This was a question from a person on Quora and this is how I answered it:
This is an interesting question.
Therapy is about helping people to discern what is necessary to make their lives happy and fulfilled. In so doing one will necessarily need to focus on the patients’ emotions, wants, and needs.
However, for therapy to actually work, the client needs to focus on how it is that their own thoughts and behaviors are creating the issues that they have employed the therapist to help them work through. Because no person is acting in life as a singular entity. Communication needs to be learned to better interact, behaviors need to be shifted to no longer cause the problems, and in so doing the needs and wants of the client can be achieved.
Too often in therapy, too much time is spent on going over and over the same old stories – the stories that the client has created to make sense of the problems being experienced. However, one needs to understand that just because we may have a story, does not make that story true. Our unconscious mind is very good at deleting information and in so doing distorting those memories, so one needs to be able to reframe the occurrences of the present based on what is actually happening, not the story as to why it may be happening.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.