One would think that telling someone that you care would be as natural as eating and sleeping. In all too many cases this is not the way it is. It wasn’t until I read an article written by Victoria Rosner for the New York Times titled “Shall I let My son See His Dying Dad?” that this hit home for me.

When I read the article on my computer it had reminded me of a situation that occurred in my own life.The article was about a 2 year old boy who never knew his father. His father had walked away from his mother when she was pregnant with him. He just could not deal with the responsibility of having a family, it didn’t mean he didn’t care, or did it? How was this two year old to know?

When the father of the 2 year old found out he had months to live, he decided then he wanted to know his son, and for his son to have the chance to know him. The father sent a letter asking the mother permission to contact the boy. The mother to her credit allowed the father to have contact with the boy, despite all the advice of “friends” telling her things that although may have been true on some level such as “He left you and he doesn’t deserve to see his son”, she instead forgave whatever she had to allowing her son to know his father. (See January 2010 newsletter on Forgiveness.) Being allowed to see his father enables him to have a lasting sense of security with the knowledge that his father cared about him.

The article I read was originally titled “Shall I forgive Him one Last time?” and I find it rather interesting that it took having a date of dying for this father to realize that he wanted and needed to have the relationship with his son. It seems for when we know that we may not have that chance, we are more apt to act, rather than take one another for granted. Perhaps it would be better for everyone if we could just take the time now to show we care.

I realized that if my father had told me occasionally that he loved me, that he cared about me, that he was thinking of me even though he did not live with my mother and me, it would have made all the difference in my world. A simple call letting me know he cared about me would have been enough. Had my father occasionally sent a card or called on a birthday, had taken a few moments of time to show he cared, it would perhaps be a lot easier for me to believe him today, 50 years later when he says “I love you“. Left unspoken only my father knew in his heart that he cared. He never conveyed it to me or anyone else for that matter. Because it was left to the imagination, it became skewed and distorted over time.

To know that this man cares about his boy regardless of whether he could support him, or be a father to him for whatever reason, is probably the most important memory he will have of his father when he thinks of him 50 years from now or maybe even tomorrow. To just know that he was loved and cared for in his father’s heart means more than all the money, fancy houses and toys that could be bought. To just be told this and have it occasionally reinforced can mean everything to a person. Sometimes it can be even more important than having a parent there 24/7. Is it that hard to send a card, or to pick up a phone?

Too often we go about our daily lives assuming people know how we feel. It seems like they should just know, but do they? Why is it so hard to tell someone you care? Probably because it is easier to assume they just know. People need to be told they are cared about and appreciated.

In an article by Rick Nauert, PhD, titled “Emotional Wealth Trumps Financial Wealth” August 10, 2009, a study was done “…what we’ve found is that while money may be able to make people live more comfortable lives, it won’t necessarily contribute to life’s pleasant moments that come from engaging with people and activities rather than from material goods and luxuries.”

I know another person who has all the money in the world however is very alone and miserable. She was born into money and has never had to work a day in her life. She has no real reason or passion in her life, no reason to face the day. She constantly tries to buy love and companionship with her money. She has no sense of self love or worth and no purpose to her life. Even though she has all the money in the world what she is unable to buy is someone to tell her she is loved or cared for. She is unable to buy someone to tell her she matters in this world. It is a proven fact that money cannot buy happiness proven by all the countless lottery winners who end up broke and miserable. Money can never buy the love or care of another human being.

The simple act of telling someone you love or care about them can really turn a life around and make a huge difference in someone’s life, or even save a life. Hallmark Greeting Cards makes millions off this fact, and there are a million songs written as well on this fact. Stevie Wonder’s “I just called to say I loved you” comes to mind, amongst many others.

Had the people that showed they cared in my life not have shown it when they did, I may have felt isolated and alone as my cousin did and hanged myself. The fact that a few people really showed they cared about me made a huge difference in my world. There are billions of people in the world, no one should ever feel that alone.

Take Simon and Garfunkel’s “The Sounds Of Silence” “…a rock feels no pain and an island never cries.” When a person feels alone and as if no one cares they begin to feel void of their emotions to the point of becoming dead inside like a rock. They become increasingly more isolated and depressed, unable to live life. They become like a rock on an island.

In another study reported in the Scientific American, June of 2008, researcher Steven Cole of the University of California L.A. reported that people that suffer from chronic loneliness show a change in their gene activity which could predispose them to all sorts of illness from a simple cold to deadly cancer.

