I met Suzanne through a reference with whom I had seen a dramatic life turnaround with her help. My experience with hypnosis had been watching people on stage at a show and did not really believe that sitting in a chair with someone talking to you could make any real difference. Fortunately, seeing is believing and I was willing to give it a try after seeing positive results in someone I knew personally. The irony is that I was initially not sure what I wanted to be hypnotized for. Suzanne was able to delve into my current life situation and determine what it was that I needed most at that particular time. I had recently become unemployed and was looking for another executive position with a small technology firm, something I have done over and over again in my career but disliked each time.

Finding a new job can be a daunting process, especially when you are trying to prove to a founder that you could be the difference in their small company. There is always doubt about your capabilities and ability to perform even with a past success record.This self doubt is always there to some degree and there is a natural resistance to recount your successes and what is best about you when you are starting over. Questions of “will I be able to master this new technology….how long will it take for me to prove my value to this company….will I be compensated appropriately starting all over again” all are lingering in your mind as you talk to different start-up entrepreneurs. What Suzanne does well is bury these questions and replace them with the opposite suggestions which would be “I have done this 5 times successfully so far, why would this technology be any harder to learn than the last 5….. the time it takes to prove myself is not relevant, the fact that I do bring value to any company that I work with is important…..compensation begins with how much you can assure your new company that you will be successful and I know I will be successful.”

The amazing part of hypnosis is, that if done correctly, you don’t even realize it and I did not know these suggestions had been anchored in my mind when I left Suzanne after our sessions. Instead, I chalked up the time to a pleasant experience and enjoyable conversation but did not feel any different than when I initially came through the door. It was only after year that I could look back and ask my self “how did I end up with two VP positions to choose from within the first month after our sessions” and realized it was because I had lost fear and doubt and was running on a new confidence engine that had been tuned up by Suzanne. I would recommend hypnosis for anyone looking for at new employment because the difference in an interview between someone who “knows” they can bring value and someone who “questions” their value is an impression that can make or break your opportunity.

Recently I have moved from a place that I lived for the past 13 years to a smaller apartment. Now, any of you who have gone through this process can understand the concept of clearing out all the stuff that you no longer need. As hard as this exercise may be, there is I believe a harder one that many of us have difficulties getting through. This would be in the area of reviewing the relationships that you have in your life. I bring this up because I have realized that there were some relationships that I had that were not very healthy for me, others that needed to be reformatted so that I felt that I was receiving the attention that a caring long term relationship should have and releasing others that were not of any use and in some cases creating a negative energy that was not welcome.

Many of my clients find themselves in similar situations where the people with whom they are spending many hours of their time are a drain on them. It feels as if you are not getting heard or receiving the sort of attention that you feel you deserve and it hurts. It happens at work when your boss is giving you negative feedback, instead of assisting you to aspire to be the best that you can be. It happens in primary relationships when you feel taken for granted or worse, abused or ignored. And it can happen when you are in friendships where you feel that you are putting a lot of effort out, and not having it returned in like kind. In the more serious cases, you may feel used and abused by these “friends” or family of yours.

When we feel that we are not being heard or respected by those with whom we interact, sometimes we create interesting ways to deal with it, unconsciously of course. For instance if you feel your boss is unsupportive of you, you may create behavior that is counter productive to your job situation like showing up late, becoming antagonistic, or not being all that productive. If it is in your primary relationship you may decide to get your needs taken care of outside the relationship. If you are hanging out with people that drink and you have an issue in that area, you may find yourself once again getting drunk, for that seems to be what you need to do in order to fit in even though for you drinking leads to sabotaging yourself which brings feelings of failure.

