I am not sure if there are more pills to cure disease or if there are more actual diseases in the world at this point. One thing is for certain, all of us at one time or another has taken some type of pill for some sort of symptom. We don’t even have to have an actual disease or illness, merely a symptom to reach for that little pill bottle. We take pills when our head hurts, when we can’t sleep, and we feel nauseous. There are not just aspirins now, but aspirins for backache, headache, arthritis, migraine, joint pain, muscle aches and the list goes on. We even take pills to get ourselves to do what we want to do but are just unable to like: losing weight, quitting smoking, or sexual compulsiveness.  We take pills when we have low energy or if we are too hyper. We even take fertility pills if we want to get pregnant or sexual enhancement pills for better sex. We take pills to control our OCD or any other undesirable condition that we may suffer from.The list is endless and I will bet for any symptom, there is a pill somewhere to make it better. And it makes sense to us for why suffer through life if we do not have to with all these annoyances.

All of these methods of “fixing” ourselves are legal and accepted in our society today. We don’t think twice to reach for an aspirin if we have a headache or a sleeping pill if we cannot sleep. Do we ever wonder why we are getting that headache or if there could be a reason behind the constant stomach pains or need for internet porn? We don’t think twice of giving our child a pill for that ADD or learning disability he or she might have. In fact  we feel we are helping our child to do and perform better by giving him or her a pill to overcome their “disability” or inadequacy.

Do we ever stop to think what that little pill might be doing to our bodies and our minds? Our minds start to learn to rely on these “helpful” synthetic chemicals, such that we know if we get a headache, relief is just a pill away. Or if our stomach gives us agita, relief is just a plop, plop or fizz away. But is this how we really want to go through life, with synthetic man made chemicals to correct for life’s twists and turns. Our bodies become a vast wasteland when we think of how old we will live in relation to how many grams of chemicals we toss into our bodies and that excludes all the chemicals we ingest from food processing and other means of pollution on a daily basis. It is very rare that any of us in this polluted and fast paced hectic world today does not suffer from some sort of “aliment” be it high blood pressure or headaches. The list is just too long to even think of. And even if we don’t suffer from any particular symptom, we  take something to prevent getting the symptom in the first place such as pills to boost our immune system.

Would it not be better if we could allow our minds to help in controlling our bodies?  Would it not be better to allow our minds to heal our bodies naturally? This can be done through hypnosis. Through the art of hypnosis one can stop smoking, learn to relax enough that they no longer need a pill to wind down, or help get them to a better state of mind to have more energy without having to take that stimulant, to be able to focus more or eat less. Whatever the desired result, hypnosis can assist your mind in allowing your body to do what you want and desire for it to do naturally.
The Physicians Desk Reference is a huge book, and it contains hundreds of pills, drugs and medicines all designed to make our lives better. I question the fact that these drugs always improve our health. In many cases, they are needed.  In many cases maybe they do improve our health. In all too many cases, not only are they not needed, but there is an alternative that is not as easily reached for in our society because it is not as advertised or drummed into our minds as much or as easily as reaching for that pill.

Hypnosis is thought of as an alternative medicine. Alternative medicines are not always thought of as our first line of defense when we have a health issue. You will not find hypnosis in CVS, Walgreens or Rite Aid. We tend to automatically reach for the easy and quick fix, that pill. Wouldn’t it be better to get rid of the underlying cause of the symptom be it a simple headache to insomnia. If these symptoms and ailments are chronic and bothersome on a regular basis, and if you have just had enough of treating the symptom and want to treat the cause to prevent the symptom, perhaps hypnosis is a possible alternative to simply popping that pill.

Hypnosis can help you conquer just about anything that you might want to take a pill for, and there are no side effects. Taking one pill for one symptom sometimes causes another separate symptom for which you take another pill. With hypnosis, there are no side effects, and you will deal with the issue at hand not creating any others in the process. You will overcome what it is that ails you from sexual compulsiveness to drug addiction to insomnia without creating any other issues in the process. Taking too many aspirins can cause an ulcer. Isn’t it better to deal with the headache, before you get that ulcer? Isn’t it better to allow our bodies own natural chemicals to do the healing? Our bodies have the natural ability to produce the chemicals we need to live the comfortable lives we want, we just have to know how to access them, not to be found in a bottle or in CVS, Walgreens or Rite Aid.

Note: Hypnosis for medical issues is to be used in conjunction with your medical professional. Referrals from medical professionals are required under the law of most the states in the United States and many other countries for your own safety.

Article written by Donna N.

One would think that telling someone that you care would be as natural as eating and sleeping. In all too many cases this is not the way it is. It wasn’t until I read an article written by Victoria Rosner for the New York Times titled “Shall I let My son See His Dying Dad?” that this hit home for me.

When I read the article on my computer it had reminded me of a situation that occurred in my own life.The article was about a 2 year old boy who never knew his father. His father had walked away from his mother when she was pregnant with him. He just could not deal with the responsibility of having a family, it didn’t mean he didn’t care, or did it? How was this two year old to know?

When the father of the 2 year old found out he had months to live, he decided then he wanted to know his son, and for his son to have the chance to know him. The father sent a letter asking the mother permission to contact the boy. The mother to her credit allowed the father to have contact with the boy, despite all the advice of “friends” telling her things that although may have been true on some level such as “He left you and he doesn’t deserve to see his son”, she instead forgave whatever she had to allowing her son to know his father. (See January 2010 newsletter on Forgiveness.) Being allowed to see his father enables him to have a lasting sense of security with the knowledge that his father cared about him.

The article I read was originally titled “Shall I forgive Him one Last time?” and I find it rather interesting that it took having a date of dying for this father to realize that he wanted and needed to have the relationship with his son. It seems for when we know that we may not have that chance, we are more apt to act, rather than take one another for granted. Perhaps it would be better for everyone if we could just take the time now to show we care.

I realized that if my father had told me occasionally that he loved me, that he cared about me, that he was thinking of me even though he did not live with my mother and me, it would have made all the difference in my world. A simple call letting me know he cared about me would have been enough. Had my father occasionally sent a card or called on a birthday, had taken a few moments of time to show he cared, it would perhaps be a lot easier for me to believe him today, 50 years later when he says “I love you“. Left unspoken only my father knew in his heart that he cared. He never conveyed it to me or anyone else for that matter. Because it was left to the imagination, it became skewed and distorted over time.

To know that this man cares about his boy regardless of whether he could support him, or be a father to him for whatever reason, is probably the most important memory he will have of his father when he thinks of him 50 years from now or maybe even tomorrow. To just know that he was loved and cared for in his father’s heart means more than all the money, fancy houses and toys that could be bought. To just be told this and have it occasionally reinforced can mean everything to a person. Sometimes it can be even more important than having a parent there 24/7. Is it that hard to send a card, or to pick up a phone?

Too often we go about our daily lives assuming people know how we feel. It seems like they should just know, but do they? Why is it so hard to tell someone you care? Probably because it is easier to assume they just know. People need to be told they are cared about and appreciated.

In an article by Rick Nauert, PhD, titled “Emotional Wealth Trumps Financial Wealth” August 10, 2009, a study was done “…what we’ve found is that while money may be able to make people live more comfortable lives, it won’t necessarily contribute to life’s pleasant moments that come from engaging with people and activities rather than from material goods and luxuries.”

I know another person who has all the money in the world however is very alone and miserable. She was born into money and has never had to work a day in her life. She has no real reason or passion in her life, no reason to face the day. She constantly tries to buy love and companionship with her money. She has no sense of self love or worth and no purpose to her life. Even though she has all the money in the world what she is unable to buy is someone to tell her she is loved or cared for. She is unable to buy someone to tell her she matters in this world. It is a proven fact that money cannot buy happiness proven by all the countless lottery winners who end up broke and miserable. Money can never buy the love or care of another human being.

The simple act of telling someone you love or care about them can really turn a life around and make a huge difference in someone’s life, or even save a life. Hallmark Greeting Cards makes millions off this fact, and there are a million songs written as well on this fact. Stevie Wonder’s “I just called to say I loved you” comes to mind, amongst many others.