Too often people assume the other person knows how they feel.People need to feel other people care and they need to care about other people as well. It gives people a reason to live knowing they are cared about and have others to care for. Too often it is taken for granted. Too often it is left unsaid. Too often it is said too late.

Tell someone you love and care about them today. If you find it difficult to get in touch with your emotions for one reason or another, hypnosis can help you get unstuck, so you can once again feel the emotions that are so vital to one’s life. For it is when we can feel our emotions that we can feel empathy for another which is the basis for all fulfilling relationships.

Article written by Donna N.

If you are like me you have the tendency to avoid change like the plague. You wonder how the people that thrive on change do it, for some people do love changes in their lives.
Whether you love it or hate it, fact of the matter is change is a good thing to have occur in our lives.

From my experience fighting the inevitable changes that life has to offer you is a waste of time and energy. By learning to flow with these changes I have been able to create some opportunities which I wouldn’t have otherwise.

In the recent past I found my self in an unbearable living situation. I was not happy there for many different reasons, though comfortable in the routine that I had been living for the past 14 years. It was so hard for me to leave the comfort of that routine, that I made up all sorts of excuses as to why I should not make the move. The longer I resisted the change the more reasons I made up to not make the move putting things way out of proportion. Eventually I came to realize that I could not continue as things were After the move I realized that the negativity that surrounded me in the old place created the fear in me that I would not be able to afford my own place. That the people I was living with wouldn’t be able to make it without me and a lot of other excuses to keep me in that negative environment that was oh so comfortable for the misery that it brought to me.

Now that I am in my new place I have found a sense of empowerment that I never thought I could realize, the most important of these being that I can overcome my fears and found strength that I never knew that I had, along with an inner calm. I know that if I didn’t make that change things would have continued to destroy me. As a result of the move all sorts of wonderful new opportunities have come my way that I never could have realized had I stayed “stuck” in the resistance to that change.

As we go through life, change is going to come up whether or not we want to deal with it. If we continue to ignore these changes long enough they can create enough stress to ultimately kill. Changes that come up that may seem negative to us, can if we look at them from a different perspective become that which frees us, from what is creating the habits and behaviors that are actually harming us.

It is when we ignore our bodies call for action that all sorts of health issues arise. Some people choose to smoke to release their stress, some people over eat while others will drink, drug or gamble while still others have depressive thoughts or issues relating to anger. It doesn’t really matter how the destructive nature displays itself. What matters is that you listen to what your body and mind are telling you to address and then to address it.

To grow we must embrace changes in our lives. If the change we pursue starts out positive and turns out to be negative, we need to turn that negative into a positive, learn from it and then release it. (see the “Forgiveness” December 2009 newsletter).

I believe that all negative changes can be turned into positive changes with the right frame of mind. Getting to that frame of mind isn’t always easy, especially if one is in the midst of a negativity.

Hypnosis can help you transition through life’s difficult changes by dispelling the overwhelming feelings that created the resistance. It teaches you how to deal with these situations in the future allowing for a much better quality of life.

“For most of us, health will not depend on who we are, but on how we live. The body you have at 20 depends on your genes, but the body you have at 40, 60 or 80 is the body you deserve; that reflects your behavior.” (Readers Digest 1996)

Fact is even though our body is constantly evolving our body’s cells remember everything. Any illness we get unless we are born with it, is a result of our feelings. Louise L Hay, Catherine Ponder and Caroline Myss amongst others have written books on this.

Deepak Chopra tells us that there is a hidden intelligence that is at work in our bodies that scientists have not been able to tap into yet, but they are finding more and more proof this is true. He states that if that intelligence can cause our bodies to become diseased, then that intelligence can also reverse that.

Our emotions and they way we deal with situations in our lives have a direct consequence on our bodies. I have experienced this myself over and over again. Perhaps you yourself are able to see some situation where you can relate the negative (or positive) way you were feeling with an ache or pain (or feeling of elation). Have you ever been so angry you have given yourself a headache? You get so worked up that you can actually feel your blood pressure rising. Have you ever been so happy that you/your body felt like it was on cloud nine?

There is a direct connection between how the body feels and your mind. Your brain communicates with your immune system constantly.

Paul Ekman, Professor Emeritus at the University of California at San Francisco did research on the bodies immune system and the effect one has on it by either smiling or frowning. He found that when a person smiles, you alter your blood chemistry and actually produce chemicals that are natural opiates not only in your brain, but in the cells in your stomach and intestines. Ever know someone who is always smiling, and you wonder if they are just on drugs, for how can anyone be that happy all the time. Well the more they smile, the more “drugs” they are on really-natural drugs.

