Structure the talk in this fashion:
First, I want to admit that I have not always been straight with you about business deals. Do you know why I made that decision/ ____Because you can never be excited about what I am doing, always finding reasons to critise everything I do…and frankly, I am done with this attitude of yours.
Tammy, you know how when I told you that the contract was finally signed and your response? You has such a blazee attitude as I had not put a year of my life into making this happen. You could care less – at least as far as your attitude toward me.
I also want to remind you about how you were so critical of the high school concert criticing that student for his playing – and Taylor even realized that you were going to say something critical about someone and you did. You do not know what it takes to have a business or to make business so you are not in a situation where you can make an assessment of my who it is that I am meeting with and what I am doing relative to the cost in time and gas. That meeting was important for closing this $80K contract with the Benedictines that you are talking behind my back to Taylor about how bad it is – Do you see how destructive this is to our relationship – yours and mine?
Do you see something wrong with this way of interacting with people – even people you don’t know – like this high school student?
Do you understand that this is why you never have had any friends? EVER?
You need to get some help to find out why you act in this way so you can learn how to stop it…
When you told Taylor that I should not have been going to the meeting for the Benidictines – too much time – too much money in gas without understanding why that was important – you put Taylor into a very bad place between her two parents which is not fair to your daughter – she is not your spouse, she is not your age – she is your child.
I don’t know if you realize it, but your daughter has become very critical – emulating your behavior which is not good for her – all the difficulties between Taylor and Jayden – all the criticism – she learned from you.
You have a couple of choices:
I am giving you a month to see if you are able to stop the criticism of anyone with whom you come into contact and even those who you do not even know?
If you are unable to do that, it means you are not capable which means you have two options from there:
You can get the help you need to find out why you do this behavior and transform your understanding into healthy relationships OR you can find another place to live because I am not selling this home I built for our family, and you cannot afford the payments and taxes on your small salary even with alimony from me.
NOTE: Interweave biblical stories to make your points and do it in your most Preacherly manner in terms of the emphasis that you would make on the most important points both during the biblical storytelling and as you tell her the facts of life.
You will be nervous, but my guess is that once you get into your storytelling you will be fine and find your groove. You are a pro for communication skills so you will be fine.
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