Volume 442, Feb. 22, 2018 – What Could I Thank My Ex For?
The best thing my ex taught me was self-respect. I don’t want to be married to someone who doesn’t want to be married to me. Stated another way: I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. This was the most important gift from our separation and divorce.
Second important learning: Forgiveness was possible quicker then I thought possible – from the demise of our marriage. I was married for over 20 years and it only took two years to completely forgive him and myself and move on.
Third important learning: go after your purpose, take the time to figure it out – to have an occupation that feeds your soul – that was the most important gift he gave me from our marriage. He really wanted me to find my purpose and create a career around that as he did. My ex went back to get his GED when he was 25 years old after dropping out of high school at age 16. He knew at the age of 25 that he wanted to study fine art photography and paid his way through school in order to achieve that goal. He is working in photography today and loves photography and filmmaking to this day.
Fourth learning: I certainly played a part in the reason for his wanting to move on. I took many training trips to learn the craft of hypnosis and NLP, and he never let me know that this bothered him till after he asked for the divorce. This is a key learning for you: If your partner is doing something that is bothering you, let them know in a kind way, and then tell them what they could do that wouldn’t be so problematic. So, I took the responsibility for my part in it, even though I would have handled the ending the relationship different than he.
Fifth learning from the divorce: I learned what I needed to from our marriage, so it was time to move on anyway. We get into relationships because we have things to teach one another. Once that learning is done, it is time to move onto another relationship where there is more to learn.
It’s important to take the painful experiences that we go through, and get the learnings that are to be had. The more pain, the deeper the learnings we will receive. Once we receive those learnings, we never need to create the same negative results we had before. This is called true “growth.”
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About Suzanne
Suzanne Kellner-Zinck founded Dawning Visions Hypnosis in 2002, She has become an innovator in the use of hypnotism and neuro-linguistic programming in the areas of obsessive compulsive disorders such as: eating disorders, sexual addiction and substance abuse as well as working with those with anxiety and mood disorders.
Her clients have come to work with her from across the United States and as far away as Africa to help them to finally be freed from these emotional issues that once ruled their lives. Today she is in the process of bringing her work to many more in the form of ebooks and other downloadable formats.
She is a member of American Holistic Medical Association and the American College for Advancement in Medicine.
Prior to founding Dawning Visions Hypnosis, Kellner-Zinck worked within vendor programs for the mentally ill working to help them to live up to their fullest potential. Many of her previous clients were able to move out on their own and find fulfilling work.
Kellner-Zinck is a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic programing through Tad James Company, Inc. and a Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming through Advanced Neuro Dynamics. She holds a bachelor’s degree in education and political studies from Curry College.
Dawning Visions Hypnosis is teaching people that they can indeed leave their unwanted behaviors behind as they move forward to living fulfilling and joy filled lives.