Had the people that showed they cared in my life not have shown it when they did, I may have felt isolated and alone as my cousin did and hanged myself. The fact that a few people really showed they cared about me made a huge difference in my world. There are billions of people in the world, no one should ever feel that alone.

Take Simon and Garfunkel’s “The Sounds Of Silence” “…a rock feels no pain and an island never cries.” When a person feels alone and as if no one cares they begin to feel void of their emotions to the point of becoming dead inside like a rock. They become increasingly more isolated and depressed, unable to live life. They become like a rock on an island.

In another study reported in the Scientific American, June of 2008, researcher Steven Cole of the University of California L.A. reported that people that suffer from chronic loneliness show a change in their gene activity which could predispose them to all sorts of illness from a simple cold to deadly cancer.

Too often people assume the other person knows how they feel.People need to feel other people care and they need to care about other people as well. It gives people a reason to live knowing they are cared about and have others to care for. Too often it is taken for granted. Too often it is left unsaid. Too often it is said too late.

Tell someone you love and care about them today. If you find it difficult to get in touch with your emotions for one reason or another, hypnosis can help you get unstuck, so you can once again feel the emotions that are so vital to one’s life. For it is when we can feel our emotions that we can feel empathy for another which is the basis for all fulfilling relationships.

Article written by Donna N.

If you are like me you have the tendency to avoid change like the plague. You wonder how the people that thrive on change do it, for some people do love changes in their lives.
Whether you love it or hate it, fact of the matter is change is a good thing to have occur in our lives.

From my experience fighting the inevitable changes that life has to offer you is a waste of time and energy. By learning to flow with these changes I have been able to create some opportunities which I wouldn’t have otherwise.

In the recent past I found my self in an unbearable living situation. I was not happy there for many different reasons, though comfortable in the routine that I had been living for the past 14 years. It was so hard for me to leave the comfort of that routine, that I made up all sorts of excuses as to why I should not make the move. The longer I resisted the change the more reasons I made up to not make the move putting things way out of proportion. Eventually I came to realize that I could not continue as things were After the move I realized that the negativity that surrounded me in the old place created the fear in me that I would not be able to afford my own place. That the people I was living with wouldn’t be able to make it without me and a lot of other excuses to keep me in that negative environment that was oh so comfortable for the misery that it brought to me.

Now that I am in my new place I have found a sense of empowerment that I never thought I could realize, the most important of these being that I can overcome my fears and found strength that I never knew that I had, along with an inner calm. I know that if I didn’t make that change things would have continued to destroy me. As a result of the move all sorts of wonderful new opportunities have come my way that I never could have realized had I stayed “stuck” in the resistance to that change.

As we go through life, change is going to come up whether or not we want to deal with it. If we continue to ignore these changes long enough they can create enough stress to ultimately kill. Changes that come up that may seem negative to us, can if we look at them from a different perspective become that which frees us, from what is creating the habits and behaviors that are actually harming us.

It is when we ignore our bodies call for action that all sorts of health issues arise. Some people choose to smoke to release their stress, some people over eat while others will drink, drug or gamble while still others have depressive thoughts or issues relating to anger. It doesn’t really matter how the destructive nature displays itself. What matters is that you listen to what your body and mind are telling you to address and then to address it.

To grow we must embrace changes in our lives. If the change we pursue starts out positive and turns out to be negative, we need to turn that negative into a positive, learn from it and then release it. (see the “Forgiveness” December 2009 newsletter).

I believe that all negative changes can be turned into positive changes with the right frame of mind. Getting to that frame of mind isn’t always easy, especially if one is in the midst of a negativity.

Hypnosis can help you transition through life’s difficult changes by dispelling the overwhelming feelings that created the resistance. It teaches you how to deal with these situations in the future allowing for a much better quality of life.

“For most of us, health will not depend on who we are, but on how we live. The body you have at 20 depends on your genes, but the body you have at 40, 60 or 80 is the body you deserve; that reflects your behavior.” (Readers Digest 1996)

Fact is even though our body is constantly evolving our body’s cells remember everything. Any illness we get unless we are born with it, is a result of our feelings. Louise L Hay, Catherine Ponder and Caroline Myss amongst others have written books on this.

Deepak Chopra tells us that there is a hidden intelligence that is at work in our bodies that scientists have not been able to tap into yet, but they are finding more and more proof this is true. He states that if that intelligence can cause our bodies to become diseased, then that intelligence can also reverse that.

Our emotions and they way we deal with situations in our lives have a direct consequence on our bodies. I have experienced this myself over and over again. Perhaps you yourself are able to see some situation where you can relate the negative (or positive) way you were feeling with an ache or pain (or feeling of elation). Have you ever been so angry you have given yourself a headache? You get so worked up that you can actually feel your blood pressure rising. Have you ever been so happy that you/your body felt like it was on cloud nine?

There is a direct connection between how the body feels and your mind. Your brain communicates with your immune system constantly.

Paul Ekman, Professor Emeritus at the University of California at San Francisco did research on the bodies immune system and the effect one has on it by either smiling or frowning. He found that when a person smiles, you alter your blood chemistry and actually produce chemicals that are natural opiates not only in your brain, but in the cells in your stomach and intestines. Ever know someone who is always smiling, and you wonder if they are just on drugs, for how can anyone be that happy all the time. Well the more they smile, the more “drugs” they are on really-natural drugs.

When we feel negative emotions about someone or something, we put our whole body at risk. When we hang on to negativity and are not able to forgive and move on, we are setting ourselves up for “problems”.

Bernie Seigel has actually proven that when a person forgives, an actual chemical change takes place in the body which in turn produces the correct anti-body to enable the healing to occur.

When you are able to forgive you are able to set yourself and your body free. Free from the negativity that causes illness, disease, aches and pains. When we feel negativity about someone or something we put not only our mind but our entire body at risk.

I have an 89 year old client that when she gets upset with her daughter, her body literally develops Parkinson-like tremors. Her hands shake so much you can visibly see it and her body is so shaky that she has a hard time just walking. When she is on good terms with her daughter she is literally a different being. She is very stable and has no visible tremors.

So I repeatedly ask her why she does this to herself, why does she let her daughter upset her to the point it affects her body the way it does. At age 89 she knows no other way to react she tells me. I try to tell her to think of it as her daughter doesn’t mean the things she says and she needs to realize this and just forgive her because it is her daughter’s way of dealing with her aging and ailing mother.

Sometimes it isn’t easy to forgive someone who has wronged you however I think you need to do this for yourself and not for the other person, and if you think of it that way it becomes easier.

Forgiveness is needed in our lives for us to be able to move forward. If we are unable to forgive we build up anger and resentments, and this in turns harms not only our emotional state of health, but our physical health as well. Sometimes we need to forgive even if we feel we did no wrong and that is the hardest I think. But until we do, we get stuck in a vortex that traps us and constantly eats away literally like a flesh eating virus at our minds and bodies until disease sets in.

To forgive someone for wronging us whatever the reason is the key to happiness with in ourselves. Sometimes I think if we swallow our pride and forgive, the other person will think twice and learn from the experience. Or maybe not, however just knowing we are freed from the situation because the act of forgiveness allows us to be released emotionally. By not forgiving, we are still hanging onto the person or situations and that causes us problems whether it be today, tomorrow or twenty years form now. It will come back in one way or another to harm us.

The most important person for us to forgive is ourselves for anything we may have done that makes us feel guilty. With that done, life can move on in a much more positive and productive manner.

Sometimes we don’t even realize we need to forgive someone in our lives. That is where NLP and time line therapy can help. There may be things, times or people that have wronged us in the past that we are unaware of on a conscious level that we feel anger towards, and we don’t even realize it. We just go through our lives and feel angry and don’t even realize why.

If you feel angry, or hateful or just unhappy in your life, and you don’t know why or where it is coming from on a conscious level, hypnosis can help you tap into your unconscious mind to figure out where those very harmful and potentially deadly feelings are coming from, and allow you to release them, forgive and move on with a contentment and happiness to enjoy your life as it was meant to be lived.