When we feel negative emotions about someone or something, we put our whole body at risk. When we hang on to negativity and are not able to forgive and move on, we are setting ourselves up for “problems”.

Bernie Seigel has actually proven that when a person forgives, an actual chemical change takes place in the body which in turn produces the correct anti-body to enable the healing to occur.

When you are able to forgive you are able to set yourself and your body free. Free from the negativity that causes illness, disease, aches and pains. When we feel negativity about someone or something we put not only our mind but our entire body at risk.

I have an 89 year old client that when she gets upset with her daughter, her body literally develops Parkinson-like tremors. Her hands shake so much you can visibly see it and her body is so shaky that she has a hard time just walking. When she is on good terms with her daughter she is literally a different being. She is very stable and has no visible tremors.

So I repeatedly ask her why she does this to herself, why does she let her daughter upset her to the point it affects her body the way it does. At age 89 she knows no other way to react she tells me. I try to tell her to think of it as her daughter doesn’t mean the things she says and she needs to realize this and just forgive her because it is her daughter’s way of dealing with her aging and ailing mother.

Sometimes it isn’t easy to forgive someone who has wronged you however I think you need to do this for yourself and not for the other person, and if you think of it that way it becomes easier.

Forgiveness is needed in our lives for us to be able to move forward. If we are unable to forgive we build up anger and resentments, and this in turns harms not only our emotional state of health, but our physical health as well. Sometimes we need to forgive even if we feel we did no wrong and that is the hardest I think. But until we do, we get stuck in a vortex that traps us and constantly eats away literally like a flesh eating virus at our minds and bodies until disease sets in.

To forgive someone for wronging us whatever the reason is the key to happiness with in ourselves. Sometimes I think if we swallow our pride and forgive, the other person will think twice and learn from the experience. Or maybe not, however just knowing we are freed from the situation because the act of forgiveness allows us to be released emotionally. By not forgiving, we are still hanging onto the person or situations and that causes us problems whether it be today, tomorrow or twenty years form now. It will come back in one way or another to harm us.

The most important person for us to forgive is ourselves for anything we may have done that makes us feel guilty. With that done, life can move on in a much more positive and productive manner.

Sometimes we don’t even realize we need to forgive someone in our lives. That is where NLP and time line therapy can help. There may be things, times or people that have wronged us in the past that we are unaware of on a conscious level that we feel anger towards, and we don’t even realize it. We just go through our lives and feel angry and don’t even realize why.

If you feel angry, or hateful or just unhappy in your life, and you don’t know why or where it is coming from on a conscious level, hypnosis can help you tap into your unconscious mind to figure out where those very harmful and potentially deadly feelings are coming from, and allow you to release them, forgive and move on with a contentment and happiness to enjoy your life as it was meant to be lived.

More than 8 million Americans seriously consider suicide each year according to a new government study and 32,000 actually are successful. 

What is worse is that this data was compiled by a new report by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration based on a survey of 46,190 people aged 18 and older.  In past years the survey had been given to people who reported major depression but as of 2008 it was added to all questionnaires. 
It was found that amongst people with a substance abuse disorder, 11% had considered suicide, compared to 3% for people without such disorders.

If you are unlucky enough to suffer from either depression or substance abuse you know what it is like to have those thoughts of not wanting to live, not wanting to go through it another day.  Wanting to stop the cycle of depression, drug abuse and or alcohol abuse.  Maybe that is why you use to begin with, to stop the pain of depression.  Or maybe that is why you are depressed, from all the drugs or alcohol you are ingesting. 

Seems like it is just one big circle.  Maybe that is why the statistics are so staggeringly high.  At times it all seems just endless and hopeless.  Similar to a hamster on his wheel going around and around forever. Whatever the case may be you may have tried countless therapies to stop the cycle of depression.  You have probably tried numerous times to stop the using and abusing of drugs.

But, because you are depressed you turn to the drugs/alcohol for relief.   Because you turn to the alcohol/drugs for relief you remain depressed. Again, it just seems like it is one big circle and the only way off is suicide.

Maybe you’ve gone to 12-step meetings only to find you need to go constantly to stay clean and sober. You must go to meetings for the rest of your life to remain clean and sober one day at a time. Seems as soon as you stop going, you relapse.  And when you relapse it seems it is even harder to get clean and sober again, if you are lucky enough to do so. 

