Sep 18 2017

204:Learnings From My Mother’s Passing

Recently, Suzanne Kellner-Zinck’s mother passed away. Here, she shares what she learned from the experience.
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Sep 14 2017

Dealing with The Loss of My Mother

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Dealing with The Loss of My Mother – Vol. 421, Sept. 14, 2017

We were called in by the nurse at my mother’s nursing home to be close to my mother as it seemed her life was at its end. We knew that this was coming, having been to the funeral home just two days before to sign the contract for her cremation, which was her request.

Apparently, my mother had stopped eating for all practical purposes, having dropped 40 pounds, becoming very weak as a result. She was wheelchair bound due to a broken hip and never regaining her ability to walk. That was back in January, a month before her 84th birthday.

Surrounded by her youngest three grown daughters and the spouses of the youngest two, as she lay unresponsive, barely breathing the guitar being played as songs of her favorite Western and folk singers were sung by her fourth daughter and her husband.

I sat by my mom holding her hand, with my youngest sister stroking mom’s hair, as I texted my older sister who was in Florida, unable to be present for her own reasons.

Though I have been working in healthcare for the past 34 years, spending 6 of those years working in elder care, I had never been present as a person passes away. I had very mixed feelings about the whole situation, given that I was in a place I didn’t really want to be, yet, knew that I needed to be there, to know that I had done what was necessary both for myself and for my family.

Being a hypnotist and studying the unconscious mind, I am well aware that people who are anesthetized for surgery do sometimes hear what the surgical team are saying and I also know that the emotions are the last to leave. So, all this loving activity made for a particularly healing environment for my mother’s passing.

When I was very young, I had a very close relationship with my mother. She is the person who made sure that I received all the extra help I needed from: speech therapy when I never developed speech as most kids do, to helping me learn to read, write papers and making sure that I got my wish to attend college, against my father’s better judgment given my poor grades in high school. I did my mother proud doing extremely well in college. However, after my college years, my relationship with my mother was never to be the same. I could go as far as to say that one of the reasons I moved to California was to not have to deal with her needs any longer. This, because they had sidetracked my career more than once. And yet, as my youngest sister pointed out through a phone call to my mother, there had been a large change in my mother’s emotional stability for the better. She was a kinder and more caring person. Based on the loving actions and words of everyone at the nursing home, a place that was her home for the last 7 years of her life, I learned that her smile and appreciation for whatever was done on her behalf was always acknowledged. These people with whom she lived and did activities truly loved her spirit, continually saying how special she was and that they will miss her terribly. One woman was even on her phone with her mother as my youngest sister and I were on the way out of the nursing home for the last time, telling her mother that her best friend had just passed away. Apparently, this woman helped mom with her Bingo playing and crafts when she was too tired and falling asleep in her wheelchair to take part on her own.

As we go through life, our relationships with those who are our biological family may change. Sometimes we may feel super close as when my mom and I shared banana splits at Friendly’s while my youngest sister was at her flute lessons. And, then when the child grows up and no longer fits the idea the mother still holds, sometimes tensions arise. Yet, in the end, though I did not think that I would ever see my mother again, it so happened I was returning to Massachusetts to work with some clients that had wanted me to work with them in person. along a couple of new clients, that were referred to me.
It was on my way out to Massachusetts that I saw the email that stated that the nurse at the nursing home wanted to put mom under hospice care, to allow her some services she could not receive otherwise. Little did we know that two weeks later she would have decompensated to the point of her death.

I am glad that I was here for the last ten days of her life, doing what I know how to do with the medical and psychological background that I process. And, I am even more grateful that I was able to tell her the new area of specialization that I am getting into, pediatric oncology, dedicating that part of my practice to my brother’s death. A brother I really never knew, he passed away right before his 4th birthday from leukemia, while I was all of 2 months old. None the less, having had a non-cancerous brain tumor myself and visualizing it away, knowing the efficacy of helping patients with side-effects and the caregivers need for stress release, I am moving in this direction. It seems to be a natural move. I thanked God that I had the chance to tell my mother this myself, a few days before she passed away.

I wonder what personal business you may have with a parent or someone close to you that you could clear up before you end up losing them. Because the truth of the matter is that I got very lucky really. I hadn’t seen or talked to my mother in 7 years, and yet when the time came to finish our cycle of life, here I was, near enough to see her every day, get her needs taken care of as best I could, and let her know that there will a legacy to be created in honor of her lost son. Miracles can and do happen, so long as we allow them to be understood for the opportunities that they represent.

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Sep 11 2017

203 – Dealing With Another’s Transition

All of us will eventually have to deal with the decline and death of a parent or elderly relative. Suzanne Kellner-Zinck relates her personal journey dealing with her mother’s decline and how she created closure for herself and her mother

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Aug 28 2017

202:How About Furthering Your Education to Live Your Soul’s Journey & Hearts Desire?