The great motivational speakers all give the same advice of being aware with whom you interact, for that is what you will become. You need to think about the people with whom you choose to associate carefully. Over the years people can change. If you are growing you too are changing. Perhaps it would be useful to clear out all those individuals that are creating issues inside you and figure out if they are helpful or harmful to your sense of self. If this is an issue that you do not feel that you can handle on your own, perhaps working with a hypnotist will help you to understand exactly why you are choosing to stay in relationships that are keeping you from growing and feeling good about yourself. I know I had to get some assistance from outside myself in order to better understand how to deal with these influences on my life, creating a healthier way to live, for it can be difficult to really confront in an objective way. Your unconscious mind can assist you in better understanding what you need and want in each of the relationships From there it is easy to reconstruct the relationships feeling good about those with whom you give the ability to influence you.

I have been working with one of the brightest people I have ever met. Here is a man with not one but two master’s degrees from Yale University who came in to see me because he had been out of work for over two years at the time.

After going through his history a few things became quite evident. First of all he was traumatized by the way his last few jobs ended. From his perspective he was not treated fairly and I would have to agree that given his account of what was going on. At the time he was dealing with some fairly serious family health issues. Corporate America seems to be a place where few are allowed to deal with family emergencies in a manner that is helpful both to the employee and to the employee’s family. The need to continue to be on the job, able to perform as if nothing is going on, is indeed a most heartless and useless way to go in my opinion.

Later on in his job history he had made all his sales goals in another job and yet was given a letter by his boss stating that he had not performed the way he was required. There was never any mention of any concern previously from the boss, and so it came as a very hurtful surprise.

As we worked together, it became obvious to me that this person did not have the personality of one who was going to be able to work for another. He got frustrated easily with his bosses inability to do things in a more logical and quicker manner and further was bored by most of what corporate America had to offer in terms of jobs anyway. This became very clear after he attended many networking meetings and job interviews.

After clearing all the hurt feelings and trauma involved in his previous work history it was necessary to figure out how he could create the sort of income his family was used to doing something that he really cared about doing in a company that he could feel pleased to work in.

My solution was for him to find a way to be his own boss. He is very bright, very accomplished and need not live according to what some boss he probably would not respect would ask of him anyway. It was a fruitless exercise of repeated frustration.

After about 6 months of working together I am happy to tell you that he is going to be a partner with two other people in a company that will bring in as much income as they can generate from a very well marketed web presence. My client’s expertise happens to be marketing and software, and so it will be his responsibility to create the sort of income that he knows he can produce for the company and that is absolutely a perfect fit for this very talented and accomplished gentleman.

I bet there are a lot of you out there that feel the way that I felt not all that long ago: I had dreams and ambitions, but yet I was stuck doing work I did not really want to be doing any more that barely paid me anything in return for all the sweat that I bore. In fact I had more than 20 years of frustration regarding finding the perfect fit for myself with regard to work. You see, I had the notion that I could work for myself creating the world that I wanted. I was emulating my father who was a dentist and worked the schedule that he chose; he made enough money to raise five kids and have plenty left over. I liked the way he thought and the control that he took in his life in terms of work. Continue »

I am always amazed when I read the intake forms my clients fill out. I am amazed because so many individuals lack any sense of self-esteem. It does not seem to matter what they have already achieved in life. Even well respected professionals have written this down on the forms. This is a very sad commentary on this society. Why is it that so many people feel so badly about how they are doing in life? Could it be that they are comparing themselves to some unrealistic expectation set in the media? Or is it that childhood was too difficult? Continue »

“When I began with Suzanne, I was your typical skeptic because I am a very practical person. I’m a ‘don’t tell me, show me’ type of person. Because of my own brother’s personal testimony of his success with Suzanne with respect to stopping smoking after 30 years, I just put my trust in her hands. Even though I was still a skeptic, I started to see results, and results are what made me a believer in Suzanne. One of my primary goals was to turn my finances around. Within the first month, I put together a $6,000 private commission real estate deal with no realtor involved. In addition my part-time business tripled. Even though I had started advertising, 2/3 of my business increase came from the repeat business of cutomers prior to my ad. I am now more focused, productive and moving toward my goals of financial independence since my affiliation with Dawning Visions Hypnosis. The real difference between my current success and previous succeses is the exponential speed of my progress through hypnosis.”

Rich M., Boston, MA