Perhaps you’ve tried talk therapy, but you don’t know really what it is that bothers you. Why you are always feeling like life is a chore and you just have no energy.  Why nothing excites you or why you just don’t feel “happy” about life in general.  You don’t really talk about the cause or the root of the “issues” that are causing your pain because you may not even know what they.  So you go week after week to your therapist and you talk about current issues, perhaps some issues in your childhood at $100/hr or more.  You talk about anything and everything you can remember.  This takes months and even years to wade through all your life’s discomforts and then it still doesn’t seem to be enough to do the trick. And, now on top of everything else you have a huge bill.  It still doesn’t seem to be enough to make you feel better for good. Perhaps you feel better for a while, but then when you end the therapy eventually you start to feel depressed again. It is a painfully slow process and all you want is to feel better now.  Perhaps the therapist prescribes a medication or refers you to a doctor that can.  If you are lucky the medication works for a while but then it seems that it stops working, or doesn’t work as well as it did before.  You just have no energy, no desire to live your life anymore, and so they prescribe something else.  And that medication doesn’t help so they try another, and another and then they find another one that finally works.  After a year, maybe sooner or maybe later that medication also stops working, so they increase it, or they add another.  It just seems like an endless cycle.  An infinite number of therapy sessions and countless prescriptions.  A revolving door to the therapist’s and doctor’s offices. 

Is this what you really want?  Would it not be better if there were a more permanent and lasting method to rid yourself of these unwanted behaviors and unwanted feelings?  Would it not be better to go to a finite number of sessions and rid yourself once and for all of these problems that cause you to not enjoy or even want to live your life.  To know that once you end your sessions that your problems/issues for the most part will be over and you can get on with your life and concentrate on the life that you were meant to live.  That you won’t have to attend meetings or go to therapy for the rest of your life. To know that the insidious label of depression or substance abuser will not find its’ way back into your life. 

All the above mentioned conventional therapies may or may not have worked for you. Perhaps they may have worked for a while and then your problems re-surfaced and came back, maybe even stronger than before.  So you find yourself back in your therapist’s office.  Does it seem like it is a revolving door, like there is no end to the situation you find yourself in. 

With hypnosis, NLP and Time Line Therapy (R) you can be rid of your problems and issues once and for all. That is because these hypnotic processes allow you to access your unconscious mind which created these destructive strategies to protect you from information that your conscious mind could not handle. Because this material is unconscious you may not realize that it is even there causing you the discomfort. By going into the unconscious mind you can get to the root of the problem letting go of these destructive strategies while creating new productive strategies.


When you get rid of weeds in your garden, unless you kill that weed at the root-it will grow back.  It is the same with anything be it depression or drug and or alcohol abuse. Unless you get rid of the infection totally it will almost certainly come back, sometimes stronger than before.  Unless you get rid of the germs totally it will indeed come back and cause another illness.   Unless you solve the issue that is causing the problem/s it will almost always grow back, sometimes even stronger than before. 
You can take medication or methadone or whatever, but do you really just want to cover it up, plant some flowers around that weed?  You constantly take the chance that that weed will kill the flowers eventually. 

Wouldn’t it be great if you could just rid yourself once and for all of those weeds and get on with your life? 

Through hypnosis, I have had clients (such as Donna N. or Caroline S.) actually change their brain chemistry.  Refer to the testimonials pages.  Donna N. had had depression for over 30 years, pretty much all of her life.  She was told she did indeed have a “biochemical imbalance” in her brain. A CAT scan confirmed this at a major and prominent hospital.  She tried all of the above conventional therapies, some of which did work for a while, only to have the problems re-surface again and again. Caroline S. had eating disorders for which she was also told she would have for the rest of her life.  After doing hypnosis, NLP, Time Line Therapy they were able to reframe their minds and actually alter the biochemistry of their brains.  And YES, THIS IS POSSIBLE.  They no longer have the problems they had and are free to really go on with their lives; because they no longer have fears those problems will re-surface.  They have once and for all gotten to the root of their issues and eradicated those weeds from their lives.  They no longer have to plant flowers around them by taking medication, go to therapy or attend meetings. And, when they do plant flowers, they know that they will thrive and not have to worry about them dying from being overcome by weeds.

