How to Make True Friends – Life is Never Done Alone -Vol. 495, April 25, 2019 –
Until I got into hypnotism, I never realized how many people felt all alone in the world. This included clients who were married, though, they were not bring fortified by their partners, some for a very long time. I had clients who felt they did not have a friend in the world, only acquaintances, that they never felt comfortable receiving validation or support from.
This was so foreign to me, a person who has been blessed with so many super supportive people in my life each in their own way. And, to tell you the truth, there is not one person on this planet who has achieved anything of any value who did not have others helping them out in some fashion.
The complexities of the world today, the quick pace that we live life, the never-ending technologies that change the way we think and work, make it imperative that we have others to keep us balanced. Others who can help us in those areas that we may not be very competent, allowing us to shine in our areas of expertise.
How does one gain real friends? It’s as simple as being the sort of person that you would like to have as a friend. Be thoughtful, be kind, be positive and be present while you are in the other’s company. Validate the other’s feelings while they are going through a difficult time. And, you know what? You may just find yourself creating wonderful relationships with people who are truly there for you in a way that perhaps you never thought was possible.
I am here to tell you that it is indeed possible, but only if you are vulnerable enough to have ‘real’ relationships with others, letting go of the superficialities. Instead, allowing your friends to be as imperfectly human as you are because this is one area that people can get stuck on. Please never expect someone to live up to your idea of perfection, as they are they and have a totally different idea of what that may be. If you are lucky, they realize that perfection is an impossible goal to reach, so, allow themselves to be who they are and be the best they can be. However, there will always be times when people put their foot in their mouths. There will be times when one can be crabby and there are times when one may have more needs then perhaps you are willing to contend. However, do remember that you too are going to find yourself in all of these situations and would do well to have someone be present for you as you do.
Of course, we want to make friends with people who have integrity, so have integrity yourself. Be your word to yourself first and then to others. Be loving and kind to yourself first and then to others. Because, the reality is that we can only be there for others, in the ways that we are there for ourselves first.
There will be those times when friendships may not work out, and that is okay, it is all part of life. There will be times when friendships break up with different values and needs and that is also fine. Because there are always other people with whom to make friends along this journey that we call life.
Learnings From My Journey: Suzannisms For the Mind and Soul
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Learnings From My Journey: Suzannisms For the Mind and Soul
About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.