Change: How To Contend With it? -Vol. 494, April 11, 2019
Most people are very uneasy when changes occur in their lives. These would be those folks who like to know what to expect every day, keeping them within their little box called ‘their life.’ However, we all know that the two things that are inevitable are change and taxes. So, what do we do when something occurs in our lives that really does change our lives in ways that we were not expecting?
Back in 2006 when my ex-husband of 20 years told me that he was unhappy in our marriage and wanted out, I was not exactly surprised as he was demonstrating how unhappy he was by pulling away from me. There were other indicators for years, but this did not make this announcement any easier to take. It was only after he explained his real reason for wanting out that I was more able to understand where he was coming from.
My life was indeed turned upside down in many respects. However, the change worked out better for me in a couple of ways. I no longer had to deal with many aspects of life that I no longer wanted to be engaged in where he was concerned. It also brought my overall health back, no longer dealing with my ex’s anger at feeling stuck in a relationship that he no longer wanted.
There was also the change in trying to run a business with little income, no longer having my ex’s income to help with the household expenses. This really created a hardship on me. However, my health was still much better than during the time I was married. Go figure…
I share this story with you because there are things that are outside our control that we need to contend with whether or not it is comfortable. And, to be honest, I had a hand in the demise of my marriage. I made many trips cross country for my trainings in hypnosis and NLP. To bring in money as I was building up my hypnosis practice, I spent weekends caring for a client with down syndrome in her home. To top it all off, I had grown emotionally with each training trip I made, as we trainees were applying all the techniques we learned to ourselves to imprint the knowledge into ourselves. My ex had made a comment to me one day telling me that he could not keep up with all the changes made with every training trip I took. And, so, the marriage crumbled. We are still very good friends today because there was no reason not to heal the issues between us. We have known each other for over 30 years and as such we share a very long history. We speak infrequently, but when we do, we pick up where we left off. We support one another in what we are doing in our lives. Besides, it would be impossible for me to help couples who are in crisis if I had not cleared the negative emotions that I had after the demise of our marriage.
So, change is inevitable. Just know that whatever occurs, one can overcome the issues involved in the change and create a better life then what may have been before. It is all in how one chooses to perceive those changes. And, it also has much to do with taking responsibility for our part in the changes that occur along the way. Because in any relationship it does indeed take two to make it or break it.
Learnings From My Journey: Suzannisms For the Mind and Soul
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.