More than 8 million Americans seriously consider suicide each year according to a new government study and 32,000 actually are successful. 

What is worse is that this data was compiled by a new report by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration based on a survey of 46,190 people aged 18 and older.  In past years the survey had been given to people who reported major depression but as of 2008 it was added to all questionnaires. 
It was found that amongst people with a substance abuse disorder, 11% had considered suicide, compared to 3% for people without such disorders.

If you are unlucky enough to suffer from either depression or substance abuse you know what it is like to have those thoughts of not wanting to live, not wanting to go through it another day.  Wanting to stop the cycle of depression, drug abuse and or alcohol abuse.  Maybe that is why you use to begin with, to stop the pain of depression.  Or maybe that is why you are depressed, from all the drugs or alcohol you are ingesting. 

Seems like it is just one big circle.  Maybe that is why the statistics are so staggeringly high.  At times it all seems just endless and hopeless.  Similar to a hamster on his wheel going around and around forever. Whatever the case may be you may have tried countless therapies to stop the cycle of depression.  You have probably tried numerous times to stop the using and abusing of drugs.

But, because you are depressed you turn to the drugs/alcohol for relief.   Because you turn to the alcohol/drugs for relief you remain depressed. Again, it just seems like it is one big circle and the only way off is suicide.

Maybe you’ve gone to 12-step meetings only to find you need to go constantly to stay clean and sober. You must go to meetings for the rest of your life to remain clean and sober one day at a time. Seems as soon as you stop going, you relapse.  And when you relapse it seems it is even harder to get clean and sober again, if you are lucky enough to do so. 

Perhaps you’ve tried talk therapy, but you don’t know really what it is that bothers you. Why you are always feeling like life is a chore and you just have no energy.  Why nothing excites you or why you just don’t feel “happy” about life in general.  You don’t really talk about the cause or the root of the “issues” that are causing your pain because you may not even know what they.  So you go week after week to your therapist and you talk about current issues, perhaps some issues in your childhood at $100/hr or more.  You talk about anything and everything you can remember.  This takes months and even years to wade through all your life’s discomforts and then it still doesn’t seem to be enough to do the trick. And, now on top of everything else you have a huge bill.  It still doesn’t seem to be enough to make you feel better for good. Perhaps you feel better for a while, but then when you end the therapy eventually you start to feel depressed again. It is a painfully slow process and all you want is to feel better now.  Perhaps the therapist prescribes a medication or refers you to a doctor that can.  If you are lucky the medication works for a while but then it seems that it stops working, or doesn’t work as well as it did before.  You just have no energy, no desire to live your life anymore, and so they prescribe something else.  And that medication doesn’t help so they try another, and another and then they find another one that finally works.  After a year, maybe sooner or maybe later that medication also stops working, so they increase it, or they add another.  It just seems like an endless cycle.  An infinite number of therapy sessions and countless prescriptions.  A revolving door to the therapist’s and doctor’s offices. 

Is this what you really want?  Would it not be better if there were a more permanent and lasting method to rid yourself of these unwanted behaviors and unwanted feelings?  Would it not be better to go to a finite number of sessions and rid yourself once and for all of these problems that cause you to not enjoy or even want to live your life.  To know that once you end your sessions that your problems/issues for the most part will be over and you can get on with your life and concentrate on the life that you were meant to live.  That you won’t have to attend meetings or go to therapy for the rest of your life. To know that the insidious label of depression or substance abuser will not find its’ way back into your life. 

All the above mentioned conventional therapies may or may not have worked for you. Perhaps they may have worked for a while and then your problems re-surfaced and came back, maybe even stronger than before.  So you find yourself back in your therapist’s office.  Does it seem like it is a revolving door, like there is no end to the situation you find yourself in. 

With hypnosis, NLP and Time Line Therapy (R) you can be rid of your problems and issues once and for all. That is because these hypnotic processes allow you to access your unconscious mind which created these destructive strategies to protect you from information that your conscious mind could not handle. Because this material is unconscious you may not realize that it is even there causing you the discomfort. By going into the unconscious mind you can get to the root of the problem letting go of these destructive strategies while creating new productive strategies.


When you get rid of weeds in your garden, unless you kill that weed at the root-it will grow back.  It is the same with anything be it depression or drug and or alcohol abuse. Unless you get rid of the infection totally it will almost certainly come back, sometimes stronger than before.  Unless you get rid of the germs totally it will indeed come back and cause another illness.   Unless you solve the issue that is causing the problem/s it will almost always grow back, sometimes even stronger than before. 
You can take medication or methadone or whatever, but do you really just want to cover it up, plant some flowers around that weed?  You constantly take the chance that that weed will kill the flowers eventually. 

Wouldn’t it be great if you could just rid yourself once and for all of those weeds and get on with your life? 

Through hypnosis, I have had clients (such as Donna N. or Caroline S.) actually change their brain chemistry.  Refer to the testimonials pages.  Donna N. had had depression for over 30 years, pretty much all of her life.  She was told she did indeed have a “biochemical imbalance” in her brain. A CAT scan confirmed this at a major and prominent hospital.  She tried all of the above conventional therapies, some of which did work for a while, only to have the problems re-surface again and again. Caroline S. had eating disorders for which she was also told she would have for the rest of her life.  After doing hypnosis, NLP, Time Line Therapy they were able to reframe their minds and actually alter the biochemistry of their brains.  And YES, THIS IS POSSIBLE.  They no longer have the problems they had and are free to really go on with their lives; because they no longer have fears those problems will re-surface.  They have once and for all gotten to the root of their issues and eradicated those weeds from their lives.  They no longer have to plant flowers around them by taking medication, go to therapy or attend meetings. And, when they do plant flowers, they know that they will thrive and not have to worry about them dying from being overcome by weeds.

There are more and more studies, articles and reports stating that hypnosis has the ability to alter one’s brain chemistry.  Stay tuned to upcoming newsletters where this will be addressed and articles will indeed be cited.  Hypnosis can truly change your life.

You have to truly want it and work for your desired results.  I assume if you have read this far, you do. 

So wouldn’t it be great to not have the depression, not have the substance abuse or any other problems you find yourself with.  To be able to plant some flowers and have them thrive without the fear of weeds killing them? 

I would suggest you find a hypnotist who knows how to do NLP and Time Line Therapy (R) with proven results to help you given the serious nature involved of these issues. To protect your health and well being most states mandate that your hypnotist has a referral from a licensed practitioner. This is a good idea because you do want to make sure that your treatment team are all working together for your well being. Remember that doctors have the ability to run test and scans making sure that physiologically all is working in your body the way it should. 
 
 
 

I don’t know if you ever looked at the people around you perhaps as you commuted to work in the morning. If you did you may have noticed the glum faces that surround you. Why are people in this situation? Because they unconsciously went ahead with what was expected of them by either their parents, their spouses or their society. In most Western societies the norm is to go to school, get a job, buy a home, have a family and deal with the expense of it all by working long hours maybe doing jobs that are unfulfilling yet maybe pay well. For some it takes two jobs for each earner leaving little time to nurture the children that they have and even less time to enjoy them selves. People are exhausted by working so hard, with little time to do activities that matter to them as they work to keep up with the lifestyle they are used to. There is a problem however for many with living in this manner. When a person is living in a way that does not fit their values unhappiness is what takes over which could lead to depression. The reason that this has happened is because no thought was given to how to live a life that is worth while. So unconscious are the majority of people that all they do is live every day as the one before. This is no way to live.

What do you need to do in order to break out of an unfulfilling and stress filled life? First, you need to be in touch with what really matters to you. Do you actually care about what other people think you ought to be doing with your life, or are you a person who can decide to follow your own dreams? Are you a person who feels that you must play martyr to someone else’s needs, or are you a person who is capable of being authentic to what matters to you? I am not saying that you are to give up your responsibilities, rather that you need to think about what it is that you need to do to be a productive person doing the things that matter to you. In that way you will be happier in your life attracting positive happy people to you.