There are more and more studies, articles and reports stating that hypnosis has the ability to alter one’s brain chemistry.  Stay tuned to upcoming newsletters where this will be addressed and articles will indeed be cited.  Hypnosis can truly change your life.

You have to truly want it and work for your desired results.  I assume if you have read this far, you do. 

So wouldn’t it be great to not have the depression, not have the substance abuse or any other problems you find yourself with.  To be able to plant some flowers and have them thrive without the fear of weeds killing them? 

I would suggest you find a hypnotist who knows how to do NLP and Time Line Therapy (R) with proven results to help you given the serious nature involved of these issues. To protect your health and well being most states mandate that your hypnotist has a referral from a licensed practitioner. This is a good idea because you do want to make sure that your treatment team are all working together for your well being. Remember that doctors have the ability to run test and scans making sure that physiologically all is working in your body the way it should. 
 
 
 

Are you feeling stressed with less energy than normal and perhaps feeling that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach? It almost feels as if you know that you need to do something, but you are not sure exactly what and everything else that you have been doing up till now hasn’t helped to alleviate any of these unwanted feelings that you have in your body.

If you fit this description at all it is probably because when you take the time to think about it there are too many demands on your time and money because too many people want something from you. It doesn’t really matter what, the fact is that you are tired, sick of spending money on things you may not need or want and just have a desire to be free of all of it. Perhaps you are soothing yourself by drinking to much alcohol, spending too many hours at the office because home is worse than work in your mind, or maybe you are spending money you don’t have for things that you know you don’t need… but it feels better to shop, doesn’t it? Maybe you are eating too much and even worse you are eating junk food, even though you know it makes you feel worse doing so, or maybe even perhaps you have decided to go get massages to relax you- it was innocent in the beginning, but now you are being “pleasured” by the lovely “massage therapist” and though it feels good in the moment you feel badly about yourself after the fact….but you can’t help yourself, because nothing else makes the negative feelings go away…but you know that it is only a temporary fix, and yet a temporary fix is better than no fix at all because you think you are losing your mind.

When most people feel this way they will go see are mental health professional who in most cases will write a prescription for some medication to help deal with the negative thoughts and behaviors. While this can help in some cases, it is not a cure. Just ask the folks who have been on medication for years that do in many cases feel better and yet if they were to stop their medications would most likely have their symptoms return.

The other problem that I personally have with medication as the cure-all of our 21st century manner of treatment would be the long term effects of the medication on the patient who is ingesting it. Keep in mind that your body has to detoxify the medication either through your liver or kidneys depending on the type of medication that is being used. Over the many years that most patients are kept on these very strong medications, damage to these life giving organs can and does happen. I had it happen in my own case with long term use of lithium for mood disorders and though the medication did its job, I found after over ten years of use it was starting to slow down my kidney function. This became apparent in the deforming of my thumb nails which were telling me that something was not right in my body. After 24 hour urine collection, it was discovered that my kidney function was not operating at the normal levels. In my case it was caught before permanent damage occurred. However, one always has to ask themselves if the treatment is worth the possible harm. In my case the lithium was a potential life saver, for most of the time I was taking it. My situation changed drastically when I learned how to do NLP and how to apply it to myself to conquer the bipolar for which the lithium was prescribed. Of course this was a shock to my long term psychiatrist when she noticed after 10 months of seeing her without being on medication of any sort, that indeed my bipolar was no longer in evidence. Everything was fine and that bipolar did not need to be what she was taught in her psychiatric training to be a “life long illness”. Since March 12, 2004 I have not been on any medication for my bipolar and since January 5, 2005 I have not needed to be under psychiatric care. Yes, medications do indeed have their place, and that place is necessary in far fewer situations than or allopathic world of today is willing to believe.

After working in the hypnotic arts for over seven years now, I can tell you that the reason that most people get ill has more to do with how you allow others to control you, than anything else. It is amazing that this idea is very rarely ever spoken of in the psychological literature. The specialist seem to believe a pill of some sort or cognitive behavioral therapy is the answer to most anything. I am here to give you a much more practical outlook on this whole situation.

The fact of the matter is that you are not “losing your mind” and there are reasons for acting and thinking and feeling in the way that you are currently. To make this very simple it is because you are allowing others to run your life for you. Yeah, we all want to get along with people and have friends and not have our significant others or our kids drive us nuts, or worse our parents and yet most times it seems to be easier to either ignore the problem or do something that will sedate us for a while to just get a break from it all.

