This is an important question to be asking, especially these days. I have been working with a client for the last 3 years mainly because she continued the services for emotional support as she goes through the legal system to have her ex-partner who strangled her 4 times put in jail.
This client had a history of dating many men who had narcissistic behavior over the years, attracting them because of her personality of people-pleasing. She was too trusting finding herself in untenable situations, one after the next over the years. When she employed me, she was depressed after the man she last dated threw her out of his life, totally incapable of any emotional stability on her part. She was a shadow of her former self emotionally.
We did a lot of clearing work regarding her previous emotional traumas because of other narcissistic behaviors applied to her over the years. We then did a lot of work to build up her sense of self-love, self-respect, and self-worth healing herself. About 6 months into the work, she realized that the way to heal for her was to bring this last guy to justice by having him imprisoned for his physical abuse toward her for which she had physical evidence.
So, one can indeed overcome these situations, learn how to never attract people with these abusive tendencies again, by learning how to have strong emotional boundaries, and move on with life. My client is currently working on her career as a performer, which was stopped because of the world shutting down during the COVID-19 crisis and then having this emotional trauma that needed to be healed.
Being a hypnotist with 30+ years of working with the mentally ill and emotionally traumatized including several years working in conventional mental health before shifting to hypnotism, I can tell you that one has to work in the brain’s part where these emotional traumas need to be healed to overcome them. That would be in the amygdala where the emotions are felt and the hippocampus of the brain where memories reside which is where hypnotists and neuro-linguistic programmers work, NOT the prefrontal cortex where the conventionally trained mental health providers work where judgment, rationalization, and reasoning get in the way of the patient being able to access the subconscious memories that need to be transformed from destruction thoughts and behaviors to life-giving thoughts and behaviors.
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