If you are a person who is unconsciously following the pack, and do not feel that you can do other wise, yet you are unhappy, unfulfilled or in ill health I suggest you call a hypnotist to help you to understand why it is that you feel unworthy of living a life that is worth living. Many times lack of self-esteem for what ever reason will keep people stuck in lives that just do not work so well for them.

When one is able to understand what created the lack of self-esteem, it is much easier to understand what your values are, many of which are unconscious, meaning there not conscious to your mind, you can live in alignment with what truly matters to you. This will allow you to live a much better life on all levels.

I have had many clients who felt they were “dead” inside because they were doing what was expected of them instead of doing what made them feel good inside. In many cases the client was taking care of children and parents, or married to a person that they did not love any more and yet felt they needed to stay in that marriage for the children’s sake.

While in the hypnotic state you create options for yourself that you could never achieve without going into your unconscious mind to get the answers to your issues. In many cases it is a simple process. In other cases so much damage was done that a more intensive approach needs to take place for the healing to occur. In any case, you do have the solutions to your issues in your own unconscious mind. Once they are made conscious you can go ahead and free yourself from living unconsciously, living consciously instead.

I had a client who contacted me very upset because she had been free of abusing alcohol for fifteen years, and yet because of her housemates picking it up, she found her self once again, using it to rid her self of unpleasant thoughts. She was under the care of a psychiatric nurse at the time, who was told of her thoughts of not wanting to be alive. In my client’s mind that was not unusual for she had those thoughts every day from the time she was very young however, she wasn’t going to act on them, they were just present. She would have shared that piece of information had the nurse allowed her to, but no, instead the cops were called forcing her to go for a psychological evaluation. Because she had no plan and no desire to commit suicide, eight hours after the event began, she was released to go home – around midnight when she had to be up for work by 4:30 AM to begin her shift at 6 AM. It was with this in mind that she was searching on the internet for some other form of care to help her to deal with the alcohol abuse for she felt totally disrespected for the way she was treated by this psych nurse who never even allowed her the chance to tell her the whole story.

On the internet my client googled “help for alcohol” and Dawning Visions Hypnosis came up, never thinking that hypnosis would be an avenue to help her with this particular problem.

When I first spoke to this client on the phone I had to know that she was really interested in beating the problem for alcohol abuse can be one of the more difficult issues to be worked with. She was very clear that she wanted it out of her life because she could feel herself being pulled to abusing opiates as she had done in the past if it was not under control. One behavior would in her case lead to the next. She didn’t want to lose her job that she loved and had held onto for the past 34 years and so she was motivated to do whatever it would take to rid herself of her problem.

If my client was not clear that there were a variety of ways to treat addictions she does so now. She realized through our work together that the treatments that she knew of through AA and therapy really didn’t get to the root of the problem. In fact in Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous it is taught that once you are an addict you are always an addict. What this presupposes is that you will always be ill, never allowed to be anything other than that label, which she found depressing and unhelpful. Not only that but by not going to the “cause” of the problem there is a potential for the relapse and/ or death from overdose. Therefore using these treatments it is reasonable to say one is never rid of their addiction even when clean, it is always lurking inside waiting to bust out in her opinion.

Narcotics Anonymous and Alcohol Anonymous teach that all addicts are powerless over their addiction which my client takes exception to. She says that it may feel as if the addict is not able to control their behavior, however it is a conscious decision to take that drug or drink that alcohol even if is seems like you are in a fog and uncontrollable.
To be rid of these demons the work has to be done on a much deeper level. to discover what makes a person want to alter their feelings to the point of sometimes wanting to feel comatose and non-functional. NA and AA were not for my client personally, because she absolutely hated going to meetings listening to other people share about how miserable they were and all the problems they were having. To put up her hand to spill her guts and speak went against her private nature. Many addicts are sensitive and have a hard time expressing feelings much less coping with them.

When she came into to see me I gave her a different way to view her world. I suggested that if she didn’t want to abuse drugs or alcohol she would need to change the way she was currently thinking and living. At the time she was sharing a house with a couple she had met many years ago in NA, both were clean for 15 and 20 years respectively. However, what became evident a couple of years ago was that though they were not using, they still had the minds of addicts. They were manipulative and not very kind people even to those with whom they were friends. They did what they wanted and rarely, taking her needs or feelings into consideration though she was paying her share of the bills. She did a lot to help out around the house, and yet was treated disrespectfully and could never understand why.

Through our work together it became evident that she was confusing being “loved” and “cared” about with being used and abused, because these people did in fact tell her that they “loved’ her. Because of her back round she never felt loved or appreciated by her parents and so when this couple asked if she would be willing to purchase a house with them and to help them raise the child that was due, she jumped at the chance to be in a family that wanted her. The only problem was that it wasn’t about love, it was more about how much she would be willing to do to help the house run smoothly and care for their son.

She has through our work been able to understand that if one is loved, one feels good about the relationship, as she has developed with their son who is now a teen ager. She has always been there for him, to all his sporting events and doing those special things to let him know that he is a special person in her heart. He never used or abused her and appreciates all the things that she continues to do to make his life better so he doesn’t have to deal with what she did growing up. However, this too needed to be put into perspective because a teen is able to do things to take care of himself and will need to as he grows up.

She has finally moved into her own place, the household is going to have to run without her and she will finally be able to heal from the hurt and negativity that was making her feel so unwanted – though she has not needed to use in a very long time and is able to stay away from alcohol realizing that to be human feelings are necessary along with how to deal with them.

What my client learned was that if she changed her thoughts she could change the biochemistry of her mind and therefore was able to deal with her life without the need to self-medicate any longer. In fact she has gotten fairly good at finding other ways to cope when she is feeling down, yet she has also been able to let go of the life long depression that created the need to do the self-medication by realizing that if one thinks and acts as a non-depressive, depression is no longer a part of life.

I suggest that if you have issues of substance abuse you find a hypnotist who knows how to do neuro-linguistic programming with success in the field of addictions. Given the fact that substance abuse untreated can be devastating it is necessary to know that the person with whom you are dealing respects this fact and will work with you until the job is completed which really should be over the course of at least two years to be sure that the work done was successful. It is also useful to have your hypnotist work with a licensed practitioner to make sure that your treatment is being done in a manner to foster your health and well being.

Your mind is a powerful tool in creating health and the best thing that you can do is to learn how to use it to your advantage.

Have you ever had a situation where you were with another person and they said something that made you feel uncomfortable. It may have been a sarcastic comment that hurt you in some way, or a demeaning comment aimed in your direction, or maybe even a joke that you were the center of. Sometimes the situation becomes more severe through subtle incrementally increasing negativity aimed in your direction. If you are a person who spends time with another who makes you feel anything but good about yourself I will ask you to consider what it is about the interactions that are not working for you. Is it the fact that the other seems to have a negative view of who you are and what you believe in, making little comments about how you are wasting your time doing things that are not worthy of your time and energy in their opinion. Maybe the other person does not believe that you know what you are doing or can trust your self because you have had difficulties before.

Whatever the issue is between the two of you it is a matter of having your boundaries over ridden by another that creates this feeling of angst. It is important to understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that no one’s opinion is more important than another’s. I have found in many of my clients the relinquishment of their own beliefs because of being bullied in some fashion to go along with another who had a stronger personality created a lack of self-esteem. When this occurs I have found that my clients feel that they are no longer being listened to and start feeling lost, depressed and confused inside. They wonder what they did to create this situation because they really have no clue.

Usually what has happened is that the client has let another have their way because to fight them was too difficult. It took too much energy and in so doing they lost their own sense of what was important. It is always important to be able to speak your truth and for it to be honored by the person with whom you are interacting even if they disagree with your point of view. It is okay to agree to disagree.

There are many cases when my clients have spoken up for themselves for the first time in a long while when the other person involved was willing to hear what my client had to say and even welcomed the in put for they did not realize that they were doing anything wrong.

