Donna N.
How many of us are really willing to do what it takes to get the END results that we want? We may get some results and want to stop because we are lazy, have time constraints, money issues or whatever the EXCUSE. We sign up for programs that promise results in 90 days. Do we really give 100% for the entire 90 days, or fizzle out after 10 days? Are we committed to do what ever it takes to get the job done. Or do we poop out and quit before the end of the program, only to blame the program or teacher for our failings. It is easy to blame someone else for our short comings and our inability to follow through on projects. It’s just as easy as to blame others for not starting the project, when in fact we should. Procrastination has a way of making things seem worse the longer we put things off.
I have been feeling poorly for a while now and finally got the energy to do something about it besides complaining about feeling poorly. I decided due to my symptoms that I would go back to the chiropractor that helped me six years ago with similar issues. Unfortunately he is located about 20 miles away from where I currently live. Add in the fact that I will be seeing him after work having to fight the rush hour traffic to get home, needing to do this three days a week for at least three months – during the summer months, making driving home in the rush hour traffic even worse. Keeping in mind it takes me an average of ten minutes to get home from work normally, in virtually no traffic. I am now committing myself to 40-60 minutes of rush hour, bumper to bumper traffic to get home. I had to ask myself do I really want to commit myself to this? Then I asked myself do I really want to feel better or continue on feeling poorly and complaining about it. I could go to another chiropractor, but I know this doctor is successful. It seemed like a no brainier as I did really want to feel better and it seemed like I would not really mind as much going the 20 miles even in the rush hour traffic making my commute five to six times longer. It has been almost a month now, and I have to tell you it is getting harder to continue to keep these appointments. There are days that I feel that it is helping and I am feeling better, better enough to stop the treatment. And then there are days that I am feeling just as bad as I started with no improvement feeling why am I bothering, it isn’t helping, and I want to stop the treatment, blaming my not feeling better on my provider. But then I have to realize that I have not finished the treatment so it is unfair to say it isn’t helping or I am well enough to stop.
Sometimes things are not totally linear, that is they don’t always go in exact order in gradients of one’s feeling better. I have good days after treatment and I have bad days. On the good days of course it is easy to want to continue, but on the bad days I really feel like I need a kick in the ass to get myself to go. However, even though the pain may be gone today, the necessary corrections that need to take place have not, so the pain will come back if I stop prematurely. So I guess it all circles back to how bad do I really want to feel better. Am I able to commit by following through with my treatment? Do I really want this issue to be totally resolved once and for all or do I want to continue feeling miserable? Am I willing to gamble on stopping treatment basically ignoring the providers treatment plan? Do I know more than this provider in his field of expertise? It is the following through part that gets most folks.
Following through with things that are fun and easy to do can be easy, but following through with things that are difficult requiring hard work and discomfort are not so easy to do. Nobody likes discomfort, but as the Nike commercial states: “No pain, no gain”. Sometimes it hurts a little to get better. It is like that hill Jack and Jill had to climb to get to the other side. Going up wasn’t easy but going down once they did get up there was.
I think there also has to be a certain level of trust in the service you are receiving.Trust that it will indeed be worth the time and effort you are putting forth to get the results you desire. If you don’t feel it is worth your time and effort, if you don’t have 100% trust in your provider, it makes it harder to continue through the difficult times. One needs to be open and honest in their feelings for trust issues can come and go during the treatment. Should this happen and you feel your trust waning, one needs to talk with the provider in regards to this issue. This is most important because it is natural for one to lose trust or even feel anger when a provider is requiring you to do things that you really find difficult or do not want to do. There were times when I was really doubting my ability to follow through on the treatment plan that was laid out with my seeing Suzanne. I had initially come to her with a specific set of issues, however during the course of her treatment, other issues became evident that were related and had to be dealt with. It was these new and related issues that I found difficult to deal with. I had to trust in her being my provider that I could not only get through these issues, but that they were necessary as part of the over all treatment program. Sometimes one doesn’t always know what lies ahead and has to be prepared to deal with things that come up, even if one hadn’t planned on it at the start. Life is like that box of chocolates Forrest Gump commented on. You never know if you are going to get a nut or a soft center. You never know what is around the corner, however if you do decide to begin a program and you do decide to trust in the provider, you need to follow through with the program to the end, no matter what. Walking away and quitting just shouldn’t be an option unless you are not really serious in overcoming your issue, and if that is the case you need not sign on for the program.
Quitting treatment and walking away due to the fact one does not want to do the work required is also a problem. During my work with Suzanne a lot of the work required were things that I found hard to do. Had Suzanne not been in my face and pushed me to the brink, I would not have been successful in my treatment. This is one of the main reasons all my previous treatments failed. The provider never really required my doing all of the work. If I didn’t really need that nudge, I wouldn’t have really have had an issue in the first place and there would really have been no need to see Suzanne. But if I really want to be honest with myself, and you the reader, I did have a problem and I did go to Suzanne and I did sign up for the treatment plan, so I really needed to stick with it and follow that which I agreed to in the first place if I really planned clearing the issue that I brought me to her in the first place.
I need to trust in Suzanne or whomever my provider, even when I feel I can’t, because in the overall scheme of things – they are the experts in their fields and I am the one, or WAS the one needing their help. (I did complete my program with Suzanne, and I AM completing my program with my chiropractor.)
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About Donna
Donna M. Novi's passion for the Life Sciences began at the age of 16 when she became fascinated with Biology and Chemistry. So much so that her teachers allowed her to teach basic genetics to lower class men. After landing a Quality Control position with New England Nuclear, she completed her Associates degree from Middlesex Community College. After which she became the first person in the company to be promoted to Chemist prior to receiving her Bachelors of Chemistry from Almeda University. As of 2012 and 38 years following a Life Sciences career, Donna has worked with everything from Multi-step synthesis of steroids to Bio-safety level 2 work with inactivated HIV virus. Currently, she is employed by PerkinElmer in the processing of radioactive nuclides directly from a live reactor for use in Cancer treatment and research.
Bringing her considerable professional experience to bear, she is a very active contributor to Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Inc. as she believes that many more people should be able to benefit from this method of treatment.