Learnings From Conversations I Have Had With Brave People -Vol. 287, November 27, 2014
I have been podcasting about my cross country move of late on my podcast Claim Your Excellent Life and all the interesting things that I have been learning about myself because of that move.
Today I am going to share with you some of the amazing learnings that I have received from others who made the decision to get up and make a move in life, not always geographic in nature.
I went to an event this Saturday where I had lunch with a social worker who has spent the last fifteen years working with elders. She had just accepted a position in a hospital emergency room where she was going to be working in a high paced place of crisis including drug overdose cases. When she learned of my work with drug addicts, she asked many interesting questions. What I found so refreshing was that she was curious to do this new work and was happy to get some insights that could help her in working with the overdose patients, while never worried about working in such a different environment. She was happy about her change even at this late stage of her career.
I spent a week in an Airbnb with a single mom and her two kids. The older one, twenty-two years old, came in and out as his tennis teaching schedule dictated, his mother living close to one of the clubs he taught at. The other was ten years old and was spending that week with his mother. The interesting thing about my host was the fact that she had been laid off from a decent paying job a couple of years back. She was still living in the house her sons knew as “home” having come up with this interesting way to help to keep them there. The positive part of living in a beautiful area was the attraction of travelers from all over the world whom her sons got to interact. The host had a part-time job in the mornings while supplementing her income with her Airbnb guests. She is such a likable person, that her one of her guest was helping her with cleaning and organizing her garage during the time I was there.
One of the most important things about my move was locating a place to live that I loved. The price of housing being what it is especially in the area that I found, it was mandatory to find a roommate situation. I knew the sort of person that I wanted for a roommate having had a few in the intervening months that really had little in common with me while making things uncomfortable all around. Well, I found the perfect roommate in the perfect place for me to start my new life in California. She is an amazing woman as she told me a bit of her story yesterday. Like many people that I have met throughout my life, she found herself in a marriage that wasn’t working for her at all. She had two daughters at the time – 6 and 8 years old. The manner in which the marriage ended left her with nothing to help her to care for her daughters or herself. So, she did what she had to and had two jobs, working hard to make her kids lives as stable as possible without their father being there – he had moved on. What I found refreshing was that she didn’t go about feeling sorry for herself, realizing she didn’t have time for that at all because her kids needed her to be strong for them. What she did was think strategically in how she could best move forward to afford those things that she knew were important for her children to feel safe and supported. Her older daughter lives in the apartment below us and I can attest to the fact that she is a warm hearted and helpful person who can’t do enough to help he mom out, even as she raises three young kids of her own now.
Because of many years of medication destroying my nails, I like to get my nails done. I did this in a place owned by a Korean woman whose sister was the person who did an expert job doing my nails. She came over to this country to work with her sister putting in 12 hours days six days a week. This, because there is no opportunity in Korea. She said that the things that we have available to us here in the United States are unheard of back home where it is a struggle to earn a living. She doesn’t enjoy doing nails though she has spent the last ten years doing them. What she really wants to do is go back to school to become a fashion designer. She is saving all her money to do just that.
I share these stories with you because there are so many people who will make excuses why they have to stay in lives that don’t work for them. They will blame other people, they will say they can’t leave their job because of the benefits involved,or in some fashion say they have too much to give up.
If there is one thing that I have learned on my journey through life, it is that one needs to understand when it is time to move on. If you are spending much of your time resentful about some aspect of your circumstances, it is up to you to take a stand for yourself and make the necessary changes because as Carolyn Myss made clear during her presentation Saturday, believe it or not, your endless complaints about your life are boring your friends and making you more miserable. If things don’t work out, its time to make another decision to make things better. Who knows, maybe you will be most pleasantly surprised for the new choices you are making for yourself.
Learnings From My Journey: Suzannisms For the Mind and Soul
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.