
Scientists Are Beginning To Understand How We Can Rewrite Memories As We Do In Hypnotic Work All The Time
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Scientists Are Beginning To Understand How We Can Rewrite Memories As We Do In Hypnotic Work All The Time – Vol. 268, July 24, 2014
Isn’t it interesting that researchers at the University of California, San Diego have been able to form memories, erase memories and replace memories of mice and rats. In these experiments scientist were able to erase the rats memories of being shocked. They realized this effect by noticing that the rats no longer were acting afraid of being shocked. This was reported by Steven Sparkman in Newsy.
Last year an experiment was done where scientists implanted a false memory in rats.
Scientists, M.J. Richardson and Sierra Blakely, learned how to turn parts of the brains on and off in mice and rats by shining the correct light on them, after having taken genes that convert light into electricity from algae and jellyfish, and placing them into the neurons of mice and rats. They call this new field optogenetics where they can turn on and off neurons of the cells wherever they want. In this way they can change the behavior and diseases of the organism’s brain. So far no research in this area has been done on humans needing new technologies and modalities to heal the brain according to researchers at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT).
Humans have been rewriting their memories through hypnotic technique while in the altered state called hypnotic trance for thousands of years. When a client comes in and is given a technique to gain a new perspective on an old memory, they are in a fashion rewriting their history. That old event that was once so emotionally painful, has had the negative charge taken off of it, allowing the client to have the feeling, “So what, it’s no big deal.” With this accomplished, the client is able to move through life now without that trauma creating ill feelings toward themselves or the person who may have hurt them in the past. We know that this work is unable to be done in the waking conscious mind of the beta brain waves. It has to be done in the altered state of alpha or theta brain waves. These are the same brain waves that one is experiencing while doing meditation, for hypnosis is nothing more than “meditation with a purpose” as Julie Griffin, my first hypnosis teacher so eloquently explained to her classes. The purpose of the hypnosis being the process used to get the results that the client has come in to receive.
Bruce Lipton, cellular biologist and the author of Biology of Belief explains that when we are between the ages of 0 to 7 years of age all learning is done though the subconscious mind, the child not yet having developed the mental ability to reason, rationalize of judge anything, all the stimuli go directly into the the child’s subconscious mind where it is all “recorded.” Now, if the child is in a heightened emotional state when that in put is recorded in the subconscious mind, meaning below the conscious awareness – that child will respond to that stimulus accordingly. So, if the child is being treated well, the child will feel good about him/her self. If the child is being yelled at and demeaned that child may grow up feeling unworthy love and/or success.
The manner in which a hypnotist might take care of this problem is to have the person go back to the event and gain the perspective of an older person who can then better understand that perhaps the parent had a bad day at work and therefore would be less likely to personalize the comment. In this way we have in a sense “rewritten the memory” taking the emotional charge off of it. This is most helpful in situations where the client had some particularly horrific events in the past that has emotionally damaged them. The interesting aspect to this work is that it takes minutes instead of many sessions to clear these events using the subconscious mind, it being hundreds of times quicker to process information than the conscious mind.
Since work is done in the altered state of trance, the client comes out of the state feeling lighter and brighter having let go of the negative connotations of these events having gained a different perspective, allowing the client to move past these incidences living a much happier and fulfilling life.
Jul 21 2014
Trichotillomania: Do You Or One Of Your Kids Pull Out Hair?
Vol. 62, March 2008 – Trichotillomania: Do You Or One Of Your Kids Pull Out Hair?
A couple of years ago I gave a demonstration and lecture in hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming. One of the participants attended because his wife wanted him to learn about the subject searching for a way to get their fourteen year old son to stop pulling out his eye lashes.
A few days later I receive a call from his wife explaining the above and wanted to know if I could help. You see they had already tried the medication route and she found his pills on the floor, hidden under the couch cushions, and in other places leading her to conclude that he was not taking them as prescribed. Her husband was on their son’s case to stop this habit every time he looked at his son’s uneven eye lashes. Continue reading
Jul 21 2014
052:Why Are ADD & ADHD Kids More Likely To Abuse Drugs
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Is there a link between ADD, ADHD and drug abuse. Find out now.