The reason you find yourself in this situation is that your unconscious mind “runs” you whether or not you are aware of it and this is what makes it so difficult to stop doing the things that you want to stop and to do the things that you want to do. My guess is that if you were able to do the things the way you wanted you wouldn’t need to be reading this article. With that in mind do understand that the only way to reprogram your unconscious mind to receive the results you desire is to work inside the unconscious mind. This is what hypnotists and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) practitioners assist their clients to do. It really doesn’t matter what the effect is, it is the “cause” that matters. In my experience in this field it always goes back to having your “boundaries” being over ridden by someone in your world, either when you were young or later on in life, perhaps some love interest cheating on you. The way to “STOP” your boundaries from being over ridden is to “STOP” allowing the people in your life to over ride them.

Now, that may sound easy enough to do, however do realize that most people with significant problems be they emotional or physical (as in having an illness) are allowing their boundaries to be over ridden ALL THE TIME and the way that you know this is because every time you have an interaction with someone and it results in your feeling something negative either emotionally like feeling anger, quilt or hurt or physically (in this case do see a physician to rule out physiological issues or to learn about what needs to be treated with the hypnotic work) because your body is letting you know in a different way that something is not working for you, your boundaries have been over ridden.

The good news is that there is a way to stop this unpleasant cycle of behavior, no matter what form or forms that it takes for you. That way is TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE BACK in a manner that is workable for everyone involved. It isn’t that complicated really; however there are more humane and ethical ways of doing this than most of us would be able to figure out on our own.

Using the power of you unconscious mind to first of all understand why it is that you are allowing yourself to feel miserable and then relearning that you are worthy because of the magnificent person you really are. Once you have regained a sense of self, you can indeed learn how to enforce the boundaries that help you feel safe and respected. In most cases
it will be quick and easy to reclaim your life your happiness and sense of fulfillment.
Here is what Laura in Boston, Mass. had to say about our work together:

Prior to working with Suzanne I found myself binging at night, half
asleep unable to control my behavior. In fact, I felt that way about
most of my life – as if there were a part which was continuously
sabotaging my efforts. I had many types of therapists over the years,
some of whom were reasonably helpful, but even combined they were
nothing compared to Suzanne. The fact that I am no longer night-eating
or overeating, and the fact that I am no longer so angry and stifled, are
merely examples of my new reality: I’m on my way to being truly free.
Suzanne was able to clear all the causes of my problems in a few weeks.
I had no idea the results would be this phenomenal.”

You may have a different presenting problem than Laura’s, however, if anger, depression, anxiety, self-loathing are any part of how you feel currently, you too can be freed of these negative feelings, usually in one weekend of intensive work up to around a month later if you were to work with me. This really depends on how quickly you personally integrate the changes. Please note that If you have a lot of weight to lose (more than 30 pounds) or have medical issues that complicate your case, it will take longer to receive your results, however, you will FEEL MUCH BETTER on your way to reaching your goal, and that means you will have given yourself a MUCH BETTER QUALITY OF LIFE and don’t you deserve that much?

Do understand that if you are looking for a competent person to help you with these issues I would suggest that you find someone who is a Master Practitioner of NLP and Time Line Therapy ™ if at all possible because these techniques allow for much quicker results than straight suggestive hypnosis. You can contact the American Board of NLP or The Time Line Therapy ™ to get a referral to someone who practices almost anywhere in the world. You can find them through contacting the Tad James Company, Inc. Just google them on the internet or call: 888-440-4823 and they will be happy to connect you to the boards for a referral to a competent practitioner in your area.

Hypnosis and NLP have managed to turn my whole life around and know that it can do the same for you so long as you are willing to make the investment in yourself that will be required to do the work.

I recently received news that a very dearly loved and respected uncle of mine passed away. In this particular case it was a matter of when, not if, given the man’s age, 94. He was one of those people who had done amazing things all through his life, yet was as humble as anyone could ever be. I will never forget the visit to his home I made with my ex-husband many years ago. As my uncle was showing us around his house, my ex excitedly pointed to a photo that was taken of my uncle and his older son along with President Kennedy. Being a person who lived in the state of Massachusetts all his life, this was an incredible thing to see, because President Kennedy was one of his own on top of being the President of his country. My uncle worked in the State Department of the United States government for many years and was posted in various countries throughout his service so it was not a real surprise that the President of the USA might have had a picture taken with him at some point during his tenure. I will certainly miss never being able to speak with him again, but there is not a loss here that will create any sort of issue for me. Unlike a few of my clients who have had some serious situations occur because of the losses they suffered.