One of my clients has a friend who can be very over bearing at times. This creates a feeling of discomfort for my client who really likes this person, however is overwhelmed by the forceful personality of her friend. She spoke to her friend about this issue and the friend thanked her for the information for she had no idea in how she had come across and even asked her to tell her whenever that behavior was happening so she could address it.

I have another client who has a sister who is always complaining about her life, her over weight and how uncomfortable she is while also being condescending to my client. My client had a talk with her sister and told her to knock off the “victim” mentality and start to do something about those things that needed to be addressed. She also gave her sister some situations when she felt that her sister was talking down to her. The response she received was one of appreciation and respect for having the guts to speak her truth and to let her know when she acted in a way that was “victim” like or condescending so she could feel more empowered by taking control of her circumstances. This was an incredible learning for this client because she had spent her entire life just putting up with this behavior from her sister and decided it was time to take a different approach, after all they were both grown adults now responsible for their own lives.

There are those times though when even when you do your best to find a solution to the situation that there is nothing that can be done because the other person is unwilling to change. This happened to another of my clients.

I had a client whose parents thought it was okay to dictate to her when they would come to my client’s house to visit with their grandchildren. While there my client’s mother would make demeaning comments to one of the grand kids, age five, to not listen to his mother, her daughter. This was very uncomfortable for my client to say the least, especially with this behavior happening in her own home. Through our work together my client was able to tell her mother that she did not have the right to tell her when she was coming to visit nor to tell her children that they need not listen to her, their mother. The end result of this was that the grandmother is no longer allowed to visit with the grand kids because the she was unable to be respectful to the feelings of their own daughter, the mother of the children.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are feeling uncomfortable with how a person is speaking to you, it is up to you to tell the other how you are feeling around them. It is important because many times people are unconscious of how their attitude and behavior affects another. Without that knowledge there is no way for them to improve. And, aso even if it is the most difficult thing that you can think of to do, you must take the time to sincerely tell the offending person how their interactions with you are not working for you. They may get irritated with you and blame you for their behavior and you will need to take a stand for yourself in letting them know that you are sharing this information because you care about them and your relationship with them. At that point it is up to them to either do something about it or find that you are spending less and less time with them. Because honestly, it is up to you with whom you spend your limited time isn’t it? So, it is up to you to make sure that your relationships are working for you. If they are not, and you are unable to speak up for yourself, I suggest you hire a hypnotist to assist you in finding out why it is that it is so difficult for you to stand up for yourself. No one is able to over run your boundaries unless you allow it. If this is an issue for you please do get some help so you can be more effective in your life, feeling empowered.

When I was a teenager I worked in my father’s dental office While he was finishing up his paper work I would ask him a lot of questions about how he made the decisions that he did. He answered them quite honestly and for that I will always be grateful, for he left me with so much wisdom after such a relatively short period of time to get to know him as an adult. He passed away at the age 61 when I was 23 years old, 24 years ago now. The great thing though is that the man and his wisdom is continuing to come through to me in ways I could never have imagined all those years ago.

My father was a self made man. Born of a poor family, his father passing away when he was 12, he found himself the youngest in the family with two older sisters, he being the only man in the house.

One of the important ideas that he shared with me was that we can either control or own lives or have it be controlled by someone else. He owned his own practice and worked very hard to build it to the point that it was always busy with many long time patients, patients that were endeared to him for all the humor, and conservative methods he used to get the job done. Very simply he never believed that he had to over sell or over price any of his services, living a good life while being fair to his patients.

He realized that if you were to have a life that was worth living that you had to have authority over your life, and the only way to lose that was to allow others to take your authority away. When he was in dental school his advisor told him that he had to take Spanish to which he retorted that he wasn’t wasting his limited resources to take a class that had nothing to do with the population or the work that he was to be doing and never did take Spanish. With that story it is understood that if one can demonstrate a reasonable explanation to the powers that be one need not be forced to do as others.

In my work with so many of the clients who have come through my practice it was evident that the authority they once had is no longer theirs. They allow their spouses, kids, parents, employers and co-workers and even friends to dictate who they are, what they are to do and the feelings they are to have. Resentment is built up in this way and they have no idea why. The end result being depressed or angry because they no longer feel that they have a place in their own life. Why? Because they have allowed others to tell them how to behave instead taking the authority in their own lives to do as they feel is right for them. In many cases fear of hurting or angering someone is in the main concern. What ends up happening though is that the client has gotten hurt to the point where life isn’t worth the effort. It is difficult to feel that you have any say in how you live while doing as others expect, instead of being very clear about what it is that you expect from others. This isn’t rude, it is necessary so that true relationships can be built based on a mutual respect for one another.

I have always wondered why it is that people are so worried about what others will think of them? This concept never made any sense to me. My feeling is that one can not be friendly with everyone you meet because that would take too much time anyway. It is normal to have some people find you to be super special and others to not understand or care about you. In the end the only thing that truly matters is that who ever it is that you decide to be friendly with likes you for who you are, not some fake rendition of what you think they may like. Remember there is only one you and you are meant to be the person that you are just as your friends are meant to be the people that they are who you enjoy and respect for who they are, not what you want them to be.

If you are a person who is overly concerned with how others view you, or are always going out of your way to please others understand that there are reasons for this behavior, usually doing with lack of self respect. This is occurs when you are growing up and do not feel loved or appreciated by those who brought you into the world. One of the important ideas of neuro-linguistic programming is the concept that people are doing the best with what they have. This means that even if our parents were not able to give us the love and attention that we required there are reasons for their not being able to do so having to do with they way they were raised. We need to understand that no one is perfect including ourselves and to allow for this. However, if you feel that you are in a place in life where you do not matter in your own life I would suggest you find a hypnotist in your area who can help you to build up your self respect and love for your self so that you can create friendships based on being accepted for who you are because life is much fuller when this happens.

There are many people who have difficulty expressing their emotions because they have a hard time identifying them creating the cause for what is commonly known as panic attacks. Many times when the first panic attack is experienced, it is mistakenly thought to be a heart attack. This is because the symptoms of a panic attack: chest pain, a rapid heartbeat, difficulty breathing, dizziness, faintness, weakness and sweating starting with a feeling of terror are very similar to what a person having a heart attack would experience. Sometimes the individual who is having panic attacks stop doing their normal activities with a small percentage becoming agoraphobic, never leaving their homes.

Silvana Galderisi, MD, PhD, and her colleagues at the University of Naples in Italy studied the phenomena known as alexithymia – the inability to identify, understand and express emotions and its influence on the creation of panic disorders. Dr. Galderisi found that those who had panic disorder did have alexithymia along with a greater difficulty tuning out distracting stimuli. She theorizes that these difficulties may reflect a dysfunction in the fronto-temporo-limbic circuits, the part of the brain that modulates emotional experience, which may lead to panic attacks.

Another specialist, Dr.Mona Schultz, MD, PhD medical intuitive, neuropsychiatrist and author of “The New Feminine Brain”, agreed with the premise of the research. To her mind, if a person has a backlog of emotions that hasn’t been expressed it will be stuck in the body and erupt in the form of a panic attack. She believes it may be a problem in the interaction between the right brain, where emotions are experienced and the left brain where the skills involved in expressing them would be. Whatever the truth is there is apparently a connection between the inability to emote appropriately and the incidence of panic attacks.

When I deliver any sort of presentation on hypnosis I always end with the comment “If you look around the room you will see many people smiling, though some of them are “dying inside”. If you are a person who is experiencing problems and you continue to ignore them one of three things will happen: you will either get mentally ill, physically ill or both. If you fit this description please come and talk with me to see what can be done to deal with your personal issue.”

