Jun 23 2016

What Gets In the Way of Feeling Contentment?

What Gets In the Way of Feeling Contentment? – Vol. 367, June 23, 2016

Over the years I have studied under many people who agree with the notion that one’s circumstances have little to do with one’s happiness or contentment in life. The majority of these individuals are coming from a more spiritual angle then one of the physical world and it’s realities.

The idea of gratitude comes in often while studying these individuals. Another very common idea is that of living in the moment, for as long as everything is fine in the moment, there is nothing to be concerned about, or so the teaching goes.

I would like to bring a different idea into the mix, though I certainly agree with the above. I believe contentment comes from a sense of honoring yourself for who you are – meaning that you are willing to live your own values, your own truths and take the stands for those things that truly matter to you.

During all my years of working in the field of mental health, I can tell you that the biggest problem my clients have had to deal with is the lack of feeling at one with who they are as people. We can associate many labels to the lack of positive feelings about themselves – all of it going back to some form of lack of love and respect for themselves.

How does one become content in one’s life? It’s simple really, however that doesn’t mean it is an easy thing to achieve.

First, you must make an honest appraisal of your positive attributes. Listen to the compliments that others give you, that perhaps you are too quick to dismiss.

Second, feel into those compliments, owning them as who you are, because in this world, heart felt compliments are hard to come by. No one is going to compliment you for something that is not true for that person.

Third, understand that no one is perfect, which includes you. Forgive yourself for those things that you felt you did that were negative to others and yourself.

And, always remember to live in the moment, with gratitude for the good stuff that you have in you life.

If there are things that you are doing that make you feel poorly about yourself, stop doing them.

If you are hanging around unsupportive people, let them go.

If you are not taking good care of yourself, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, ask yourself why it is that you don’t feel worthy of this self-care. See if you can make a determination that, of course you are worthy of taking good care of yourself.

Remember that our wallets, the material things that we own, the good paying job, are not the things that allow a person to feel contented. Contentment is an ‘inside’ job, having very little if anything to do with the exterior.

I can’t tell you how many people I have worked with who had excellent paying jobs that they felt bored or overwhelmed by. I can’t tell you the amount of people that I have worked with who had every material thing a person could want, and still they were miserable. I can’t tell you the amount of people who were in relationships that were either dead or abusive, yet there they were feeling stuck in them, usually “for the good of the kids.”

Please do yourself a favor and wake up to that which lights you up inside. Get true to who you are at your very essence by respecting your heart’s calling. By doing so, you will find that you are at long last feeling contented, feeling nurtured and nourished by the life you are living. It needn’t be perfect, it just needs to be aligned with who you are as a person. The best part of this whole deal is that you will find the energy and health that maybe were kept from you for a very long time.

I know that it was only when I stopped to listen to what I wanted in my life, what I cared about, that my health finally got much better. My inner self felt contented. I wish you the same in your journey through life.

Photo by Trish Hamme

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