A young person on Quora asked me a question regarding if she as a schizophrenic on antipsychotic medication would ever be able to live a normal life – being able to find a partner. I wrote her an answer with a love story from one of my case histories which will give you who are dealing with serious mental health histories can find some real hope.
Here is how I answered her:
Thanks for the A2A,
As the person who commented below stated – she was honest with her situation and all worked out well so far. However, I have a beautiful love story to share with you of one of my clients from long ago.
When I met her, she was 60 years old, divorced for many years, and living on money that her aunt had left her in a will. She was living in a cute attic apartment in a very large victorian home and had spent the last 35 years or so self-estranged from her family knowing that she couldn’t raise them given her psychotic episodes and general anxiety.
The first thing I told her before even getting to her living room, was that my job was to be fired as soon as possible because she was doing so well. She flipped out at that notion having been involved in the world of conventional mental health for so many decades.
I saw her for 9 months as she learned how to reclaim her own life again, and then moved on to a small college town in upper state NY to be close to her youngest daughter who had a 2-year-old son at the time. She helped to raise him and his brother who was born a couple of years later. However, it was the special man in the apartment downstairs from her who came into her life. they were friends at first and then the romance blossomed. They get married. He purchased a little cape cod-style home and renovated it for them. He also had a camper which they used to visit all their children during the nicer seasons of the year. They lived together happily for the rest of his life – so about 12 years or so.
I tell this story not just for you, but for others who may be a bit older and wondering what life could hold for them. This client had the best years of her life toward the end and it truly was magical. She did me the favor of sending me a card with a letter in it every year till her death (I am guessing) to let me know how her life was going. And, I did indeed reply to each one.
Keep your heart open and allow the right person to come in, at the right time. Love yourself for who you are and all the great qualities you have because I am sure you have them as my client had a sweet loving disposition through and through and was quite a great writer. And, at some point when you least expect it the right person will show up.
Thanks again for the A2A because we all need to know that if we have love in our hearts, there is someone there for us who will love us for exactly who we are.
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