It is very sad that in our society people feel the need to pretend to be “okay” when in fact their lives are not going well. It is all part of the game that is played in order to function in the business world for to be “human” in many companies is not allowed. I am here to tell you that human beings have emotions for a reason. Those emotions are there to tell us if we are doing alright or if something is out of balance and needs to be attended to in order to stay healthy. When we ignore those emotions, stuffing them down inside they will come out in a manner that is much more damaging than if they were handled in a constructive manner when they first appeared

I would like you to think about whether or not you are stuffing your emotions because it seems easier to do that than to deal with whatever may be needed to be “handled”. I would also like you to think about the long term ramifications on your health by continuing to stuff those emotions. I can tell you that if you stuff them long enough and hard enough you may even be in a place where you are unable to “feel” those emotions any longer, making it much harder for you to relate to others. This is because you are unable to understand what it is that they are feeling. This defense mechanism protects you by not allowing you to get close to others, and being hurt anymore, yet by staying emotionally distant, you are unable to really “connect” with anyone outside yourself creating a feeling of being all alone. The feeling of “being alone” is what creates many mental health, and even physical health issues to arise.

It is helpful to understand that many traumas are formed in a “gestalt” meaning that one event happened and then many others of similar nature occurred later, creating the string of panic attacks (in this instance) to manifest. With the techniques that practitioners of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) possess it is very easy to let go of these trauma’s including that which created the very first panic attack, so they no longer control you. I have used these techniques on a regular basis to assist my clients and even have had it done for me to relieve me of some of the problematic issues of my life. It works so quickly, without medications being required that it is difficult to fathom, and yet, it does indeed work and work well.

If you fit into any of these categories I firmly suggest you hire a hypnotist who deals with emotional issues to assist you in letting go of the negative emotions that you are now “stuffing” to the point where other medical conditions may be limiting your happiness and productivity. I would suggest you locate a hypnotist who has a fairly good knowledge of neuro-linguistic programming as well as Time Line Therapy ™ because these two types of hypnosis will take less time to work in healing you. Time Line Therapy ™ was created by Tad James to quickly and effectively allow clients to get positive learnings from their negative emotions and limited beliefs with the most efficacy of any treatment I have had the opportunity to learn.

There is this idea in the medical world that patients need to be labeled in order to be helped. What happens when a person is given a label? Generally speaking that person learns to believe that they have whatever that disorder or disease is labeled which in turn gives them a very good reason to not have to be responsible for them selves. They are the victim. You see, they are ill and that means that they can’t help doing or thinking the things they do. It is just the way it is. This is especially true for individuals who are given a mental health diagnosis or two or three or more. Being here in America, more often than not a medication or two will be prescribed in order to take care of the problem which keeps the pharmaceutical companies happy as well as those who are doing the prescribing since the patient then will need to see them on a regular basis. Of course there are some cases where a prescription is the wise choice where perhaps someone is suicidal, psychotic or is incapacitated in some fashion. However there are many fewer patients who fit these categories than all of the people who are now taking prescriptions because of their labels. For any of you who have been given one of these labels I am sure you were told that you would always be this way. You just needed to learn how to live with it. My next question would be: Where is the hope of ever being rid of the label in that case? You are lead to believe that you will always be SICK.

I work with all sorts of people who have been given all sorts of labels. In some cases the labels given would lead the allopathic world to believe that these people could never be a non-(put the label here). The interesting thing is that people create different thoughts and behaviors to deal with any limiting beliefs, negative emotions and losses. However in the majority of cases the person who has made the decision to shed the label is able to create healthier ways of being in the world and in so doing no longer fits the label given. In fact what I have found from my work is that if people are given the chance to be accepted for who they are and have the opportunity to shed the label by doing and thinking in a manner that would no longer support the label, amazingly enough they are healed and able to move on in their lives in a much more productive manner. What really needs to be done in most cases is to find out the cause for the destructive thought or behavior, clear it out, grieve any losses, do the forgiveness work necessary, while learning to set healthier boundaries in relationship to others. Guess what? All of a sudden the label is no longer pertinent in the majority of cases.

I had a client a few years ago who was anorexic. She had been in and out of special programs for her disorder and though she was no longer so thin she could have died, she was still acting out quite a few food rituals and allowing herself to be used and abused by the people who were close to her. She came to me because she wanted to be done with the anorexic food rituals.

The first thing that I told her was to think about the possibility of becoming a “non-anorexic” explaining that the way one accomplishes that is by doing the behaviors and having the thoughts of a “non-anorexic”. Her big brown eyes grew wide as she explained to me that all she was ever told was that she would forever have this eating disorder. I let her know that so far as I was concerned there was no one who was a God or Goddess who could tell her what she was able to achieve for herself and that she needed to think differently. It was at that moment that she learned that she had a choice. That choice was to either keep the label or let go of that label. Her choice was to let it be in the past where it belonged. As a result of our work together she was able to trace back to the very first time she felt forced to eat food she didn’t want when she was all of two years old. It was really at that moment that she decided that she could tell her parents how angry she was with them through controlling the food that would go into her body. The anorexia actually began to manifest when her mother had the client diet with her from the age of 11. By the age of 12 to 13 it had gotten out of hand and by the time she was 19 she looked in the mirror and saw her 95 pound skeleton upon her 5’ 9” frame and knew that if she continued she would die. It was at that point that she knew she needed to eat even if every time she did so it made her feel sick, though she really didn’t know why at the time. In fact she never felt good eating. By the time she came to see me she was 23 years old, and had enough of the whole deal. She was done having the anger toward her mother. She also was able to see that she was allowing her boyfriend to take advantage of her financially when in fact his parents were taking care of all his expenses as she was paying all her own bills which needed to be stopped. Most of she needed to learn how to love herself once again. Because the truth of the matter is that the reason that people create all sorts of problems in their lives is because they have come to the conclusion that they are not lovable or worthy.

What we in the hypnotic world understand is that the mind is the controller of the body and that includes neuro-transmitters. If you are unhappy or stressed the balance is gone. It is by doing the deep work of clearing out all the garbage that gets in the way that one can change the way the neuro=transmitters operate and with that many of the psychological problems that were there are no longer invading the person’s life – they are reborn into a happier healthier person – without the need for any label, and certainly without the need for medication. The client who I have written about wrote a very long and detailed testimonial telling her story in her own words on this website which you can find under: Carolyn S. New Haven.

It is a fact of life today that people are feeling over whelmed by all the pressures they feel as the cost of everything is going up, up, up and the income they receive in real dollars is going down, down, down. With the increase in the cost of goods due to the devaluation of the dollar in the world markets everything from the cost of fuel for operating vehicles to the cost of anything that is transported from elsewhere, the squeeze is being felt more tightly.

When we feel squeezed by the influences from out side our selves we can become very upset and frustrated. These negative emotions can start to permeate every area of our life, for it all seems to be such a struggle. It can affect our physical and emotional health which can lead to problems in our work environment as well as in our personal relationships out side of work.

The question that I have for you is: What are you going to do to counter these negative influences? What are you willing to do in order to get back on track and most importantly to keep your health, for without your health life is quite a challenge?

I would like you to think about the ways the outside world influences your inside world, mainly the way you think. It is a fact of life that most people are going through life unconsciously. They go to work because that is what they feel they have to do to have a roof over their head and food on the table, whether or not they get any fulfillment from the work that they do, or are positively impacted by those with whom they spend the greater portion of their working hours. Then they go home to deal with the demands of a family and/or friends and leave what ever time is left to escape from the lonely, unfulfilled life that they consider living. In some cases they self medicate with the use of alcohol or drugs, the endless chatter of the mindless TV or sensationalized so-called news or waste tons of time in front of the computer looking at websites that tantalize and some time leading to other destructive behaviors. I consider this a living death, for the soul is not nurtured and the concept of living “on purpose with passion” is totally vacant.

The question than becomes one of what needs to be done to turn the living dead into the life of passion, fulfillment, purpose and love of self and others? I have found in my practice that many times the cause of the vacant or depressed manner of living is due to negative emotions that were installed in childhood, generally from the age of two through eight. The reason for this is because when we are that young we are in what is known in psychological terms the “imprint stage”. This simply means that the person is “unconscious” allowing all the input that is given to be literally understood and stored in the unconscious mind. This is where a child will be able to either be happy and successful, if the messaging from the adults around him/her were based on unconditional love and the idea of being able to aspire to be anything that the child can dream up, or if they were given messages that they were never good enough, not what one parent or the other really wanted in that particular child that they brought into the world. Or perhaps the all too common reality of many more kids, no matter the wealth of the family, may have had parents that were not nurtured in a positive manner resulting in the inability to foster the healthy growth and emotional development for a happy contributing member of society as a product of their upbringing.