We all like to believe that we have a purpose on this planet and oftentimes the best way to achieve that purpose is by becoming the best version of ourselves. Master Hypnotist Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares the next part of her journey with her listeners.

 

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Aug 24 2017

Where Does Your Fat Go, When you Lose Weight?

weight loss photoWhere Does Your Fat Go, When you Lose Weight?, Vol. 420, August 24, 2017

I wonder if you wondered, as I have for many years, what happens to the fat that is lost when a person loses weight. Many people wrongly believe that it is digested and exits your digestive system. However, that is really not the case at all – yes, the food you eat does get digested and the waste products exit your body, however, that isn’t the same thing as explaining where the fat goes.

Danette May at danettemay.com teaches us what really happens to the fat. It is a chemical reaction as are most things in life. She explains in her blog “that you breathe out lost fat.” This is because fat is a combination of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen. When fat is broken down the CO2 (one carbon with 2 oxygen atoms) and water, H2O (two hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom that fat turns into CO2 and water, as urine and sweat.

Now, I know that in the many reports and books I have read over the years, I have been told that exercise is not as important as the food that you eat. Well, that is very curious, because when you exercise, you are breathing out a lot more CO2, so why wouldn’t you exercise for weight loss?

Danette May speaks of a study that was done at the University of New South Wales in Australia, where they found the following:

To oxidize ten kilos (22 lbs) of fat, you need to inhale 29 kilos (64 lbs) of oxygen. This produces 28 kilos (62 lbs) of CO2 and 11 kilos (24 lbs) of water.

Ms. May suggest that you always breathe through your nose, to increase oxygen intake.
Maintain a steady breathing pattern while exercising to make sure your muscles are getting enough oxygen. You don’t want to cramp up, do you? A short burst of aerobic exercise is what she suggests her clients do because more oxygen is used than during anaerobic exercises.

Just keep your body moving and you will be able to release that extra weight.

Now, let’s get on with the release of that extra fat, myself included!

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Aug 21 2017

201:Learnings From Making Dreams Come True

Sometimes getting your dream doesn’t turn out the way you imagined it to be. Master Hypnotist, Suzanne Kellner-Zinck shares her experience of fulfilling her lifelong dream of moving to California.

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Aug 17 2017

Alcohol: Dr. Daniel Amen Says It Kills the Brain’s Function

brain photoAlcohol: Dr. Daniel Amen Says It Kills the Brain’s Function, Vol. 419, August 17, 2017

Given all the hype about the healthy components of red wine, resveratrol in the skin and proanthocyanidin in the seed. These are antioxidants that help protect the body against oxidative stress, which can cause heart disease, Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s. This all sounds great, except that the brain scans the Dr. Amen has been doing over the past couple of decades proves that there is a much greater damage to the function of the brain with only a little bit of alcohol ingested. Even one glass of beer or wine per day reduces the firing of the nerve cells while blocking the energy to the cell’s energy centers. The neurotransmitters of the brain are not as effective as they are, without the use of alcohol. And, if one drinks just one to seven drinks a week, the brain has been shown to shrink. This according to a 2008 study in the Archives of Neurology.

In Amen Clinics article Alcohol is Not a Health Food posted June 15, 2017, Dr. Amen writes of the Lancet publishing a study of 115,000 subjects reporting that alcohol increased the risk of cancer and physical injuries.

We know that alcohol causes fatty liver disease, damages the cerebellum, which helps with coordination and of mood. Vitamin B1 is not absorbed as well, predisposing people to serious cognitive problems, because the prefrontal cortex nerves are not firing in a normal functional manner.

Sugar abuse is also an issue with those who drink a lot of alcohol, stimulating your appetite, even if you feel full. It increases the production of insulin, which can lead to low blood sugar, decreasing your decision-making ability.

I too enjoy a drink every now and then for special occasions, however, I have enough issues with my own brain, so alcohol is not a substance that I choose to ingest on a regular basis. I would rather keep whatever functions I do have as clear of problems as possible. Maybe you feel the same way now that you understand that so many of our bodily functions can be adversely affected even by fairly minor drinking of alcohol.

I tell my clients, that if they feel the need to drink every day or use any substances on a regular basis that alters the way they feel, then perhaps it is time to look deeper into what may be the cause of this self-damaging behavior. Because happy and fulfilled people really can do without any substances that alter their thinking processes. I leave you with the question for yourself, should you be a person that imbibes on a regular basis: Do you really feel the need to have that drink?” If so, it is time to be real with yourself and figure out what is going on in your mind to give you the thought that you need to do something to stop thinking the negative thoughts you no longer want to think, and instead clear the problems associated with the cause of the drinking.

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