A few years ago I had an 18 year old come to see me. She has having some difficulty with her hockey coach and they were going into their finals of the season. Normally this kid loved her hockey and did very well, but with the negative comments she was receiving from the coach, her desire to play had diminished as did her performance. Interestingly enough, during the first session as I was doing the work regarding the hockey situation, her mother who was invited by her daughter to sit in on the session, wrote a quick note to me asking if I could help her to deal with the loss of four of her close friends within the last few years. I nodded “yes” to her mother later on finding out that one of them used to be on her daughter’s team before her passing. In this particular case I had the young woman work on one loss at a time. While in a trance state, I had her go back to the last time she saw the person alive, and to tell me what went on at that time. Then she was asked to go back to when she heard of their passing and tell me where she was and what she was told by who about that person’s passing. From there she was asked to bring up the wake and just experience what she experienced, the funeral next paying particular attention to what was said in the eulogies and finally the grave site and anything that was said their about the person who passed away. She was then told that the person was always going to be a part of her because of the close relationship that they shared. It took about 15 minutes for us to go through each of the friends she had lost totaling an hour of work. Understand that teens are particularly quick while working with hypnosis, adults may take a longer period to accomplish the same thing. When my client came back for her follow-up a week later she felt very much relieved of her losses. She told me that she felt her hockey friend was with her each time she was on the ice playing. She reported that this felt very comforting to her. About a week after her second appointment I received a clipping from the local newspaper sent by her proud mother reporting that she was one of the star players who won the hockey championship for her school. I want you to notice that the young woman came in for increased hockey performance, and yet the more important work was a secondary issue that came up. This young woman wrote a very moving testimonial which is posted on this website under the name of: Alexandra D. You can find it at the bottom of the Home web page.

I had another client in her 30’s, who was having difficulty sticking to her running schedule to keep her in shape and at the weight she desired. She just didn’t have the motivation she used to and was fairly certain it had to do with the loss of her parents, both passing within months of each other. She had a very good relationship with both of them and had a difficult time moving on. I used a different technique with this woman being that she was older and as such needed to do some deeper work. While she was in a hypnotized state I had her imagine the parent that she wanted to work with first was in a place that was comfortable for them to talk to one another. From there I had her have a conversation with the parent and tell that parent everything that she ever wanted to tell them. She may have already told the parent some of the things, and that was okay. From there the parent was to respond to what she said and that lead to a loving hug. At that point I had her bring in all of the positive attributes of that parent into herself as she was still hugging the parent. When she felt that the process was completed she was to let me know. The last step was to see how the parent was doing on the other side. When this was done, she could see the parent was doing quite well and was there for her. We did the same exact thing for the other parent. With this accomplished the session was finished. She came back for her follow-up and reported that she felt much better and was now able to stick to her running schedule.

There were other clients that I have worked with that had terrible relationships with their parents and never made up with them before they passed. In these circumstances it is even more important to have the healing done in order to release the pain and any negative behaviors that may have been created as a result of that pain. I had one gentleman who was very angry with his father and never had a chance to say “good-bye”. He created all sorts of bad habits as a result. It was most moving when he realized how much he really truly loved his father and just never allowed himself to feel that before. He broke down in to tears of joy when he realized his true feelings. It was as if a whole new person came to life with that understanding. He was able to let go of an alcohol abuse issue and find himself a position that better suited him.

If you are a person who is feeling the loss of someone who was close to you and especially if it is controlling you in some negative fashion, do see a hypnotist to assist you to easily allow the person who was lost, to become an asset in your life. While assisting people in their grieving process I have come to understand that life is so much easier once you learn what you need to from that loss. This is some of the most inspirational work that I do with my clients and is almost always a surprise to them in terms of how they feel after the process is done.

These days seem to bring more anxiety than we have felt in a long time given the state of the economy, the derelict things we have found our representatives here in the states have done with the power they were granted and the political scene as discussed in the news.

It is interesting to me though, that none of these items are contributing to why people will call for help. It is usually the more mundane human situations that create the most angst. Sexually inappropriate behavior is one area that creates much worry as well as anger. It can happen on either side of the marriage. Recently I had a fairly happily married woman in here that cheated on her husband many years ago. She never shared this information with him, never wanting to hurt him. The secret seemed to be a contributing factor to creating panic attacks in her since once the event was cleared they disappeared.