The way that one is most easily able to let go of the negative emotions of the unconscious mind is through working with a professional that is expert in handling the reframing of the unconscious mind, for it is in the unconscious mind that all these reprogramming needs to happen. The professionals who are the most expert in this regard would be the hypnotists and neuro-linguistic practitioners. These are the individuals that are trained in assisting you to let go of what is holding you back with your unconscious programming that is creating the strategies that are responsible for the thought and behaviors that are not working for you, in return for strategies that will empower you to create the life that you would live if given the opportunity by creating the strategies that will enable the changes required to get the results for a life that is well lived.

The most amazing part of this is that hypnotism is a most natural manner in which to accomplish your goal since every one is in and out of it all day long. They just have no idea of what it actually means to be in a hypnotic state. All it hypnosis is, is a relaxed state of being, in fact the same state you are in every time you are doing some activity where you are “in the zone” or in a meditative state, or a day dreaming state. The hypnotist utilizes that state to break through the “concrete faculty of your conscious mind to work in the unconscious part of your mind, where the change work occurs. It is the quickest manner in which to do the work, because you are working in the part of the mind that needs to be reprogrammed using the natural way the unconscious works, which is with images. Even better is the fact that when you are in the hypnotic state you are disassociated from your emotional feelings which allows you to more easily clear the issue at hand and get you on track really easily and more quickly than almost any other method that there is out there.

I would suggest that you go to the various hypnosis associations to find a qualified hypnotist to work with. You want some body that has experience in dealing with the sort of issues you are looking to resolve since there are so many specializations out there. I would suggest that you interview a few of them and find out what they charge and how they work. If they are charging very little compared to the others in your area, it may be advisable to move onto some one who is more sure of the work that they are able to do. As in anything, one usually receives the value for which they invest. I would also find out how much training they have had. If they have a website find out if they have a CV – listing of all the trainings that they have done and notice at what level they are practicing. The levels are commonly as follows: Certified Hypnotist and Practitioner of NLP Practitioner, next is Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of NLP, then comes Certified Instructor or Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP and then comes Master Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP (the designation given to those who train the trainers). The National Guild of Hypnotists gives an exam where they certify people as Board Certified in Hypnosis only. If the person that you are going to work with has this designation you can be assured that they have more than a basic knowledge of the subject area. However, I do not hold that certification because I have not deemed it necessary to do so given that I have done my trainings out side of the NGH where I believe I have received a superior education to that which the NGH is currently offering due to their strong bias for hypnosis while leaving doing little in the area of NLP in my humble opinion. They also do next to nothing in the area of working in the super conscious mind which is a whole different level on which to do this work.

Once you have an idea of the criteria that you would like for the professional education for the provider you choose to work with you will need to interview the hypnotist to notice if this is a person with whom you would like to work. Find out if their philosophy matches yours in the care that you are desiring to receive and then be sure that you like one another, that the two of you “click” for if there is no “rapport” there is going to be very little gain from the work that you do most especially with a hypnotist with whom you are allowing to work in your unconscious mind.

To start your search I would either Google “hypnotist” and the area in which you live and read their websites to learn about how they feel about their work and if their approach is something that would be amenable to you or Google “hypnosis associations” and call their number and get a referral directly from them. They all have list of their members along with the level of practice they are on and in many cases the specializations as well.

Good luck in your search, and congratulate your self on utilizing the power of your own mind to assist you in transforming your life using a modality that goes back to the ancient civilization when they recognized that the body, mind and spirit all work in collaboration and respect the fact as they work with the whole “you” to create the healing that you have requested based on your goals.

Awaken to Living with Hypnosis

Tools to Create Your Life

Vol. 73 May 2008

Thriving Under Pressure: How Your Emotions May Be Limiting You

It is a fact of life today that people are feeling over whelmed by all the pressures they feel as the cost of everything is going up, up, up and the income they receive in real dollars is going down, down, down. With the increase in the cost of goods due to the devaluation of the dollar in the world markets everything from the cost of fuel for operating vehicles to the cost of anything that is transported from elsewhere, the squeeze is being felt more tightly.

When we feel squeezed by the influences from out side our selves we can become very upset and frustrated. These negative emotions can start to permeate every area of our life, for it all seems to be such a struggle. It can affect our physical and emotional health which can lead to problems in our work environment as well as in our personal relationships out side of work.

The question that I have for you is: What are you going to do to counter these negative influences? What are you willing to do in order to get back on track and most importantly to keep your health, for without your health life is quite a challenge?

I would like you to think about the ways the outside world influences your inside world, mainly the way you think. It is a fact of life that most people are going through life unconsciously. They go to work because that is what they feel they have to do to have a roof over their head and food on the table, whether or not they get any fulfillment from the work that they do, or are positively impacted by those with whom they spend the greater portion of their working hours. Then they go home to deal with the demands of a family and/or friends and leave what ever time is left to escape from the lonely, unfulfilled life that they consider living. In some cases they self medicate with the use of alcohol or drugs, the endless chatter of the mindless TV or sensationalized so-called news or waste tons of time in front of the computer looking at websites that tantalize and some time leading to other destructive behaviors. I consider this a living death, for the soul is not nurtured and the concept of living “on purpose with passion” is totally vacant.

The question than becomes one of what needs to be done to turn the living dead into the life of passion, fulfillment, purpose and love of self and others? I have found in my practice that many times the cause of the vacant or depressed manner of living is due to negative emotions that were installed in childhood, generally from the age of two through eight. The reason for this is because when we are that young we are in what is known in psychological terms the “imprint stage”. This simply means that the person is “unconscious” allowing all the input that is given to be literally understood and stored in the unconscious mind. This is where a child will be able to either be happy and successful, if the messaging from the adults around him/her were based on unconditional love and the idea of being able to aspire to be anything that the child can dream up, or if they were given messages that they were never good enough, not what one parent or the other really wanted in that particular child that they brought into the world. Or perhaps the all too common reality of many more kids, no matter the wealth of the family, may have had parents that were not nurtured in a positive manner resulting in the inability to foster the healthy growth and emotional development for a happy contributing member of society as a product of their upbringing.

The way that one is most easily able to let go of the negative emotions of the unconscious mind is through working with a professional that is expert in handling the reframing of the unconscious mind, for it is in the unconscious mind that all these reprogramming needs to happen. The professionals who are the most expert in this regard would be the hypnotists and neuro-linguistic practitioners. These are the individuals that are trained in assisting you to let go of what is holding you back with your unconscious programming that is creating the strategies that are responsible for the thought and behaviors that are not working for you, in return for strategies that will empower you to create the life that you would live if given the opportunity by creating the strategies that will enable the changes required to get the results for a life that is well lived.

The most amazing part of this is that hypnotism is a most natural manner in which to accomplish your goal since every one is in and out of it all day long. They just have no idea of what it actually means to be in a hypnotic state. All it hypnosis is, is a relaxed state of being, in fact the same state you are in every time you are doing some activity where you are “in the zone” or in a meditative state, or a day dreaming state. The hypnotist utilizes that state to break through the “concrete faculty of your conscious mind to work in the unconscious part of your mind, where the change work occurs. It is the quickest manner in which to do the work, because you are working in the part of the mind that needs to be reprogrammed using the natural way the unconscious works, which is with images. Even better is the fact that when you are in the hypnotic state you are disassociated from your emotional feelings which allows you to more easily clear the issue at hand and get you on track really easily and more quickly than almost any other method that there is out there.

