I had a conversation with one of my clients yesterday who found herself in a situation that she found upsetting. It was a situation that she had found herself in once before with the same people and swore it was never going to happen again…but it did!
You see, one of the things that we need to always keep in mind is the behavior of those with whom we spend our time. Too often we either make excuses for their behavior, or in the case of this client try to play ‘savior’ by stepping in to prevent a bad situation from becoming even worse.
We cannot save anyone from themselves especially if they are unwilling to get the help they require to take care of the situations that keep coming up in their lives. We cannot pretend to know the answers for these people even when we have gone down a similar road which was true in this case.
All we can do is make suggestions to help them receive the help they need, but if they will not do that because they are not yet ready, there is not a damn thing we can do to help them out.
So, what do you do in these situations? You do what I told my client to do…you step out of their lives till they are able to see the light and get the help they need to stop attracting the drama and trauma into their lives. To do anything other than that is asking for your life to be interrupted. Worse, in similar cases to situations like your own, retraumatizing yourself through the negative behaviors that you are witnessing your friend going through.
I know that it can be difficult to let go of friendships that we have had for decades…but that is what we need to do when those we love are not willing to take a stand for their own health and well-being. Because in the end, they are the only ones who can make a better choice for themselves. I wish that were not true, and yet it is.
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.