I have many men call because they are cheating on their wives or girlfriends who feel guilty and anxious about this behavior. Some of them realize that the behavior could destroy the life they so carefully crafted if caught.

I have clients who worry about their health usually with histories of chronic or acute issues. And I have clients who have kids who they have no idea on how to deal with. I have grown children who do not know how to deal with their controlling parents.

It seems that the over arching concerns of my clients anyway, are still concentrated on the areas that have always been problematic. It is great to know that hypnosis can make the worries go away and free the time and energy that was wasted to be better utilized in more productive ways leading to a happier more fulfilled life. It is really just a matter of desiring to deal with those areas in life that feel most uncomfortable and then doing whatever it takes to put it all in the past. Once that is accomplished you are able to learn better methods to create the life you desire and deserve.

If you are in a situation that is creating unnecessary worry and you are ready to let it go, do call a hypnotist in your area so you too can enjoy life again. It would be a great holiday gift to give to both you and those who love you.

In March 2005, I had a gentleman referred to me for smoking cessation; however, this was not the primary importance at the time we spoke. He had another problem that needed to be addressed immediately- teeth grinding.About eight years prior, his dentist noticed that many of his teeth had been totally worn down; some of them were cracked. At that time he realized that he was always grinding his teeth, but had no idea why. He thought he was content in his life. His dentist told him that he would need $40,000 worth of dental work to keep his own teeth. He followed through and had the work done. By the time we spoke, the teeth had grounded down again and one would never know that he had all that work done.His dentist told him that he would have to stop the grinding before he was to have any more work done on his teeth. While we were on the phone the client asked me if we could do anything to stop this destructive habit of his because he really wanted to keep his own teeth.I found out from a dentist that the reason that people grind their teeth (otherwise known as “bruxism” in the dental community) is because they have a lot of pent up anger, which increases adrenaline in their bodies. The body uses this adrenaline by the grinding of the teeth. It became obvious to me that the course of action was to find out what was creating all the anger then de-sensitize the emotional charge on each of the events that was creating that anger. Once that was accomplished the grinding of the teeth would stop.The first step was to do a Detailed Personal History on my client ; I found out that there were a few incidents that occurred in his twenties that triggered him. The first incident happened during WWII, when his father was fighting the socialist in France: he was captured and tortured, which lead to his death. His mother was devastated with this turn of events and become very depressed for the rest of her life. His oldest brother was having a difficult time with manic-depressive episodes and came after my client a couple of times with a knife trying to kill him. With all of these events, my client was forced to take on the role of the “father figure” for his large family. He did the best that he could under fairly difficult circumstances. Though he thought he was calm and in control of his life currently, he did realize that he was grinding his teeth not just at night, but all day long. We now knew why this was happening.Using a technique where he imagined the past traumatic incidents in a light trance state, we were able to desensitize him from the emotional charge of these negative events in his life. We then reframed the experiences so that he could understand how much he was able to learn about taking control of his life and doing what it takes to get through any adversity, while reclaiming his life, for all these things had happened 50 years ago and had no practical effect on his current life.A few years after the treatment, which lasted all of 5 hours, he is still not grinding his teeth any longer.If you have a known problem of grinding your teeth, I suggest you find yourself a competent hypnotist and NLP practitioner to assist you, for this is a very easy situation to get under control with the correct professional intervention. Incidentally, with any habit, once you discover and understand the triggers, it becomes much easier to let it go.

With the holiday season is over, I was wondering if any of you had some negative emotions that may be eating away at you. It seems that many people have some feelings of anger, sadness, fear, quilt or anxiety that may be getting in their way. Sometimes these feelings are on the surface where individuals know that life may not feel as good as it could. In other cases the emotions are so suppressed that physical discomfort, and even in some cases physical illness is experienced.

Sometimes a very innocent comment made when a person is very young may be translated into that person’s life to mean that s/he will never be successful. Or perhaps maybe s/he feel that the love of her/his life may never come. Continue »

It seems in today’s world that there is an awful lot of anger out there. People are rather short tempered while driving. At the grocery store it seems that parents are unable to control their little ones, or if they do it is usually through yelling at them. I have noticed as I go to the different stores in the area that all too often patrons are arguing with the help.We live in a world of plenty, but yet it seems that our leaders would like us to be constantly uptight, mostly about what could happen if we let down our defenses. All you hear on the news is how the United States is not respected in the world anymore, or worse that other countries are out there to destroy us. Continue »