I would suggest that you go to the various hypnosis associations to find a qualified hypnotist to work with. You want some body that has experience in dealing with the sort of issues you are looking to resolve since there are so many specializations out there. I would suggest that you interview a few of them and find out what they charge and how they work. If they are charging very little compared to the others in your area, it may be advisable to move onto some one who is more sure of the work that they are able to do. As in anything, one usually receives the value for which they invest. I would also find out how much training they have had. If they have a website find out if they have a CV – listing of all the trainings that they have done and notice at what level they are practicing. The levels are commonly as follows: Certified Hypnotist and Practitioner of NLP Practitioner, next is Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of NLP, then comes Certified Instructor or Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP and then comes Master Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP (the designation given to those who train the trainers). The National Guild of Hypnotists gives an exam where they certify people as Board Certified in Hypnosis only. If the person that you are going to work with has this designation you can be assured that they have more than a basic knowledge of the subject area. However, I do not hold that certification because I have not deemed it necessary to do so given that I have done my trainings out side of the NGH where I believe I have received a superior education to that which the NGH is currently offering due to their strong bias for hypnosis while leaving doing little in the area of NLP in my humble opinion. They also do next to nothing in the area of working in the super conscious mind which is a whole different level on which to do this work.

Once you have an idea of the criteria that you would like for the professional education for the provider you choose to work with you will need to interview the hypnotist to notice if this is a person with whom you would like to work. Find out if their philosophy matches yours in the care that you are desiring to receive and then be sure that you like one another, that the two of you “click” for if there is no “rapport” there is going to be very little gain from the work that you do most especially with a hypnotist with whom you are allowing to work in your unconscious mind.

To start your search I would either Google “hypnotist” and the area in which you live and read their websites to learn about how they feel about their work and if their approach is something that would be amenable to you or Google “hypnosis associations” and call their number and get a referral directly from them. They all have list of their members along with the level of practice they are on and in many cases the specializations as well.

Good luck in your search, and congratulate your self on utilizing the power of your own mind to assist you in transforming your life using a modality that goes back to the ancient civilization when they recognized that the body, mind and spirit all work in collaboration and respect the fact as they work with the whole “you” to create the healing that you have requested based on your goals.

Awaken to Living with Hypnosis

Tools to Create Your Life

Vol. 73 May 2008

Thriving Under Pressure: How Your Emotions May Be Limiting You

It is a fact of life today that people are feeling over whelmed by all the pressures they feel as the cost of everything is going up, up, up and the income they receive in real dollars is going down, down, down. With the increase in the cost of goods due to the devaluation of the dollar in the world markets everything from the cost of fuel for operating vehicles to the cost of anything that is transported from elsewhere, the squeeze is being felt more tightly.

When we feel squeezed by the influences from out side our selves we can become very upset and frustrated. These negative emotions can start to permeate every area of our life, for it all seems to be such a struggle. It can affect our physical and emotional health which can lead to problems in our work environment as well as in our personal relationships out side of work.

The question that I have for you is: What are you going to do to counter these negative influences? What are you willing to do in order to get back on track and most importantly to keep your health, for without your health life is quite a challenge?

I would like you to think about the ways the outside world influences your inside world, mainly the way you think. It is a fact of life that most people are going through life unconsciously. They go to work because that is what they feel they have to do to have a roof over their head and food on the table, whether or not they get any fulfillment from the work that they do, or are positively impacted by those with whom they spend the greater portion of their working hours. Then they go home to deal with the demands of a family and/or friends and leave what ever time is left to escape from the lonely, unfulfilled life that they consider living. In some cases they self medicate with the use of alcohol or drugs, the endless chatter of the mindless TV or sensationalized so-called news or waste tons of time in front of the computer looking at websites that tantalize and some time leading to other destructive behaviors. I consider this a living death, for the soul is not nurtured and the concept of living “on purpose with passion” is totally vacant.

The question than becomes one of what needs to be done to turn the living dead into the life of passion, fulfillment, purpose and love of self and others? I have found in my practice that many times the cause of the vacant or depressed manner of living is due to negative emotions that were installed in childhood, generally from the age of two through eight. The reason for this is because when we are that young we are in what is known in psychological terms the “imprint stage”. This simply means that the person is “unconscious” allowing all the input that is given to be literally understood and stored in the unconscious mind. This is where a child will be able to either be happy and successful, if the messaging from the adults around him/her were based on unconditional love and the idea of being able to aspire to be anything that the child can dream up, or if they were given messages that they were never good enough, not what one parent or the other really wanted in that particular child that they brought into the world. Or perhaps the all too common reality of many more kids, no matter the wealth of the family, may have had parents that were not nurtured in a positive manner resulting in the inability to foster the healthy growth and emotional development for a happy contributing member of society as a product of their upbringing.

The way that one is most easily able to let go of the negative emotions of the unconscious mind is through working with a professional that is expert in handling the reframing of the unconscious mind, for it is in the unconscious mind that all these reprogramming needs to happen. The professionals who are the most expert in this regard would be the hypnotists and neuro-linguistic practitioners. These are the individuals that are trained in assisting you to let go of what is holding you back with your unconscious programming that is creating the strategies that are responsible for the thought and behaviors that are not working for you, in return for strategies that will empower you to create the life that you would live if given the opportunity by creating the strategies that will enable the changes required to get the results for a life that is well lived.

The most amazing part of this is that hypnotism is a most natural manner in which to accomplish your goal since every one is in and out of it all day long. They just have no idea of what it actually means to be in a hypnotic state. All it hypnosis is, is a relaxed state of being, in fact the same state you are in every time you are doing some activity where you are “in the zone” or in a meditative state, or a day dreaming state. The hypnotist utilizes that state to break through the “concrete faculty of your conscious mind to work in the unconscious part of your mind, where the change work occurs. It is the quickest manner in which to do the work, because you are working in the part of the mind that needs to be reprogrammed using the natural way the unconscious works, which is with images. Even better is the fact that when you are in the hypnotic state you are disassociated from your emotional feelings which allows you to more easily clear the issue at hand and get you on track really easily and more quickly than almost any other method that there is out there.

I would suggest that you go to the various hypnosis associations to find a qualified hypnotist to work with. You want some body that has experience in dealing with the sort of issues you are looking to resolve since there are so many specializations out there. I would suggest that you interview a few of them and find out what they charge and how they work. If they are charging very little compared to the others in your area, it may be advisable to move onto some one who is more sure of the work that they are able to do. As in anything, one usually receives the value for which they invest. I would also find out how much training they have had. If they have a website find out if they have a CV – listing of all the trainings that they have done and notice at what level they are practicing. The levels are commonly as follows: Certified Hypnotist and Practitioner of NLP Practitioner, next is Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of NLP, then comes Certified Instructor or Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP and then comes Master Trainer of Hypnosis and NLP (the designation given to those who train the trainers). The National Guild of Hypnotists gives an exam where they certify people as Board Certified in Hypnosis only. If the person that you are going to work with has this designation you can be assured that they have more than a basic knowledge of the subject area. However, I do not hold that certification because I have not deemed it necessary to do so given that I have done my trainings out side of the NGH where I believe I have received a superior education to that which the NGH is currently offering due to their strong bias for hypnosis while leaving doing little in the area of NLP in my humble opinion. They also do next to nothing in the area of working in the super conscious mind which is a whole different level on which to do this work.

Once you have an idea of the criteria that you would like for the professional education for the provider you choose to work with you will need to interview the hypnotist to notice if this is a person with whom you would like to work. Find out if their philosophy matches yours in the care that you are desiring to receive and then be sure that you like one another, that the two of you “click” for if there is no “rapport” there is going to be very little gain from the work that you do most especially with a hypnotist with whom you are allowing to work in your unconscious mind.

To start your search I would either Google “hypnotist” and the area in which you live and read their websites to learn about how they feel about their work and if their approach is something that would be amenable to you or Google “hypnosis associations” and call their number and get a referral directly from them. They all have list of their members along with the level of practice they are on and in many cases the specializations as well.

Good luck in your search, and congratulate your self on utilizing the power of your own mind to assist you in transforming your life using a modality that goes back to the ancient civilization when they recognized that the body, mind and spirit all work in collaboration and respect the fact as they work with the whole “you” to create the healing that you have requested based on your goals.